Join Date: Jun 2007
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DS 7 ~ DS 3
DH went over the top this year for Mother's Day. We have a tradition of doing a lot of planting Mother's Day weekend, and he let me go to the nursery and pick out a couple of perennials and has promised me a new planting bed and a mulch delivery: In addition, he got me a Pandora starter bracelet, which I feel completely guilty about...he got me one charm from ea. girl (3 total) that they helped pick out...but he also got a couple of spacers. I feel a little nauseous about this, because I know he spent too much. This was supposed to be a gift after the birth of our last dd in Sept, but we kept putting it off bcs our finances have been tight. But he's been working for two months now, we've paid off two of our ccs, and he really wanted to "spoil" me. I can't help but feel like it's too much. I appreciate the gesture, I do. But the gardening extravaganza was already a lot. And then the bracelet?? Am I taking it too far, feeling like this? That's money that could have gone to the next cc...
And a friend is visiting from CA. She visits quite often and I told her, "Please, NO GIFTS this time!!" She's made comments about how she's broke in the past, and she already spent a couple hundred bucks to fly out here. She brought me a lipgloss, which I love, but feel bad she's spending money on me. And then today she gave me a pair of Lulu Lemon exercise pants! Do you know how much those run?? I didn't want to accept them, I feel uncomfortable accepting them...but what could I have done?
And then the topping on the cake...Mother's Day means brunch. We spent the weekend with my mom and my brother that lives close by. For some reason, my dh had to make the reservations. The place that my brother told him to call was $40/head and $30/head for kids. : When dh hung up, I said, "I want to opt out of brunch. I'm not going. We can't afford it, especially after everything else..." So I called my brother and told him I was going to make mom breakfast at home, that DH had already given me a wonderful Mother's Day, and that we really couldn't afford to participate in brunch. Well, my brother made OTHER reservations at his private dinner club and insisted we join them. (believe me, we tried to get out of it)He ended up paying for 6 of us. It makes me feel BAD
Texmati-- Knitter, Hindu, vegetarian, WOHM. Wife to superdad and mom to DS 24 months, and DD 8 months! .
Glenn 11*09 Joe 4*04 Me & Hubby
I did that to my mother this year I made her happy but feel uneasy. I never ever buy her anything expensive and this year I did. I bought her pearl earrings (NO FLAMES PLEASE!!) she has wanted real pearl earrings forever she would buy cheap fake ones that looked fake and I said I will use all my money and get them for her she loves them wears them everyday proudly says my daughter bought them for me. But the first thing she said is why did you buy me something so expensive?? I just said because i love you and never been able to buy you something nice!
It took her about a day to really not feel bad. I think once you go frugal it is hard to look back
enjoy your bracelet mama you deserve it just like my mama does