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#1141 of 1162 Old 10-24-2014, 01:44 PM
 
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Applied to the scary mommy thanksgiving help. Our savings are getting to the point that we'll qualify for food stamps... so we'll have to deal with that. :/ DP and I have appointments at hte local low cost clinic, which had a waiting list for adult patients. I applied to have my medical records transferred there so I hope that they'll have it by then. I'm really hoping that they'll be able to help me figure out how to get medicaid for my disability and such.

Everyone is sick. Somehow kiddo managed to catch it first, despite not being in daycare or anything like that. He's getting better, but the adults are sick and I still have to go to work. My knee is on the brink of giving out. I really hate that no one was willing to do any tests or try to diagnose it when I actually had insurance. The rheumatologist wouldnt' even look at it even though I knew it was separate from my fibro. :| People (doctors, nurses, physical therapists, etc) keep saying it might be arthritis but apparently whatever test/whatever is required to diagnose it is out of the question. Really sick of doctors having that stupid "you're too YOUNG to be disabled!" mindset. I think it's just the sick- the inflammation in my wrist is flaring up, too, not surprised my knee is swelling up as well.

For some reason I feel like things are going to be okay. I'm guessing it's the fever talking.

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Thinking of everyone and praying for a warm winter for everyone...

Been at the new job for a couple weeks...its going okay...its hell on my hands and arthritis but I wont give up...I got my 1st paycheck today...Just in time for my 1st daycare Bill....lol....oh well...

Other than working just trying to rest and spend as much time with my kiddo as I can...

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Mylie - I am praying for a warm winter too, but starting to prep & weatherize my house just in case. I'm worried about heating for this winter - we have 1 working space heater now. The 2nd one sorta works, but I wouldn't trust it without someone in the room at all times. The gas oven, which I used for heat last winter {and did a lot of baking}, is flexing / popping when I use it so I am being a lot more careful. Do you have a coat for your little one this winter? I think I remember you needing one last winter & my dd being a size up from yours. Let me know & I may have something for you.

SillySapling - I know that "you're too young to be disabled" only too well. My pcp won't even look at my joint issues because she says I'm too young to have joint problems {I just turned 30}, and it's all related to my weight. Nevermind the fact that I've been dealing with this since I was 14 and much much lighter. I'm pretty sure it's Fibro or RA, but can't get anyone to actually look & run the tests needed. I have a question about the supplements you listed - do you find you get nausea with the Vit. D? I am chronically low in Vit D & supposed to take a high dose daily, but whenever I take any dose I get extreme non-stop nausea within a week or so until I stop taking it.

Zebra - Hugs to you as well.

Justmama - I know that feeling too. I am feeling like sitting & crying tonight myself on account of only making $27 at my yard sale today {normally I do around $100} and one of my signs was stolen halfway through. Was counting on that money for bills & bus fare.

So tired, debating even having the yard sale tomorrow. Guess I will - I need to try to make a bit more $$ if possible. Especially since my daughter found a dog today & wants desperately to keep it, which will require supplies I am praying the owner shows up, but if not then I guess we might have just gotten a basset hound. Did I mention that I detest dogs? And especially detest hound dogs? I will admit she seems very loyal to my daughter, and very well behaved, but it's still a DOG.

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~My neighbors son moved in the rental on the other side of her. He is a drunk & S*B who I can't stand, but has 2 wonderful stepsons age 14 & 11 who have been helping me with my yard work & other odd jobs in trade for odds & ends & a little cash. They are good kids for the most part, though a little rough around the edges due to their home life.
~Just enough to cover what we need. We can make it as long as I am careful.
~A local festival to take my daughter to on Sunday. She gets to trick or treat at the booths, and they have the local grocery chain giving out free snacks, so we only need pay bus fare.
~The neighbor's granddaughters who are here for 1 more week. They are practically my surrogate kids I miss them so much when they are with their mom 5 hours away. The older one is 10 going on 25 in attitude, and it's nice to have someone to talk to. She also helps me out with stuff around the house in exchange for cooking lessons, since her mom can apparently burn water.
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Ummmmm excuse me,,,, when did ground chuck become $6/lb and im not talking organic or anything. UGH... Just a bit cranky about the grocery store visit today.
Happy news is I got the email from ScaryMommy and the gift card was approved and should be on the way soon.
I am realizing my kiddo is super skinny,, his pants from last year are TOO BIG, took him to kohls tonight and he got 2 new 'cool weather' outfits, which means long jeans and long sleeve shirts. He goes to night classes on campus and the school keeps the a/c running and he gets cold so it was time to get clothes that fit.

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Our savings are getting to the point that we'll qualify for food stamps... so we'll have to deal with that. :/

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I just applied for SNAP and asked right up front about savings rather than waste everyone's time. It is no longer considered. They just look at income. I tried to find something online to back that up and a quick google search only showed me info about NY but I'm pretty sure it is a federal program and the rules should be the same across the board. Just FYI. Good luck.

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I just applied for SNAP and asked right up front about savings rather than waste everyone's time. It is no longer considered. They just look at income. I tried to find something online to back that up and a quick google search only showed me info about NY but I'm pretty sure it is a federal program and the rules should be the same across the board. Just FYI. Good luck.
Actually, the guidelines vary by state.
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Actually, the guidelines vary by state.
This. My state does consider it, if you have more than $2k then you don't qualify.

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I have a love hate relationship with my apt. The toilets keep clogging, half the stove doesnt work, the porch light has been broken for months, and the ac freezes constantly in the summer. And now roaches have started appearing. Bah. I keep my house clean so I dont know where theyve come from other than the free furniture we got. But I cleaned, disinfected and aired it out. On the plus side they are willing to come bomb sometime this week. But weve got to leave for three hours and take the cat.
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I hope things start looking up for everyone soon. I am glad to see that so many have gotten signed up for the Thanksgiving and Holiday helpers. The one here should be coming up soon but I haven't seen anything yet. So sorry to hear about all the bad luck going around.

silly - Broken cars are awful. We have been doing repairs on mine for a while now. It's an ongoing process
rhu - So sorry to hear about everything but most especially your mom. I hope she and your family can get all the support you need during this time.
happyhats - Our rental is like that too. Mostly a great thing since it's more private/safer than others we've seen and one of the cheapest also. The little things here and there are making me crazy though like no oven, leaking toilet, etc.


Things are moving along here. I'm finally starting to feel a little better. My anxiety has really been kicking up lately and I've been feeling more down than usual. Maybe the holidays coming up? I think where I live is really getting to me more than usual. We took a trip and found a place we're trying to buy in the area we wanted to move to. We should know if it's ours or not within a week. I think spending some time away just made this place seem that much worse. There have been a lot more break ins than usual around here lately and people are really starting to freak out. My mom's got broken into last night. She hasn't slept at all.

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yeah, looking to move is a double edged sword, right? On one yand it helps figure out whats in our area invour price range, on the other hand it makes the urge to move all the stronger. The exterminators are foming thurs so thats one less thing to worry about. I really dont want to try moving until after the holidays but roaches are just the dealbreaker.
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on the plus side I just got a rare aldi coupon to use next weekend.
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feeling down this afternoon. had a dr appt today and while it went ok, my panic and anxiety are off the charts. the dr called in some new meds so i will pick those up tonight and see what happens.

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Now kiddo is sick and we are headed to urgent care tonight. when it rains it pours
thankful for state insurance. really thankful for the anxiety meds.

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I just heard through another member who messaged an administrator that there isn't going to be Holiday Helper this year....

I dont know the why's but with all the changes that have happened?? I know there will be some disappointed people
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Mylie - No Holiday Helper? Yikes. Guess it's a good thing I signed dd up for Toys for Tots, though that is hit or miss on what you get. We saw kids last year getting brand new bikes, but all dd got was a board game, a book, and a bottle of dollar store nail polish

Zebra - Hope your little one is okay, and hope the new meds work well for you. And I hear you on the rising grocery costs - it's getting harder & harder to make our SNAP last the month Pretty sure we're going to have to start going to the food pantry once in a while, especially on months when all the neighbor kids are here because my grocery bill skyrockets.

Happyhats - your rental sounds like my house. Minus the roaches - I ordered stuff online from a pest control DIY place a few years back & got rid of them for good.


Chugging along here. Trying to get by & get done whats gotta be done. Spent yesterday foaming & caulking my windows - still have a fair bit to go but I can tell a difference already at night. Today is going to be a marathon laundry day I think - DD is running out of clean pants that fit. That girl is growing like a weed.

Trying to figure out what to do for X-mas - I got next to nada put back, no way to shop unless it's online, and no cash to spend. DD really wants a bike, and needs one pretty badly, but just not sure how that is going to work. Even if I could afford a new one or found a decent one at a thrift shop, I have no way to get it home on the bus without help. Plus I need gifts for the 2 neighbor girls who are almost my kiddos - I know what I'm doing for the oldest one {gift basket of makeup, girly stuff, and the like which I can get with coupons} but not sure for the other one. She is at that odd age {9} where she likes little girl stuff but also teen stuff, and I'm not sure which way to go.

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~The neighbor girls are here for 1 more week before they go to their mom's for a month.
~Thrift shops
~Neighbor boys who are teaching my dd that boys can be nice & friends.
~Was able to bless some others locally with clothes & books my dd outgrew.
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Actually, the guidelines vary by state.
Sorry. It is a federal program isn't it? I assumed the rules would be the same across the board. I think we've been approved (system is difficult to navigate so it isn't really clear yet) and we are living off of our savings.

I have time, advanced degrees, english is my first language and I'm familiar with the culture here and I'm finding it tough to weed my way through the system. I can't even imagine trying to do this under stress, extreme conditions, or without having a solid grasp of the language. And to try to get help without a permanent phone, address, computer access, etc must be impossible.

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Hoping for health for you and yr son, zebra!
Im sorry about the end of the holiday helper. Ive heard both good and bad about toys for tots, but never used them myself. I try to give across the board so I can help the most people-used toy drive, my hubbys angel tree when they do it, and a smqll item or two to toys for tots. New toys are pricey, I rarely buy new for my kids, so I cannot give the "nucer" items to toys for tots.

Starting to look at this months big grocery shop. I need to add in Thanksgiving needs too so its important to do as much comparison as I can. Otherwise nothing much going on here, just trying to get everything together for tomorrows outing/bombing.
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Well the thought of no 'holiday helper' is going to hurt. being brutally honest there.
Kiddo has a sinus infection and asthma 'flare'.

Was semi produtive today, started with a dermatologist appointment, then called nintendo about a missing pacakge, then called and made an appointment to have my car window replaced tomorrow. Lunch was done, cleaned off part of the kitchen counters. Going to swiffer part of the living room and run the vacuum. Have a call into a plumber, we need a new garbage disposal asap- like tomorrow would be good.

kiddo has class tonight.

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happyhats - It is definitely a double edged sword. I think the biggest stress right now is not knowing for sure what's going on and being in limbo. Ugh. Good luck on the grocery shop. That coupon sounds great!

zebra - I hope your son is okay and good luck with your new meds.

frugalmama - Have you checked Craigslist for the bike? Or look on the local area buy/sell/trade pages on Facebook if you get on there. I've seen bikes in either place in nice condition for not much for kids. My daughter is 9 and the girls that age are definitely confusing. For mine this year she's asked for things like a password journal and one of those 18" friend dolls. She's big into whatever "big girl" stuff she can get her hands on like mp3 player, hair accessories or makeup or nail stickers. She also likes accessories like scarves and such. Peace signs and owls are really big things for the tween scene right now. A memory board (the fabric & ribbon covered cork board) might be a good idea or a ribbon/bow organizer for the wall. Scrapbook stuff too. Mine loves collecting just about anything so she likes the private space books or boxes for her goodies.


Wow no holiday helper this year?! That's sad. I was wondering why it hadn't shown up yet. I hope all the families that use it can find other assistance if they need it this year. That makes me really sad since that is the holiday assistance charity I actually used. I guess I get to do the hunt for decent charities again. Ugh.

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Crazyms - I haven't yet but I will. It's hard to go pick it up though with our lack of car. I did put a wish out on our local homeschool blessings group where folks give stuff away. It is hard on my dd's friend who is 9. I would say a journal would be great because she could maybe work out some of her anger issues, but she has issues with reading & writing so I'm not sure that would be good. I did discover tonight that she is Dr. Who crazy, so maybe something with that theme, but it needs to be portable / small since everything they own pretty much gets moved every month when they swap from mom to dad. Doesn't help that I know NADA about Dr. Who. Guess I will go pintrest hunting for something.

Happyhats - I need to work on a big grocery shop too.

Spent today cleaning & playing with my dd & the girls. Trying to get as much time with them before they go back to their mom on Saturday & it's just me & dd again for a month The older one is using my house as refuge from her grandparents - she is at that puberty stage where she is mad at the world, and especially her family. I try not to get into it, but at the same time be there if she wants to talk & try to get her to understand why they are doing things that way.
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Trying to be calm.... But I hate this. This isn't the life I wanted. I don't know how to fix this. I could have gotten this job out of highschool. If I had, instead of going to college, I'd be earning more money now and wouldn't have the loan debt. Isn't that a lovely thought? I'd be better off if I hadn't gone to college.

I did everyone said you're supposed to do, and I'm still here.

Things are starting to ramp up for holiday shopping and I've realized that my workload is going to triple over the next 3 months while my pay is still pitiful. Being sick didn't help. Nothing like being terrified you're going to cough on a baby and end up killing it.

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[QUOTE=sillysapling;18164338]Trying to be calm.... But I hate this. This isn't the life I wanted. I don't know how to fix this. I could have gotten this job out of highschool. If I had, instead of going to college, I'd be earning more money now and wouldn't have the loan debt. Isn't that a lovely thought? I'd be better off if I hadn't gone to college.

I did everyone said you're supposed to do, and I'm still here.

This exactly. I don't know what happened to the American Dream, but hard work no longer equals success. It is discouraging. I work full time, have a degree, do a valuable job, and still live right at the poverty line.


I applied for 2 jobs yesterday. Either would pay pretty well, but be dreadful. I don't know whether to hope I get one or not.

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