I need some support and I'm hoping one of you can help!
I decided to wean my son because I was feeling done and also because my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for a year. I know it is rare for nursing to be the problem, but I felt that I needed to wean for my own peace of mind in the process.
At first, it went well. I was trying to be gradual but he went 3 days without nursing with almost no pushing from me at all. Then he got a cold and wanted to nurse at least once a day, and I let him. Then it petered off again and I pushed a bit more after insistence from a fertility doctor. It has now been 3 weeks since he last nursed. He asks every day, and now he has another cold. I tell him no and I tell him I don't think I have milk left, but that doesn't deter him.
I don't know what to do. If I weren't trying to get pregnant, I would go ahead and nurse him, painful though it might be. My mom and my husband think I am waffling too much and I should just consider it done, but they aren't here when he is whining and begging for a nurse.
During the beginning of this process, most of his requests seemed due to habit or just trying to get my full attention (like when I was cooking) or even stalling from something he didnt want to do, like go to preschool. So I changed up the habits. I said no whenever he asked and we were in the process of doing something else (no more nursing through dinner for me!). But in the past few days, when he asks, I think he really does need it, and it is often at a time when I could easily comply. Except that I think it would hurt and possibly throw off my fertility stuff. And worse, confuse him.
Please don't tell me that it isn't the problem in trying to get pregnant - I'm 39 and I've had some perimenopause symptoms, so I am running out of time and feeling like I need to try everything.
Will he ever stop asking? What am I doing wrong? Help!