We sold our house after our 2nd daughter had her 3rd surgery around 5.5 mo. Our medical bills were just too much along with our outrageous car pmt and house pmt/expenses. We thought we'd move down here and rent for a little while (our rent is about half our old house pmt), then buy a great new house. Surprise... in the last year the housing market really took off... we sold our house for $91,500... a year later a much smaller (ours was 1550, this one was 1200), not-all-brick house in the same neighborhood sold for $115,000.
We are just so bummed because we can't find anything bigger than 1100-1200 sq ft in our price range. So it seems like we should stay here and save some money and look again next year. But I brought my first 2 babies home to a cute, quaint, home-y house and I'll be bringing this baby home to a double wide that makes up in pinestraw and sand what it lacks in charm. We can't even fix up a "nursery" (even if I COULD empty that 3rd room), because we can't paint or fix up this rental... and anyone who's ever been inside a trailer knows how the walls are flimsy, plastic-covered wall-board.
I'm just itching to get out of here, although I know that right now we could barely afford to put 10% down on a 1200 sq ft house... our budget would be tight again, but we ARE planning ahead for possible medical bills this go 'round so we won't be caught so off guard should surgery(ies) be in this baby's future as well.
I'm so tired of thinking about this. Please tell me what you think... if you could make any sense of all this rambling!
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I know what that nesting urge is like. I ended up house hunting and moving at the end of both of my pregnancies. It sounds like you have a lot to deal with as it is without adding worries about housing into the mix. Babies don't care what the house looks like. as long as they are warm and dry and loved nothing else matters. Is there stuff you could get rid of to make more room? Could you afford to rent a storage locker to put some of the clutter in? Take a deep breath.
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I feel your pain. We brought DD1 home to our first home that we had fixed up with so much love. Second DD was brought home to an apartment in a new state. Because I was so upset about this we bought a house we can't afford and are now in over our heads. The horrid part is I wish I was back in that apartment because all my energy has just been zapped trying to deal with a new baby and a new house. I'm just now, 8 months later, getting the house in order. I wish we had just stayed put and enjoyed that brief new born period. Maybe you'll feel better if somebody can get to the baby stuff for you?
When dd came along 17 months later, we were in our first home, but it was a fixer upper that we had just starting renovating. I remember dd being 2 months old and a family friend coming to see us. Our "kids room" had been gutted and had plastic sheeting up over the door, and our living room was piled to the ceiling with all the stuff from the bedroom!
That said, things can sometimes turn around more quickly than we expect. We have since been able to afford to renovate the kids room and our second bath (we now have a great clawfoot tub for bathing the kids!), and are slowly working toward the other projects. Our home now feels very homey and special.
But when all is said and done, I have great memories of bringing both kids home, and yes, all they cared about was being fed, warm and dry and in loving arms. As both kids ended up in our bed anyway, there really still isn't a need for a kids sleeping room. And now that I am where I am, I am so glad we didn't jeopardize our financial stability by making housing decisions that pushed us to the limit.
But it is hard and frustrating with the nesting urge. Perhaps you can focus your energy on a couple of key preparations. With dd, it really helped me to focus on making some soups to put in the freezer for those postpartum weeks.
Wishing you the best.
That's just my 2 cents.
While the momentary urge is to do what it takes to satisfy your image of bringing baby home to a house, be careful. I have to agree with Jessica. With ds #1 I wanted SOOO bad to have a nursery to decorate. I ended up not getting that until my third child. And you know what, as hard as it was at the time not to get that, it paid off in the long run. If we lived in the moment, we would still be struggling financially and no where near able to do what we are going to this year.
I don't know specific details about your financial situation, but I strongly suggest you speak with someone who can guide you. If you haven't already, take some time to learn what's in this forum about frugality and saving money. I know it's hard to let go of that image in your mind, believe me, I do. But if you ever want out of the situation you're in, you HAVE to look at the bigger picture. I know it would be great to move right now, and maybe that would be your best option, but make sure it's a *smart* move in the long run, and not just another step you're going to regret.