I racked up a fairly reasonable amount of $40,000. However, my husband has somewhere in the $90-100,000 range. It's incredibly difficult, we can't afford to do anything but pay loans (mostly his). We actually just applied for IBR, so hopefully we'll get that. Also, I'll have $5,000 of mine forgiven in another year and a half (teaching in low-performing school district for 5 years), and I think he has a similar forgiveness situation (social worker). One parenting point that we are in complete agreement on and very passionate about is that our child(ren) will NEVER have to take out student loans. We'll push them towards scholarships and grants, we'll make them work, but anything beyond that we will pay for!!
*Im my parents' defense, they did pay for my first undergrad degree. I was just an idiot who decided to major in something useless, and then go back for another bachelor's degree, and now a master's. Higher education should be free!!!