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View Poll Results: What age do you quit NIP?
I never nursed in public 1 0.74%
6 monthes or less 3 2.22%
1 year or less 11 8.15%
18 monthes or less 24 17.78%
2 years or less 26 19.26%
I stopped NIP when dc weaned! 70 51.85%
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#1 of 92 Old 04-03-2007, 03:43 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Hi,

I'm wondering what ages most people stop NIP? Personally, I only felt comfortable doing it until around 18monthes. It seemed like they could understand waiting until we got to the car or home at that age, unless of course they got hurt - in which case I nursed immediatly. I look forward to seeing the results!
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I niped ds until he weaned at 2yr 9 mo.

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Sorry can't vote cos still nursing, but at 18 months now I'm starting to feel less happy about NIP. Depends where I am. Thought I would always be cool with it but suprisingly am not.
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I NIP as long as DD asked for it. She asked well over 2. I NIP at Pikes Market in Seattle when she was almost 3 and that is the last time I really remember how old she was because she had fallen flat on her head. She didn't wean until she was 3.5 and she stopped asking in public before then. So somewhere between 2.75 and 3.5. I didn't vote.
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I stopped nursing in public probably around nine months, when my kids were taking enough solids that I could give them a snack if they were hungry and put off nursing until we were home.
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DS is 17 months and we still NIP all the time. I'm still perfectly comfortable with it and can't imagine that changing soon.

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DD is 3 and we still nip, so I couldn't answer the poll.

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I couldn't answer the poll. My dd is 22 months and I still feel comfortable NIP. I think I stopped with ds when he was around 2 but I am much more comfortable the longer I'm nursing so I imagine I will nurse dd in public for quite a while longer.

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Also couldn't answer the poll

DD is nearly 4 and we still NIP. It's not requested very often, but I don't refuse when it's requested.
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I know why I stopped. Why do you all continue, if you don't mind my asking?
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DS is 14 months and I feel a bit less comfortable NIP, not because of his age but because he's so squirmy now that it's much harder to maintain any modicum of modesty. That having been said, I NIP a couple of days ago and didn't think twice about it.
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I couldn't answer the poll either. I don't think we NIP'd much past three, but I do remember tandeming on public transportation and my kids are two years and nine months apart.
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I know why I stopped. Why do you all continue, if you don't mind my asking?
I had no reason to stop.

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My DD is 12 months & we still NIP happily. Today I NIPPED on a dolphin tour, the movies, the mall, several times at WalFart, and while pumping gas! (THAT was tricky but she was going ballistic... )

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I still nurse dd just over two now in public.Sometimes I ask if she can wait if she asks if we are in transit from one place to another..ie..or if we happen to be in an environment where I'm feeling to nurse her then would feel more stressfull not soothing etc..ie.leaving Mil house who's " amused" w/our relationship ..I ask her to wait until we reach the car!!! LOL a better place for us to reconnect in that circumstance.However we generally don't nurse in the car anymore we did that more often first six months.
As the weather is getting nicer now and we will be going on more extended outings I expect to honor her requests to nurse .We are pretty good at finding places to comfortabley nurse when in public. I usually will have checked out the "lay of the land" before we ventured out .I can't imagine denying her request to nurse just because we were in public though.
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I know why I stopped. Why do you all continue, if you don't mind my asking?
I have no reason to stop either. There were some squirmy stages and that was sometimes hard, but squirming is just hard. period. Now that she's older she's not so squirmy. She's simply a total boob girl. No way could I cut her off. Neither do I want to hide/shame something that's so natuaral and good for her.

As much as she loves it, nursing will come to an end for us at some point. Until then, it's one of the most compassionate and primal connections that I have with her. I treasure it.
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Unfortunately, me and DS go out with a friend and her kids often, and she's trying to keep BFing her oldest (my DS's age) to a minimum so I don't feel like I can BF my DS around them anymore. It makes her DD want to BF too.
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I still feel comfy NIP and DS is 25 months. It's not often that it happens though and depending on where we are and what is going on I will usually try to distract him (like if we are in line at the PO and in a hurry)

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Probably somewhere between 12 and 18 months, when DS got into nipple-twiddling and boob switching, and could understand waiting to nurse. I don't mind it personally, but his usual nursing position is holding my entire shirt up, playing with one nipple while he nurses the other, and frequently coming off the breast. Not the best posterboy for NIP.

There have been a few times that he needed to nurse while we were out, I usually just tried to turn my back on the public or go to a less-crowded area. I'm not ashamed of NIP, but since DS isn't 'discreet' like he was as a baby, I don't want to give BF-ers a bad rap.
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I don't replace nursing sessions with snacks.

What sort of thing doesn't help what?

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We still NIP at 19 months

Shakti A.- It hink it is important that a child is allowed to be nurtured in whatever way s/he needs. DD often needs to NURSE, not snacks. I try to give her snacks if she's just hungry for something to eat, but she loves to nurse and it helps her feel more comfortable in new situations. She'll yell "NURSE!" and tug at my shirt, but I don't mind. I'd rather know what she needs than deal with a "tantrum" I think it is important for people to nurse their children freely so people know it is normal and healthy, not shameful.
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we still NIP at 17 mo.

i'm discreet, ds' head is covered, but it's pretty obvious what's going on since ds is at 90 degrees to me and ds has happy feet when he nurses.

honestly, i'm so tired from working and trying to do everything, that if someone was offended and said something, they'd either get a sarcastic sharp tongued quick witted reply that i am very capable of, said in a innocent tone, or else the stare right through you/ you're opinion is worthless to me look.

i'll stop NIP when either
1. ds wants to stop
2. Americans are outlawed from stuffing their faces in public ( with transfat bloated burgers, 22oz sodas, foods produced on the labor of virtual slave farms, or the cheap products of cheap oil contained in land fill filling waste products.)

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DS is still nursing at 27 months. We'll NIP sometimes, but usually he doesn't ask, or we're not out long enough for it to be an issue.

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Other. He generally stopped wanting to nurse in public around 2, 2.5. He didn't wean until he was 4.

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I think I started trying to distract ds around 15-16 mos when he became a master gymast, and terribly fond of playing peek-a-boo with my shirt-- hiding MY face with it, not his! But if a snack or toy wouldn't distract him, on the boob he went, I wouldn't flat out deny him!

I'd a million times rather see a flash or 2 of boob from a bf mom/toddler than listen to a kid tantrumming and screaming. Or worse..
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I stopped NIP when dc weaned!
Caitlin is 21mths and still breastfeeds whenever or wherever we are.

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I believe I stopped NIP around two. DD was easily distracted and would look around. Among people I know, I didn't stop nursing around them until dd weaned at three.

She didn't really eat much solid food until she was well over a year, so snacks wouldn't have been useful.

IMO, it is different for everyone, I do not believe there is a set "right age." Every child is different and every situation is different.

I do not believe there should be standards set based on comfort levels.

Different children have different needs and those should be considered FIRST before someone else's hang ups.

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Ds is two and we still NIP.

That said, he rarely asks to nurse if we our out, and it's often when we're in a good place to do it, like at play group, or at our park. But honestly, I can't imagine a situation where I'd say no to him if he needed it, unless it was too cold and we were outside or something. Even still...

When I was visiting my mom in Florida, I was more self-conscious about it because of her and an older relative's discomfort with it (or my idea of their discomfort). I didn't like that, but I just dealt with it.
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Hmmm... missing a lot of options there!
My son stopped NIP around 3.5 but he still does occasionally at 4 if he gets hurt really badly.
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I guess that while I've nursed two toddlers, and understand that it is a source of comfort and closeness, I don't believe that either of them has ever had an urgent need to nurse after around nine months old or so. If they were urgently hungry, they could eat; if they were in urgent need of comfort, they could be cuddled; if they really wanted to nurse, they could wait a little.

I feel like there's an implication that by not NtoddlersIP I was denying my children nurture, comfort, or sustenance. I was not!
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