I only have a few friends w/ babies, most are younger than mine, and the older toddlers were all weaned around 6-8 mo. One mama friend (with 2 toddlers) was soooooooo impressed that I was still nursing at 9 mo. It was wierd, I didn't know what to say. She was paying me a compliment, but I didn't know how to take it without putting her down, yk? Her dh is a doctor, so it's not like she doesn't know the benefits...
I do wish I had EBFing friends. But at least none of my friends have criticized me for it. If they are thinking anything bad, they aren't saying it, cuz they know I would rip them a new one. But I don't think they're thinking it; I think for the most part they know I am an intelligent person who makes informed decisions, and they respect me.
Two good friends recently weaned their sons (one at 2.75 the other at 4.75). Another good friend is still nursing her son who is 52 months (her DD weaned at 5 years).
Several of the mothers at my DD's "school" are nursing their children who range in age from babies to almost 2. I am quite certain DS is the oldest child who is nursing there (or that the people have *ever* known).
Family--- my nieces and nephews were nursed from zero days to 14 months. But, they are mostly older (the only one younger than DS is actually my sis's step-son).
Other friends--- weaned at or around one year (at the latest).
At this point I don't really need the support to feel "okay" about what I am doing. I am much more confident than when DD was say, 13, 14, 15 months... or even harder 24, 25, 26 months. I do wonder how I will feel when/if DS is still nursing after DD had weaned (50 months) but I have another 9 months to deal with that, lol. The oldest nursling I have known well IRL weaned right at 5 years, so if he goes longer than that I am sure it will be a big time of questioning for me, but that is a LOOOOOONG time away.
When my oldest was young I had a different group of "mainstream" friends. We slowly drifted apart and I think it was mostly due to the fact that my parenting style was much different from most of theirs and my belief that child-led weaning is best for our family made some of them uncomfortable. A few were friends since high school and it was disappointing to lose their friendship, but I think I'm much better off being friendly with them when I run into them but not hanging out with them.
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It is very hard not to have real live people to talk to about nursing todders and tandem nursing. That's why I'm so thankful for internet.
But in our AP playgroup, there are some mamas nursing 3 year olds still. It's fun when we've gone to the museum as a group. You could see one mama nursing a 19 m.o., another mama nursing her 13 m.o. and then her 3 y.o, and another mama nursing her 2 y.o. We're quite a site.
One of the mamas in our playgroup made a comment about Paige's extended bf-ing, saying that she weaned as soon as the ped recommended year was up, because didn't want her daughter to remember it.
Now, I am happy to say that my dh is very supportive. He told the woman that he hoped Paige would remember bf-ing, and how much she enjoyed her special time with mama. I my husband!
That is awesome what your DH said, Hokiemum! I think DD does remember nursing, she self weaned at 17 months, which is fine by me!
Now I am acquainted with 3 mamas "still" nursing, only one isn't an MDC mama.
Thank goodness for my DH and MDC!
I'm the lone ranger, and while I don't get really any push-back from DH or relatives or friends, I don't exactly have "support" either.
I have an acquaintance who's having a baby in Julyish, and I'm really hoping that she might nurse longer than a year, by seeing me do it. She's kind of a dunderhead, though, so she probably won't.
It would be sooo neat to know someone who's like me IRL.
I do plan on going to my first LLL meeting at the end of this month so I'm hoping to meet like-minded Mommies.
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HokiMum- I have nursed *in* Kingsport, when we were eating lunch there while passing thru. I love NIP in places like that, trying to subtly encourage (or shock ) other moms.
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Most of my friends are beyond this age with their kids.
My mom has been really supportive up to this point but if I go past 2 I imagine she'll frown a bit, we'll see.
Otherwise, I'm with BooBerry, I'm comfortable with my decision but it'd be awful nice to have a RL friend to talk to............
Sadly I actually know no one that nurses period. Or cloth diapers for the matter. One of my best friends couldnt get her baby to latch so she pumped for 9 months and that was it. My MOm nursed me till 9 months. I plan on letting my DC self wean though and I dont really care what everyone says(everyone has their comments)
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My sister nursed her DD until she was 18 months old (kicking and screaming most of the way from 1 year on but she did it).
My local LLL isn't the place to find support. I found most of my new mommy friends by joining an eclectic (secular) homeschool support group when my oldest was about 18 months old. seems strange perhaps, but I've always known I would homeschool/unschool my children, and I wanted her to have friends who weren't going to start kindergarten in a few years. And imagine my suprise, when one of the moms was nursing her baby, finished up, and her four year old climbed in her lap for a snack, too! I knew right then and there that group was for me.
I also know a couple moms from church who have extended nursed, but most of their kids were weaned by 2 1/2 or so. Our previous youth pastor's wife was nursing a 4 yr old, though.
I have only a couple patients in my practice who nursed into toddlerhood, unfortuntately. My favorite story was a little boy who just weaned while his mom was pregnant at just shy of 3. He was one of the first newborns I saw in private practice and his mom was very discouraged and ready to quit due to jaundice and a sleepy baby. We made a plan to get him nursing more frequently, weighed him frequently for a while, and he did great! It was wonderful to see him over the next 3 years and feel good about helping him get going!
I just joined LLL when my last baby was born, and kicked myself for not seeking out such great IRL support when my other babes were little. It's wonderful to go somewhere where I can nurse without thinking about it, vent about it if I need to, and not get horrified "Why isn't she weaned?" comments!
LIly and Judy age 2
nursing toddler best friends!