Our 18th wedding anniversary in in August. We've done so many thing over the years. Our 1st and 3rd we drove to Tucson to see DH's grandmother and spent little more than the price of gas. She had a friend who left for the summers and we used her condo.
Our 2nd anniversary we cooked at home (sauted mushrooms over asparagus with a salad - those early vegan days) and rented Gigi for $1.
4th anniversary friends invited us to stay in Santa Barbara. 5th DH's company sent him to the Bay area and felt so bad about it being our anniversary that they bought me a ticket too.
6th - no idea. 7th we used an Entertainment book discount and stayed in L.A. and went to a concert. 8th and 9th - no clue. Probably nice dinners out.
10th is where we start simplifying. We went to the movies. I was pregnant with DS#1. What I remember most was watching the sunset, knowing I was expecting our child.
11th-12th, again I don't have much of an idea. Those early baby years (2 babies in 14 months) are a blur.
13th we went to see Tom Petty while my mom babysat.
14th no clue. We were probably camping.
15th we went on vacation in San Diego. MIL watched the boys while we did a dinner cruise. Whoop-dee-do. I wouldn't spend the money again.
16th we were on a family vacation up the coast to Oregon. We had dinner in a little bistro in Santa Cruz, with the boys.
17th we were at the Grand Canyon. I cooked at the trailer.
We just booked a long weekend camping trip for our 18th, beach front. It'll be a family thing again.
I guess my point is that over the years we don't remember a lot of things, but nothing really beats that anniversary when I was pregnant with DS#1 and saw the sunset. The sunset was free. The love is free. I finally got over the idea that we should do something expensive and romantic. Love is something we do everyday. Just like that 2nd anniversary, when we were so broke that asparagus was a splurge. It's about what you feel and now I am just happy to share that day with my boys, the tangible result of that love.
DH isn't a massage and coupons kind of guy. He's given teddy bears, chocolates, and flowers in the past, but he isn't that guy either - that is some guy made up by Hallmark. He is just a man who loves his wife and family and wants to be with us.
That said, he does thing we should try to do something really great for our 25th anniversay (the boys will be 13 and 14). We may plan (and save for ) a big trip to Europe...but we'll take the boys with us.