My mother told me after my last child that I shouldn't have any more children until I can keep up with the mess I've got now (too much stuff that causes CHAOS -- flylady acronym Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome).
My thought was yeah, right. If I thought that, I'd never have anymore children, ever; b/c there would never be a time when I could keep up with the mess I've got while I'm still young enough to have children!!!! (It wasn't like my mother kept a perfect house, we had a maid for crying out loud who did the laundry, dishes, floors, bathrooms. My mother could have taken that time she would have spent doing those things to organize her own 'stuff', but she didn't, I think she slept a lot. As in too depressed to do anything b/c of being overwhelmed by stuff.)
Anyway, it's cyclical. My dh doesn't like stuff everywhere. He would love for nothing to be on the kitchen counters (not a toaster, not a spice twirly, nothing). I noticed somthing though, my grandmother kept a toater oven, a toaster, her mixer, and her glass jars with flour etc on the counters. My great-aunt has her counters full and her pantry full (just like I do). My mother also has stuff on the counters. How can I break such a deep and long cycle that spands generations on several sides of the family???
I think my own procrastination is b/c I let things go b/c I just cleaned and then it gets worse and I feel too overwhelmed by the task at hand and just keep thinking about how to do it rather than just digging in and doing it. I get my moments though, I've been working on fixing this part of my life for about a year.
And admitting the problem is 1/2 th battle right?
I did clean up from dinner last night before I went to bed. I didn't get to the toys, but the dishwasher is full of clean dishes and the sink, stove, counters and table were cleared of any dirty mess from dinner!!! YEAH for me...
I've heard of woman filling in sticker charts just like the kids for accomplishments and it worked for them. I don't even have a sticker chart for my kids... Soon, very soon, I need to do that for them.