[ Just wondering if I fit here.
I think everyone has different aims here, as well as different definitions of what the No Spend means for their life.
For myself, I am here to hash out some of my feelings about frivolous spending, and through that self reflection gain some insight into changing habits. I also hope that by posting, I can gather ideas and support.
Frivolous spending for me is meals out because I am feeling lazy. Overbuying groceries because "it's food" therefore justified. Cute t-shirts for my kids who's dressers are exploding already. Housewares because they are on clearance or a good deal. Fabric because I like it, and will come up with some project to use it for in the next 20 years...
By not spending, I am trying to force myself to take a look at what I have and either use it, or send it on it's way, and not buy something to fill the void. I am forever coming up with projects that require me going and getting new supplies, or holding on to stuff with the intention of selling it at a garage sale or using it in the future. It is a mix of self perceived affluence and hoarding against poverty. maddening.
Over the last 10 years our income has increased. When we were really struggling, I thought that having more money would change our habit of fist to mouth. However, our mentality of spend it while you've got it, has crept up along with our cash flow. I need to make a declaration and goal to say I am changing habits, and I need someone to cheer lead me along!
By spending less I will finally pay off some debt for good. Every time I have made headway in the past, some major expense comes up. This leads to more debt and a bit of a spending spiral for me. When I have had to finance a $10K car repair, it feels fine to spend $20 on lunch to put smiles on the kids faces and less stress for me to hear them whine about eating spaghetti yet again.
I am also focused on putting money away for these contingencies. I hope that writing here will remind myself to stay with my goals, and to manage my desire to spend either for entertainment or stress relief.