This is my first post, so I'm a bit nervous, but excited, too. I'm so glad there is a place for all of us toddler nursers...
I am 14 weeks pregnant with #2, and because of pre-term labor experienced with ds, I have been advised to try to wean my 2 year old before my 24th week. We had been practising don't offer, don't refuse before I got pregnant, and were down to mainly just morning, naptime, and bedtime nursing, with just occasional exceptions. He seemed pretty comfortable with that, so I figured with several months we'd be able to gradually cut back to nothing.
Currently I am trying to eliminate the morning nurse, since he seems to need the other two to get to sleep. We've been making okay progress with skipping most mornings. When he asks, I've distracted with water, or offers of breakfast, promising we'll nurse at naptime. He might fuss for a minute, then will accept it and move on. A couple mornings he has completely fallen apart, and I agreed to nurse for 5 minutes, then we moved on. We're making progress.
I'm dreading moving on to naptime and bedtime, I know it's going to involve some serious tears (probably from both of us.) And I'm afraid we'll lose the nap altogether. Dh has reasonable luck getting him to bed with out nursing (obviously) but unfortunately, he works evenings, and is not home a naptime or bedtime during the week, so I am on my own.
My little guy does not appear to be ready to wean, he's been all out of sorts and clingy since I've started actively discouraging our morning session (even when he passes it up easily, the rest of the day is rocky). He walks around repeating his perception of our coversation: "bed-nurse?" "NO" "bednurse?" "NO", (even though I try hard not to use the word "no" - he see's right through my redirections...) It's breaking my heart. I really wanted to have another baby, and I knew this was going to be an issue, but now I feel horrible about the sacrifice he has to make.
I'd appreciate any advice, experience, etc.
P.S. I do intend to allow him to resume nursing after the baby's born, if he asks.