I am hoping someone can help me brainstorm. Cuz I’m plum out of ideas.
We are in bad trouble and I’m scared and desperate. Here’s the deal….DH is late 30’s. He had a hard childhood, and he has no formal education beyond high school. But he worked HARD and built himself up. He is smart. Started doing AutoCad and (like moving on a chess board, taking jobs with more responsibility each time) ended up as a Director of I.T. making 6 figures. He was very competent and had many companies contacting him with job offers. 2.5 years ago his industry collapsed, and the company went bankrupt. Now, for 2 years he has not had a job.
We lost our home. I’ve taken a job, but I just can’t make much $ (admin). He is really smart, but he doesn’t have formal education. Also, since he was a Director, he wasn’t doing the hands-on computer programming for many years, so he’s way out of the loop on certifications. The jobs out there are ridiculous…they are asking for people to be certified up the bum, yet they are offering $35,000. It is totally crazy, and there is NO way he can compete. Even if he went back to school to get his certifications (which would cost thousands of $, which we don’t have), he’d be competing with a ton of other people for crappy wages. It is so discouraging.
We are renting now (small place), but we ended up being upside-down on our mortgage for our house, so we owe $40,000 on that. I can’t support us on my wages, so we’re using some of our (meager) retirement savings. We've sold EVERYTHING we can (including DH's hockey skates and my ski jacket and all my little girl's old clothes/toys). We sold our 2nd car (at a significant loss). We don't have cable t.v. anymore. I own 2 pairs of jeans and 1 pair of shoes.
Here is where I need some ideas: He has been applying everywhere. He has had H.R. friends help with his resume. He has head-hunters. Everyone knows he is looking for a job. He can’t find anything. He is SUCH a hard worker, but it just doesn’t seem to matter. Nobody will give him a chance. His industry (manufacturing) is in very bad shape, but he’s been applying even for construction jobs (which he is very good at….but again, he doesn’t have formal work experience so nobody will hire him). I’ve even tried to get a 2nd job in retail and I don’t get any interviews. We love where we live (Toronto), but we’d be willing to relocate if necessary. But even when he applies elsewhere he doesn’t get a response. None of our family has any $ to help us, and they have no room for us to move in temporarily.
I am so discouraged and upset. I feel like we are total losers. I don’t know anyone who has been out of work as long as DH. And he isn’t lazy or anything, but nobody will give him a chance. He was making over $100,000 before, and now he can't even find a job for $12/hr. Not even fixing computers or working at a Help Desk. He does absolutely amazing photography, but of course everyone wants him to do pictures for free. I certainly didn’t expect this scenario at this point in my life. I cry all the time.
Basically, if anyone has read this rambling nonsense, what would YOU do? Is there something I'm missing?? All we want is DH to get a job. Hopefully something that will make a living wage and allow us to climb out of this stupid debt and save $ for our child's education. But short-term, he just needs A JOB.