Is anyone else trying the Dr. Jay Gordon method to night wean? Or has anyone else tried it before?
I have been reading many posts from other moms who are in the same boat as I am. I have an 18 month old ALL-NIGHT-nurser. I can't take it anymore. Someone recently posted a link to Dr. Jay Gordon's method for night-weaning. Here's the link again:http://www.drjaygordon.com/development/ap/sleep.asp
I have been doing this method for two nights. The first night my son cried for 2 hours while I held him, rocked him, sang to him, and eventually nursed him a little to put him down while he was drowsy. He would wake up immediately and cry and we would go back to the same routine.
Then last night, (the second night) he cried for FOUR HOURS! It was a nightmare. It's also a nightmare to nurse all night, so I am not stopping this plan. I just don't get how letting them nurse briefly for the first three nights is productive, since they are learning that if you cry for long enough, you can nurse. I did that for two nights, it is recommended to do it for 3 nights, but I will not do that again tonight as I think it sends the wrong message.
I have questions about this method:
How does it make sense to the toddler that in the morning they can nurse after they have been crying all night and you have refused to let them nurse?
If they have been crying for hours, and then the 7 hours is up and you let them nurse, how is that teaching them anything?
Is this doing psychological or emotional damage to the child?
Will it affect our relationship negatively?
We all just need to get some sleep and I am trying my best. If you have any experience with this, especially with a VERY SENSITIVE child who HAS NEVER PUT HIMSELF TO SLEEP, I welcome your sharing.