I stuck it out through pregnancy even though it hurt like hell when I had no milk. On advice of my midwife, we had scheduled nursing times three times a day (morning, when i got home from work, bed) and I only let him nurse for a minute or two because of the pain. It worked well and nursing was a non issue. He often forgot to ask.
Now with Baby (7 weeks) it doesn't hurt anymore though it feels so creepy that I still can't do it long. We still have our scheduled nursing times, and I still don't nurse him for long - maybe 5 minutes but probably closer to 3. But, either because of the milk or because seeing the baby nurse is a trigger, he pleads to nurse all day long (I never say yes outside our scheduled time) and sometimes fuses and cries when I say our scheduled nursing time is up. Sometimes I think it because I am withholding, so I'll decide to nurse at our scheduled time till he wants to stop, but by minute 7 or 10 he is still sucking away, and I can't take it anymore, so ill say "ok that;s it," and he is just as fussy as when I call stop at 3 minutes.
I'm ready to wean him, but have no idea how and it isn't a good time because of baby and him starting preschool. He's three.
1) does tandem nursing get better?
2) when will he wean if I stick to my plan of letting him self wean?
3) if I decide to wean now or maybe in a few months, how do I do it without rejecting him?
Here's my input.
1) Yes and no. I tandem nursed my kids and it got better. My son had free access to the boob. But then it got worse, he was more demanding and I felt all I did all day long was set down one kid just so I could pick up the other once to nurse. I cut my son down to 2 nursings a day when he was 4 and it helped quite a bit.
2) i don't know when he'll choose to wean. My son wasn't self-weaning so I weaned him in January. He was five. I also weaned my daughter at the same time since I was done done DONE with nursing. She was nearly three. I feel that if I had weaned my son earlier I could have continued nursing my daughter.
3) I don't know. This is one reason I weaned both at the same time, because then it was "fair". I drank teas to dry my milk up, so I talked about how I wasn't making milk anymore because I didn't have little babies. I have no idea how to wean "fairly" when the younger child is still nursing.
Best of luck, I hope you can figure it out.
SAHM to DS BuggaBoo 12/07, and DD Doozer 03/10. Sharing life with The Hubby since 01/05.