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View Poll Results: How many hours of physical work does it take you PER DAY to maintain your household?
8+/day 5 8.20%
3-6/day 20 32.79%
1-2/day 30 49.18%
<1 hour/day 6 9.84%
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#1 of 21 Old 05-19-2008, 10:08 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Trying to determine the "rules" to running a household. Somehow, that life lesson escaped me, and I am dying to teach it to my kids.

So, thanks for helping me out!
PS-feel free to throw in what size your house is, or how many kids you have, or other interesting facts.


My house is 1000 sq ft and I have 3 kids, 5, 2, 5 mo.
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I have five kids (ages 13 months to 10 1/2 years) learning at home, so our house is constantly going. We have about 1,600 sq ft.

I guessed about 3-6 hours. Of course, its broken up throughout the day, and not everything gets done at the end of the day.
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I was torn between 1-2 hours and 3-6 hours. I went with 1-2. I think that's probably what I do daily, but I have spurts where I'll get really motivated and I'll spend a bunch of hours over a few days organizing, decluttering, or big cleaning.
I have 1 kid, and I think the house is close to 1500 sq ft.

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I'd say 1-2 hours. The house is 2500 square feet and we have 2 children (both in full-time school- ages 7 & 8).

I spend that time prepping/cooking, baking, every day cleaning, decorating, deep cleaning, sewing, etc.

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I voted 1-2 hours, but I'm not counting cooking.

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Somehow, that life lesson escaped me, and I am dying to teach it to my kids.
I totally understand. I'm a tidy person by nature, but we grew up with a maid service when I was a kid, so the nuts and bolts of how to keep my home looking beautiful without a huge time investment took me a while to figure out.

I think habits -- the kind that become second nature -- are the most important aspect. I've done the "be super-disciplined and have a cleaning schedule" approach, and that works. But the flow of my day feels much more relaxed if I do a tiny -- tiny! -- bit of tidying as we move around the house.

I have quite a spacious house (6 BR), with two little home-learners and a new baby. It probably helps that I'm a big multitasker. I can't just sit and stare into a saucepan as something simmers; I get bored. So the kitchen gets cleaned as we go, rinsing and wiping while things simmer. My daughters empty the dishwasher (dishes live in the lower cupboards to make it easier for them), clear the table, load the dishwasher, etc., while I wash pots or water the windowsill herbs or wait for something to rise, or all three simultaneously. As we sing! LOL. We have a fun kitchen. In the evenings my husband and I tag-team dinner, so I'll clean as he cooks, and we talk about our day.

The tiny bits of stuff as you follow the normal flow of your day, that's the biggest thing for me. I'll absentmindedly pluck misplaced things up as we move from room to room. My MIL has a great phrase, "never waste a trip!" Or like the vacuum: I adore my vacuum (this makes a difference, LOL!) and I'll grab it as I go up or down the stairs during the day, depositing it on the different floors, and then as we're hanging out in a room later on, I'll take a couple minutes to run it. It's literally a three-minute investment while I'm in a room I'd be in already. That kind of cleaning melts into the day and becomes effortless, or at least it feels like it.

Let's see, what else? All those Flylady hints: wipe down bathrooms after showers, sort mail before putting it down, etc. It sounds like effort when I write it down, but you don't even notice. The kidlets and I have a playtime and organizing session where we all clean up the day's messes together, making up silly operas and singing to each other as we toss things around. I move laundry whenever I pass the laundry room (and fold it right out of the dryer into a basket... and then pick the basket up because it will take 10 seconds to get it into the right room, and then put the clothes away because it will take 10 seconds to do that, and then take the basket back to the laundry room and keep doing what I was doing two minutes earlier, and suddenly all the laundry is magically done; you see how it works?). If my daughters are bored, I hand them the feather dusters and they do the Feather Fairy Ballet (don't ask, LOL). We'll head outside for some nature time, and I pull weeds and plunk bulbs and seeds into the ground for fifteen minutes, and then spread out a quilt and play with my baby. The work disappears into the day.

Eek, I wrote a book! LOL. I wish everybody could have house peace. We all deserve to love our homes. If I can pass on any area of household-running discipline to my daughters, it would be this one. To get into the habit of invisibly doing things, of maintaining without even thinking about it.

I like to live in an environment where play and education and daily tasks and raising children, and enjoying food and family time and quiet time, and being productive and enjoying the moment and doing "meaningful work" together with my little ones are all intertwined, a part of life. I want my daughters to grow up with these kinds of habits so that their own homes will be a haven for them, and so that they'll have more time to spend with their babies, too.

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Yeah, it's something I never got. I saw my OCD mom spending 8-10 hours a day cleaning because she was driven to do it and it scared me, so when I was on my own, I did none. I voted 1-2. When I get things organized and have a place for everything, that's about how long it takes to do the cleaning. I may have a couple of days a week where there is more but if I keep on top of things, it usually doesn't take much longer than that
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I voted 8+. I have 4 kids, 4, 2, and 2 month old twins. 3 adults, my mom is here now, then there will be a babysitter at least part-time. My house is 3,000 sq feet. I counted cooking.

*at least 2 loads of laundry, sorted, washed, dried and put away -1 hour
*at least one dishwasher load, loaded, unloaded and put away - 30 minutes
*at least 2 hand wash loads, washed, dried, put away - 30 minutes
*picking up toys, 3 times/day - 45 minutes
*wiping down tables and kitchen counters, 3 times/day - 30 minutes
*running sweeper in one area/day - 15 minutes
*cleaning one big area/day - 1 hour (like bedrooms, living room, bathrooms, etc.)
*one big chore/day - 1.5 hours (baking extra, big laundry day, weeding, clean out van, weekly veggie prep, clean out fridge, make meal plan, etc.)
*cooking meals - 1.5 hours
*random cleaning up kid oopsies - 30 minutes

That is a total of 8 hours already. Not counting nursing twins, getting kids dressed, bathing, errands. Just keeping the minimum going.
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1-2 not counting cooking (my partner does most of the cooking)
That's mostly washing dishes and sweeping (3-4x/day each), picking up after the children (and man), and laundry. I scrub the tub about every other time I shower, change the cat litter and scrub the toilet 1-2x/week, and spot clean the walls and windows as needed.
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I voted 8+. I have 4 kids, 4, 2, and 2 month old twins. 3 adults, my mom is here now, then there will be a babysitter at least part-time. My house is 3,000 sq feet. I counted cooking.

*at least 2 loads of laundry, sorted, washed, dried and put away -1 hour
*at least one dishwasher load, loaded, unloaded and put away - 30 minutes
*at least 2 hand wash loads, washed, dried, put away - 30 minutes
*picking up toys, 3 times/day - 45 minutes
*wiping down tables and kitchen counters, 3 times/day - 30 minutes
*running sweeper in one area/day - 15 minutes
*cleaning one big area/day - 1 hour (like bedrooms, living room, bathrooms, etc.)
*one big chore/day - 1.5 hours (baking extra, big laundry day, weeding, clean out van, weekly veggie prep, clean out fridge, make meal plan, etc.)
*cooking meals - 1.5 hours
*random cleaning up kid oopsies - 30 minutes

That is a total of 8 hours already. Not counting nursing twins, getting kids dressed, bathing, errands. Just keeping the minimum going.


you're right.






You know what I think? I think I was not cut out for this "taking care of the house" crap.

Which is why dh and I are moving the family onto a sailboat in 2 years.
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For me it's definitely in the 3-6 category depending on the daily chores and how well I've managed daily upkeep (not very well at the moment but I'm blaming the baby!). I have a toddler and a newborn, 2 pets and a husband who really, truly doesn't see when things are out of place. Our space is small (1200 sq ft) but there's a lot of clutter still. When you count cooking 3 meals a day and the dishes that creates that's probably 2 hours right there. Really, it sounds more overwhelming than it is. The trick is finding a system that works for you and your family and forgetting what the rest of the world thinks!

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I put 3-6.. Probably around 5 hours if I don't count baths, errands, taking out the trash, that type of stuff..

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Oh I need to change my vote, I put 3-6, just cleaning up the house, laundry and cooking, 8+ if you include keeping the girls occupied and fed, taking after the animals, plus the odd projects we always have going around the house. I spent two hours today working on cleaning out the garage, two hours the day before working on the new chicken coop and cleaning the backyard. I still need to finish both plus finish staining and sanding the doors and trim.
then finish painting the house. Start on the outside of the house..... I wish I hadn't opened this thread. Now all I can think about is the stuff I didn't get done today...

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I live in a 950 sq. ft. apartment, 3 bedrooms 1 bath, with 4 kids ages 9, 4, 2 and 1, myself and DH. I voted 3-6 but really that only counts the actual cleaning. I spend about 3 hours a day homeschooling my two older children, at least a few hours a day nursing, at least an hour changing clothes and/or diapers, an hour for baths, an hour for bedtime and then there's the time I spend budgeting, balancing the checkbook, paying bills, grocery shopping, preparing meals, gardening, etc.

I work much harder and longer being a SAHM than I ever did when I WOHM but this is much more fulfilling.
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I voted 8+ but only because there was no 6-8 option. I think I spend about 6-7 hours/day just on basic home & garden maintenance.

ok, just for fun.... let's see.....


Gardening - 1 hour
Grocery shopping - 1.5 hours
Laundry - 1 hour
Cleaning - 45 min.
Tidying - 1 hour
Meal Prep / Cooking - 45 min.
Dishes - 30 min.
Errands - 30 min.
Maintenance - 15 min.


So on a totally normal day, about 7.25 hours... and this is just maintaining, just the day-to-day stuff, not doing anything major. If we are preparing for guests, doing major cleaning or spring planting, preparing for the holidays, having a party, etc., then it's A LOT more.
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I have 2000+ square foot home, 3 kids and a dog.

i spend 4-6 hours a day. I hang laundry on the line and do dishes by hand and try to cook from scratch. I also garden in the summers. I do all the house work as well as yard work. of course some days i completely blow it all off . . . .

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I just realized I didn't count a lot of what you guys did for what you do in a day as work. I guess some things just don't feel like work.
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I just realized I didn't count a lot of what you guys did for what you do in a day as work. I guess some things just don't feel like work.
Your post made me go back and check. I forgot cooking & meal prep. Another almost hour!
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Most def. 8+

Somedays just the cooking/bill paying alone takes alot of time. Then there is schooling, cleaning, laundry, gardening/processing the harvest, taking care of our chickens, meat rabbits, and guineas, nursing, etc.....

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Grocery shopping - 1.5 hours
I'm really glad I don't have to spend 1 1/2 hrs grocery shopping every day
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I voted 1-2. I didn't count any childrearing or family-feeding in that number. I limited it to strictly house cleaning/keeping activities. That's an average, sometimes more, sometimes less!

We have 590 square feet and there's DH, DD and I.

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