first i just want to say that you ladies have really inspired me--by reading posts in the breastfeeding forum i've decided that i really want to continue breastfeeding past 12 months. (DD is currently 6 months old) but if you would have asked me a year ago, i would have said i would wean for sure at 12 months. right now, however, i'm worried that dd will self-wean by then! i feel like we've got a rocky nursing relationship, and i fear that i'm not doing the right things. if anyone has time, could you please read my story--any advice/support would be greatly appreciated!
first off, we dont co-sleep--unlike many here. and at this point i'm not sure it would even work. i've never nursed lying down--i just cant figure it out--and she sleeps just fine in her crib. of course, i never have and never will let her cry it out--i always go to her when she wakes and nurse her.
she nurses wonderfully during the night (usually), but its during the day that i'm having problems. basically, she wont nurse unless shes asleep--nursing does not settle her down like it used to. to get her to eat, i need to rock her to sleep with her pacifier, then switch to the real thing. this used to only happen occasionally (started about 8 weeks ago), but now its almost every nursing session. if i dont do this, she will go 4-6+ hours without eating during the day. i offer the breast often, and sometimes she'll eat for 2 minutes but then just keeps bobbing off until she refuses entirely. if i give her the pacifier at this time, she goes to sleep no problem. its not like the breast makes her cry--she just wont latch on, would rather play. it seems like a distratiblity thing, but i dont know if i should stop "tricking" her into eating or what.
i took her to the dr, and her weight gain is fine, and she doesnt have ear infections. she recently got some eczema and i've eliminated dairy from my diet to see if thats causing the problems.
we havent started solids--she's not interested. she gets EBM in a bottle from my husband twice a week while i'm at work. she's been taking the bottle with no problems since she was a month old. we also started giving the pacifier at that age because she wanted to suck but was getting frustrated by the milk.
so thats whats going on. i'm so worried that i'm going to fail at breastfeeding...and i really want to continue past 12 months. am i doing the wrong things? is she just in a phase? TIA for any advice!!