Yes, thanks Kimmy for the summary and way to go neveryou mindthere, thanks for sharing your story!
My 24mo is down to 3-4 nursings on a good day, I'm pg with #2 and sitting down a little too much on dh's work days. I did get off my lazy butt and make a plate of pb&j sandwiches and a *refreshing* sippy cup of milk, changed dd and that took care of milk request. (she says "mo" and signs 'milk')
I wanted to share something I've been doing WRONG with this whole MLW thing. Nursing to sleep- I get creeped out and roll over, pretend i'm asleep and can't hear dd as her requests escalate from sleepy "mo's" to crying and pounding on my back. I just realized, after a very unpleasant morning when dh was away at work (he works 36 hour shifts at CG station), that this was just undermining dd and my relationship. I'm her mommy that listens so good to her all the time, socommunication-focused that I had her signing by 9mo, and now suddenly i'm deaf and totally incapable of comprehending her most basic requests? Wrong! I was toying with thaty method for a week or two on and off, being really ready to be DONE and not knowing anything better . . . soooo glad I found this thread!!! lots of good ideas . . . i think it will work to make jokes about day nursings, saying how silly, why nurse now when we can do x?
She has had her hands in her mouth a lot lately, but she has always been VERY oral, gnawing on board books etc since she was very small. not sure whether to use that as an indication of how peaceably she's moving toward weaning. (my one really good mommy friend used that as her main indicator when weaning her dd at a little over 24mo. she's the only weanling i've been around)
but will she EVER sleep w/o milk? I don't want to wean her to something else, ie bottle or paci. At least not at this point. DH and I are in an unpleasant holding pattern; we'll know in about 2 weeks whether we'll be able to make a major move. Tough to be consistent in big things when somehting so big is up in the air. I guess I should spend my days loving the status quo: DD okay to sleep in her big girl bed on other side of house. would be nice if I didn't fall asleep there too for most of the night, but this duty rotation at least I didn't backslide and cuddle her into the old family bed while dh was away at work.
celebrating small victories: Last night she woke up in the middle of the night and i told her i was here and she could go back to sleep. She fussed but did it! W/o milk. I just stayed very low key and nonchalant (if a not-wanting-to-nurse-pg-sleepy-mama can feign nonchalance in that situation
she is smart and has a strong sense of herself (projecting??). Arguing/trickery will only make her dig her heels in, ya know?
Visualising myself sitting on a spring that is activated by her approach to my comfy armchair,
PS IMHO this thread is a little too hard to find