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#1 of 52 Old 12-18-2008, 04:45 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Sorry but I have to get this off my chest!

I just listed a vibrating baby bouncing chair on freecycle. In the listing I said it's a blue bouncy chair with 2 vibration settings.
I got this response from a freecycler:

---hi when are you free to collect is it suitable for a boy or a girl
we havnt found out the sex

Right.
1) It's a chair. Last time I checked babies of either gender were able to sit in a chair.
2) I already stated the colour, I have no idea whether you consider blue a unisex colour.
3) Don't assume I am giving it to you
4) Please use some manners and some punctuation!

I mean, come on. Someone is offering you something for FREE.

Okay, thanks for letting me vent.
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Sheesh.

My favourite thus far has been someone who emailed and said, "What is wrong with it (i.e. why are you giving it away)?"

Uh, what? Are you for real?

I'm starting to find it's easier to unload things by listing them for ALMOST free on an online classified site (similar to Craigslist). Somehow it gives the item legitimacy, I guess. Whatever.

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Maybe I'm just old and mean but if you can't be bothered to fully read my listing and respond using proper English, I will skip right over you and move on to someone who is polite, literate and not asking fifty questions about a free item.
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Ugh! What a nuisance this all is!! When I had my first child, I would have been thrilled to get my baby gear for free. What's it all about?!?!
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Maybe I'm just old and mean but if you can't be bothered to fully read my listing and respond using proper English, I will skip right over you and move on to someone who is polite, literate and not asking fifty questions about a free item.
Yeah, I very almost sent that exact same response but I came here and vented instead then deleted her email!
I don't understand why someone who is so particular about her baby equipment is hanging about on freecycle.
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Lately my big freecycle peeve is EVERYONE is ASKING for stuff..and insane stuff, someone just asked for cash!...then another asked for a nintendo wii, come on people!....then my freecycle has a woman whos a major horder...and doesnt show up!....shes bailed on me TWICE! And Ive never seen her post anything available, just takes and takes...oh i feel better!

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Yay, more venting, we're getting there now!!!!

Our Freecycle has also had loads of wanteds reecently, including a guy who wrote about 7 wanteds in a row asking for very specific items like:

WANTED: a computer gaming chair in black leather
WANTED: a small desk and chair for my children's playroom - must be x cm by y cm and white or beige
WANTED: silver washing machine, must be new and in good condition

I'm serious. There were about 7 requests.
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Our freecycle is crazy like that too. People say "Desperately NEEDED" and then list something that is just not a need... No matter how you look at it. And I get ridiculous questions about things too. Its FREE, if you dont like then put it back on and get rid of it. Come on... Sigh.
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Oh oh oh, one more thing I just remembered! One guy asked for a pot bellied pig this week for his mom for Christmas. He then went on to tell the entire list what PET STORE we could buy it at for him!!!
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We had someone recently post a "Desperately needed please!" I open it thinking someone might need warm clothes my kids have outgrown for their littles and she was asking for----a specific Vera Bradley bag, because they are expensive and she can't afford one & she doesn't like cheap bags. :

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My pet peeve is when someone responds to an offer with a request for MORE STUFF. I listed a hat for a certain team that is located nowhere near my home (hand me down found in a large bag). The responder had the gall to request MORE clothing and wanted me to sort out sizes and tell her exactly where I lived and . . .

Needless to say, I still have the hat. I'm contemplating putting it on a stuffed octopus and giving it back to the person who handed it down to us.

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we had someone recently post a "desperately needed please!" i open it thinking someone might need warm clothes my kids have outgrown for their littles and she was asking for----a specific vera bradley bag, because they are expensive and she can't afford one & she doesn't like cheap bags. :

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People are unbelievable

My Freecycle pet peeve, besides no-shows, are people who post wanting an item, you happen to have whatever they are asking for and offer it to them...they never reply back?! No response at all, not saying they'll take it, not saying "thanks but I've found x", no "I've changed my mind"...nothing! I've had this happen several times and I guess it's fine...I don't have a need to give *you* this stuff y'know...but what is up with that -you're asking for x item!
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I hate when people do that. Or when you offer something, and you pick the person who sounds like they need it the most, just for them to never show up. I open "in search of" messages all the time (because, honestly, I'm tired of posting "offers" and people blowing me off, I don't have the time/energy to get everything to the living room for you to never show.) and the "need" is something outrageous. There was someone who "needed" a king size waterbed! Maybe there's some sort of medical reason they would "need" a waterbed, but I'm not aware of one...

Another thing I don't like is that on our freecycle, people always try and *sell* stuff.

One time, I had seen a big post with someone who didn't want to throw out a lot of baby stuff. I didn't know I was pregnant at the time, but a few weeks later found out. Since there were never any "taken" messages about the baby stuff, I posted an "in search of" message, thinking maybe the poster hadn't found anyone who could use them, and I could save them from the dump/not have to buy new ones. I got a message offering a bunch of stuff from someone different, and told them I was interested, and asked how to set up a pick up. She told me I hadn't made her an offer, and what was I willing to pay. I told her since it was *free*cycle, I was under the assumption she was offering it for free. She got a really bad attitude and told me that I should get a job and *work* for what I want and need, just like everyone else does, and that no one is going to hand me everything on a platter. (DH and I were *both* working, and the poster who had posted originally had said they were just going to put the stuff on the curb if no one needed/wanted it.) Some people...

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Beth - that is crazy.
I had a similarthing happen once where I posted a "Wanted" for some paint - white, cream or other light colour. I only had to do one wall so I figured someone might have half a pot of a common colour just sitting. Anyway, someone emailed me with bold caps lock on to say "GO TO A DIY STORE" Seemed to me they didn't understand the concept of *free*cycle either!
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I posted a wanted for a cabinet..thinking hopefully by chance someone might have one,filled w junk collecting dust and i had THREE people try and sellme one...finally had a nice lady offer me one for FREE..

another time a lady asked for a walker for dc(one of those things they push behind) Ds had gotten 3 for xmas that year, so I told her porch p/u the walker in the box in a plastic bag with her name on it...and not only did she take that one,BUT ds other walker,(which he was EXTREMLY attatched too!) which was on the other side of the porch in a toy box...she also took 2 other toys!...yeah the email she got frm me wasnt so nice and the next morning the toys magically appeared on the front porch

a grandma wrote asking for a vibrating chair,and since we had one that we got used for 5 bucks i gave it to her, she actually emailed me back complaining that the batteries were worn out...

sometimes i think freecycles more of apain then a worth

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I'm suprised the mod's of those particular freecycles let the posts go through Our mod's can be very picky but it definately keeps out 99.9% of those type of posts.

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Wow. I don't see those kinds of posts on our local freecycle lists. I'm on two, one *much* more rigidly moderated than the other, but both post reminders of the rules every month, ask people to report people who try to sell things off-list after posting them for free, and mod anyone who posts crazy requests or gets really rude. One strike gets someone modded, so everything they post has to reviewed first before going to the list, and a second gets them banned.
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I only read freecycle online. I refuse to have my "inbox" cluttered with all the stuff that is annoying. I occasionally search it for "wanted" postings, just in case I have something someone really needs. I also have a separate email account just for freecycle. I admit that I use freecycle as my own personal free-garage-sale - I've been decluttering in a big way for over a year (embarrassing).

I also get irked by the people who want my stuff but are completely rude about it "where do I get this?" "call me" (my offers all say clearly that I do NOT do phone calls") - or they're in ALL-CAPS - or they ask redundant questions even though I'm very very explicit about the condition of anything I'm offering. Those replies just get deleted. They aren't worth my even getting irritated.

But I take it all with a grain of salt. I've had very very good luck with freecycle - in our major metropolitan city, there are plenty of wackos, too. I've met some treasured friends through it, too - and when I'm in need, I've always gotten the help I need. Right now, at the end of my pregnancy, I'm still freecycling, and my current offers come with a new stipulation: "I am at the end of my pregnancy, so items must be picked up within 24 hours, but I reserve the right to go into labor at any time without any warning to you." I've gotten several well-wishes from fellow freecyclers, even though that wasn't my intention.

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So, I offered the chair to someone who I know will collect, I've met her before. So I posted a "taken" post and then got an email back from someone who'd asked for it. Her email was this:

Hi,

Did you get my message yesterday? Am happy to collect but will need the address if so. Can you help with this please?


Well, it's nice and polite but the title of it was RE:taken.... so she knew I had offered it and not to her. What does she want me to do now? Let the other person down? Hmmmmmmmm. I just don't understand sometimes.
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Sheesh, same lady posted this again:
Does anyone PLEASE have a vera bradley CARGO SLING PURSE that they have
no use for no more! I have been despretley looking for one and i cant
aford one! they are pricey! i would be more
then gratefull if anyone has one or one like it that they dont need or
want no more! this will be the best gift that i can give my self so if
anyone can please help me i would be so gratefull! thank you! pic
included to give idea what im looking for

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CaliMommie that is totally ridiculous. I'm sad for the person who calls a purse the best gift she could give herself.
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I just keep opening it b/c I don't pay attention to the names & think it might be something someone actually NEEDS.

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i just keep opening it b/c i don't pay attention to the names & think it might be something someone actually needs.
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I am totally cracking up here! I love freecycle but it does tend to attract some people who are definitely missing something in the manners/common courtesy department....

My big thing with freecycle is my own issue with the people who immediately email and they want EVERYTHING I've just listed in a decluttering frenzy....the houseplant pots, the random mugs, the nonstick skillets, the kids' toys, the shower curtain, the old speakers, the wastebasket, the light fixture, AND the 10 years of back issues of Scientific American! Even though it would be one-stop shopping to have one person come and collect everything, I can't help feeling I'm contributing stuff to someone else's obsessive-compulsive need to collect and hoard. I don't know why I get so tied up in knots about it but it's hard for me to feel like I'm contributing to someone else's problem, KWIM?

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I hear you Quirky!
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This is why I don't use Freecycle. It's way too complicated imo!
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She got a really bad attitude and told me that I should get a job and *work* for what I want and need, just like everyone else does, and that no one is going to hand me everything on a platter. (DH and I were *both* working, and the poster who had posted originally had said they were just going to put the stuff on the curb if no one needed/wanted it.) Some people...
Wow and wow. That would not fly on the list I am on. They would get kicked off pretty quickly.

yes on the rudeness. I hate it. People that don't ask if they can have it, they TELL you they are going to get it.

A few months ago I was de-cluttering cloth, patterns and crafts. I listed each pattern in what it was, the brand of the pattern and they number.
For example
1- Maternity dress pattern size 10-14 uncut, McCalls #00005

Then I get emails "what is the first pattern you listed? Can you take a picture of it? I need girl clothing" Then when I send her a picture "oh god no, I don't need that"
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How rude?!?!? Incredible.
I often wonder what freecycle would be like if it had to be conducted in person somehow. I think it's the internet makes people think they can behave any old how but hasn't it dawned on them they have to meet you to collect? (Well, if that's how you do it - it's how I do it, I don't have a porch/kerb)
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