It's nothing official, but here's what worked for us. Dh gets paid every 2 weeks, so I figured which bills got paid from each check. I'd take 1/2 the mortgage from one check, the other 1/2 from the next, so we weren't ever *that* short of money. All the other bills, I divided up btw the 2 checks, so it was even. We had approx the same amount left over after each payday. I go to the bank and withdraw the entire paycheck (we have direct deposit) and get money orders to pay the bills and have cash to live on for the rest of the time until the following payday. When you see concretely how much you have, you're not losing a few bucks here or there on the debit card. If using money orders is too much, write checks for all the bills and withdraw the extra that is your spendign money. Everything comes from that money- groceries, gas, entertainment, etc. (Actually, if his check was say 1,063.47, I would only pull 1,000- that way I could pay for my gas with the debit card at the pump- too hard to pull the kids out of the car to pay inside.)
Dh and I would each get a bit and the rest was stashed in the house. (It was never that large of an amount, so I wasnt' worried about getting robbed or anythign.)
Good luck getting things under control. I started this over 2 years ago and have only bounced 1 check since then- that was a misunderstanding btw dh and I. I cashed a check he thought I deposited, so used the debit card when he shouldn't have.
Michelle -mom to Katlyn 4/00 , Jake 3/02, and Seth 5/04