Anybody starting Flylady with the new year? - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
Reply
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 50 Old 12-27-2008, 04:37 AM - Thread Starter
 
Chic_Mama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Inland NW, but my heart's in heaven
Posts: 672
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I have tried her methods on and off before but never really stuck with them. I now feel like I am at the point where I have no choice but to dive in and really commit or I am going to go crazy (along with my family)! So, do I have any company? Any other baby flyers out there for 2009?

Oh, if you don't know what I'm talking about then check out www.flylady.net
Chic_Mama is offline  
#2 of 50 Old 12-27-2008, 12:54 PM
 
Theoretica's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Inside my head (it's quiet here!)
Posts: 3,825
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I've been a flybaby before, I guess I should consider getting into it again. My problem was that I felt so overwhelmed with the 50 kazillion emails and just keeping up. How do you prevent that?

Bellevuemama

GOOD moms let their kids lick the beaters. GREAT moms turn off the mixer first!
Humanist Woman Wife , & Friend Plus Mama to 6 (3 mos, 2, 9, 13, 17, 20)
Theoretica is offline  
#3 of 50 Old 12-27-2008, 01:09 PM
 
mommabear207's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: maine
Posts: 573
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
i joined this past year. i hate all the emails too-i pretty much just delete them all except the sneak peek which has the whole week but its annoying. i'm considering telling my email its spam and then just pulling the ones i want back to the inbox.
my house isn't really that bad but i do have a few problem spots and a sink-full of dishes so i've been thinking i should get back with it.especially since i'm expecting in Feb! i really want to get everything under control now....
bellevuemama- don't worry about keeping up. it will repeat again and whatever you do do counts.
mommabear207 is offline  
#4 of 50 Old 12-27-2008, 02:21 PM
 
Purple Sage's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Posts: 4,201
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
I'm in!

I actually signed up a couple of weeks ago and have started doing a few things already, like going to bed with a clean kitchen and emptying the dishwasher first thing in the morning (while the coffee is brewing). I'm going to take it really slow and easy, just adding a new habit as the previous habit becomes second nature.

The emails are a bit annoying, especially the ones that are basically just advertisements for a book or something. I opened a new gmail account account just for Flylady stuff and the couponing sites I recently joined, and I don't feel bad for deleting most of them unread.
Purple Sage is offline  
#5 of 50 Old 12-28-2008, 03:48 AM
 
homeschoolAK's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2008
Posts: 125
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I still gget thier e-mails. They have changed it a little so now you only get a few e-mails a day! Now instead of individual reminders they send you one e-mail called the flytplan for the day. Then we get about 3-4 others for testimonials and things like that. But the new system has really cut down on the e-mails! They just started it within the last month!

As for starting over, I'm in!!! I have 4 young children and homeschool all of them so my house looks VERY lived in. I really need to get organized, but almost always percrastinate and never get anyting done. The mess gets mme down, then being down drains my energy for cleaning so I have a bit of a bad cycle going that I really need to break.

As for right now I have 1 week to clean my house before my Twin DDs have thier birthday. I still can not believe they are going to be 8 in a week! they are growing so fast!
homeschoolAK is offline  
#6 of 50 Old 12-28-2008, 03:54 AM
 
homeschoolAK's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2008
Posts: 125
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by bellevuemama View Post
I've been a flybaby before, I guess I should consider getting into it again. My problem was that I felt so overwhelmed with the 50 kazillion emails and just keeping up. how do you prevent that?

Bellevuemama
I don't open them. Most of them get deleted without being opened. The only one I open is the flytplan for the day, then once in a while I will read a testimonial. That is it. i also only log on 2 times a day. Once in the morning to get my berings, then again in the evening to clean out the inbox, and write my e-mails.
homeschoolAK is offline  
#7 of 50 Old 12-28-2008, 04:04 AM
 
veronicalynne's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Castle Rock
Posts: 851
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Actually, I just joined maybe 10 minutes ago. Boy, do i need to get organized. I have gotten sooo behind with a demanding 4 almost 5 month old baby (and a preschooler and toddler in the mix). I just never know where to start.......
veronicalynne is offline  
#8 of 50 Old 12-28-2008, 11:37 PM
 
phathui5's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Oregon
Posts: 17,474
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
I've started and quit flylady more times than I can count.

This year I'm trying www.motivatedmoms.com

Midwife (CPM, LDM) and homeschooling mama to:
13yo ds   10yo dd  8yo ds and 6yo ds and 1yo ds  
phathui5 is offline  
#9 of 50 Old 12-28-2008, 11:57 PM
 
Mizelenius's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: In Lalaland
Posts: 7,046
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I've started and quit FL many times for the past 6 years. I just started letting the e-mails through again the past few weeks. The more I learn about it, the more I realize how amazing she is.

The e-mails were overwhelming until I started taking her advice to heart, which is easier said than done. I think she sends so many (though now they've reduced it) so that you are brainwashed in a good way-- re-programmed, if you will. I think we generally have a lot of NEGATIVE self-talk, and she inundates us with positive messages to replace that. I found that even when I was not getting her e-mails, I'd bring her up in my head and remind myself, "you are not behind." That little gem has been a lifesaver, but again, it is easier said than done to truly believe what she says.

I am going to do it RIGHT this time. I am going to go sloooowly instead of doing my usual, "If I am supposed to do this, then I better try to do even more." I am going to keep the actual control journal. I am going to do the plan and not more like I usually do, which means I have too many coals in the fire.

Anyone ordered from her? I got the calendar last year and this (love it) but also got the Rubba Scrubba and can't really figure out why it is supposed to be so fabulous. I tried cleaning off the cat hair from my sofa and it did nothing. I got the timer and I am actually going to use it.

 2/02, 4/05, 2/07, 11/09, and EDD 12/25/11 wave.gif

 

 

Mizelenius is offline  
#10 of 50 Old 12-29-2008, 12:05 AM
 
hollyvangogh's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Posts: 2,515
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by phathui5 View Post
I've started and quit flylady more times than I can count.

This year I'm trying www.motivatedmoms.com
Yeah, I flunked out of Flylady. I'm giving Motivated Mom's a try too. I printed off the free sample page (which covers the next two weeks). If I like the results at the end of the two weeks I'll shell out the $8 bucks to get the whole year's planner. There have been so many rave reviews here on MDC that I'm hopeful. Goodness knows my ADD self needs all the help she can get.
hollyvangogh is offline  
#11 of 50 Old 12-29-2008, 01:25 AM
 
Purple Sage's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Posts: 4,201
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
I'm enjoying Flylady so far, but I'm realizing that I'm a "born organized" person. My problem isn't knowing what to do - it's getting the motivation to get up and do it.

Tomorrow I'm going to work on my control journal and add another habit to my (rather short) list. I think it will be "swish and swipe" since I hate cleaning the bathroom once it gets yucky.
Purple Sage is offline  
#12 of 50 Old 12-30-2008, 03:16 AM
 
mimid's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2004
Location: Los Angeles, CA
Posts: 3,158
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I've been restarting this month. Just taking my babysteps! I posted my daily plan (1/2 a page) on the fridge and keep a dry erase marker on the top of the fridge so I can mark it off. So far, so good. Starting in january I'm going to add in decluttering.

For the emails, I make filters for the ones i don't want and they get deleted immediatly.

Miriam , mom to jumpers.gif
mimid is offline  
#13 of 50 Old 12-30-2008, 08:12 PM
 
flowmom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2004
Posts: 4,350
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
You can follow the entire flylady plan without getting emails. Either read or listen to her book Sink Reflections.

sharing life with | 10 yo ds | 8 yo dd | dh (since 2012)
"I am not what happened to me...I am what I choose to become." ~ Carl Jung
flowmom is offline  
#14 of 50 Old 12-31-2008, 03:04 AM
 
sunflwrmoonbeam's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2006
Posts: 2,684
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I have Flylady set to daily digest.

I don't have much problem with clutter (at least that I can control; my husband's spaces not so much), but I want to get back in to cleaning regularly and all that. My house is kind of a mess :/

Ashley, Pagan treehugger.gif mama to E (6/09) and my beautiful hbac.gif baby T (4/3/12)
sunflwrmoonbeam is offline  
#15 of 50 Old 12-31-2008, 03:15 AM
 
becoming's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2003
Location: Louisiana
Posts: 11,886
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I just joined two days ago and am already considering unsubscribing. The tones of the emails just annoy me to no end, and there are so damn many of them.
becoming is offline  
#16 of 50 Old 12-31-2008, 03:43 AM
 
MadameXCupcake's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Nevada Desert
Posts: 1,130
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I joined three days ago!
Why are you guys getting so many emails? I get one a day. Are you guys getting them from the yahoo group? You should have the setting to one daily email and you will get only one email with all the subjects lines of all the emails of the day in it. Really easy to skim through everything that way.

My sink is clean.
My house is in pretty good shape too right now! We'll see how it works. I did enjoy creating a control journal that I think I am going to nick name the brain.

Mama to Belly(5), homesteading in the desert with our chickens and sheep. Fish nerd, really into my reef tank. Baby due Sep 3rd!

MadameXCupcake is offline  
#17 of 50 Old 12-31-2008, 09:42 AM
 
minimunklemama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: away with the fairies
Posts: 1,788
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I just signed up for the yahoo group.Am I right in thinking that flylady is free?I can't find anywhere where I have to pay.
I also ordered the calendar

Natasha,Mum to many.
"We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give." ~ Sir Winston Churchill
minimunklemama is offline  
#18 of 50 Old 12-31-2008, 09:51 AM
 
2lilsweetfoxes's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: My own little world...
Posts: 1,359
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I need to do something about getting this house organized/kept clean. I'd like to have routines down and the house in some semblance of order before this baby arrives. I've done flylady before (in fact, that's the reason my house was not embarassing when I went into labor 3 weeks early w/ ds-otherwise I'd probably have left cleaning till the last minute--read around my due date), but seem to never be able to stick with it. DH has looked at it and likes the idea, too, so maybe we should sit down and discuss it and how best to implement it in our family, so I don't get resentful thinking that I'm the only one who cares and give up.
2lilsweetfoxes is offline  
#19 of 50 Old 12-31-2008, 11:17 AM
 
hedgehogs4's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Posts: 381
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm in! I too get the daily digest via yahoo. I'm ready to start.... i also want to lose weight and start budgeting... it's a lot to start at once but i'll take babysteps and i'm excited to start!
hedgehogs4 is offline  
#20 of 50 Old 12-31-2008, 03:48 PM
 
hollyvangogh's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Posts: 2,515
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by minimunklemama View Post
I just signed up for the yahoo group.Am I right in thinking that flylady is free?I can't find anywhere where I have to pay.
I also ordered the calendar
Yup, free!
hollyvangogh is offline  
#21 of 50 Old 12-31-2008, 04:34 PM
 
AngelBee's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: New Brighton, MN
Posts: 20,387
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I may try..... thinking.....

Mama to 9 so far:Mother of Joey (20), Dominick (13), Abigail (11), Angelo (8), Mylee (6), Delainey (3), Colton (2) and Baby 8 and Baby 9 coming sometime in July 2013.   If evolution were true, mothers would have three arms!

AngelBee is offline  
#22 of 50 Old 12-31-2008, 05:03 PM
 
MamaPam's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: Louisiana
Posts: 1,513
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by AngelBee View Post
I may try..... thinking.....
I am also thinking about it. I was starting it a bit before I got pregnant and then when morning sickness hit bad I stopped. We are moving next week and it would be wonderful to get into a routine to keep the place clean and cluter free before the new baby is born. Keeping up with clutter and things like the swish and swipe parts of Flylady are what I like most about it. I've thought about coming up with my own plan but we'll see.
MamaPam is offline  
#23 of 50 Old 12-31-2008, 10:34 PM
 
mimid's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2004
Location: Los Angeles, CA
Posts: 3,158
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by minimunklemama View Post
I just signed up for the yahoo group.Am I right in thinking that flylady is free?I can't find anywhere where I have to pay.
I also ordered the calendar
Yep, its free. I LOVE the calendar. I sit down the last Sunday of the month and prepare the next month's pages and never run out of room like I used to.

Miriam , mom to jumpers.gif
mimid is offline  
#24 of 50 Old 12-31-2008, 10:47 PM
 
umsami's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: Capital City
Posts: 10,401
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
IF the emails annoy you, you can always set your preference to web-only. Of course, you lose the kick-in-the-pants aspect that way.

Mom to DS(8), DS(6), DD(4), and DS(1).  "Kids do as well as they can."

umsami is offline  
#25 of 50 Old 01-01-2009, 09:11 AM
 
minimunklemama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: away with the fairies
Posts: 1,788
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I received my first eamil yesterday.I opted for the daily digest so I only receive one a day.
just go to your yahoo groups page and change the setting.
BTW my sink was shining when I got up and the bathrooms were clean when I went to bed.I feel so much better already.I can't wait to embrace this fully.

HAPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE,HERE'S TO CLEAN AND CLUTTER FREE HOMES IN 2009

Natasha,Mum to many.
"We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give." ~ Sir Winston Churchill
minimunklemama is offline  
#26 of 50 Old 01-01-2009, 10:06 AM
 
bwylde's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2004
Location: Nova Scotia, Canada
Posts: 2,842
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I/m another who has been off and on for the past 6 years. I can't take my house anymore and I need to do something. I'm glad to hear of the flight plan as I can't always get on to check my email all through the day. For a while I was just going to the website but I couldn't always find what I needed.

My biggest problem is motivation. I'm suffering from depression and I could sit and look at the mess day after day without caring enough to do anything about it. I will be seeking help for that soon but my house will still be cluttered and uncared for unless I do something about it.

I know FlyLady works . When I am truly flying, it works wonderfully and takes less time than I spend currently tripping over stuff and hiding things when people come over
bwylde is offline  
#27 of 50 Old 01-01-2009, 03:44 PM
 
Purple Sage's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Posts: 4,201
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
I am having so much fun making a control journal (or home management binder). I'm using Flylady as inspiration, but some of her "rules" are not for me, so I'm really making up my own plan. There is no way I'm going to wear shoes around the house. I also have simplified my wardrobe so much that I never have trouble deciding what to wear, so I don't have to set out clothes the night before. And there's a few other things in her routines that just don't apply to my life.

The one area that I really need help with is menu planning, grocery shopping, and all things related to food preparation. Dh is a chef, and I hate to cook....but he works so many hours that I have to make dinner most nights, and I am so bad at the whole thing. I need a plan and recipes, and dh just laughs at me when I'm stressed out over what to feed the kids because cooking is second nature to him. So, anyway, this is going to be my major focus for the next few weeks until I find some kind of rhythm to get into with dinners.
Purple Sage is offline  
#28 of 50 Old 01-01-2009, 04:37 PM
 
hollyvangogh's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Posts: 2,515
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by lemongrass View Post
There is no way I'm going to wear shoes around the house.
I kind of like her suggestion to have a pair for *just* around the house, for those of us who don't like shoes tracking dirt all over our homes. I'm thinking even a pretty pair of slippers would work for the motivation aspect.
hollyvangogh is offline  
#29 of 50 Old 01-01-2009, 05:45 PM
 
Purple Sage's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Posts: 4,201
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by hollyvangogh View Post
I kind of like her suggestion to have a pair for *just* around the house, for those of us who don't like shoes tracking dirt all over our homes. I'm thinking even a pretty pair of slippers would work for the motivation aspect.
I have a pair of slippers, but I prefer socks. Since I never sleep in socks, I think this counts. And flip flops in the summer.
Purple Sage is offline  
#30 of 50 Old 01-01-2009, 05:54 PM
 
alison_in_oh's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: Whidbey Island, WA
Posts: 518
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by hollyvangogh View Post
I kind of like her suggestion to have a pair for *just* around the house, for those of us who don't like shoes tracking dirt all over our homes. I'm thinking even a pretty pair of slippers would work for the motivation aspect.
It seems to me like there are two parts to the shoes thing. One is the subliminal message that we are UP and ALERT with daytime clothing STRAPPED to our bodies and we are starting the day! (So, Flylady would say that slippers do NOT count, they've gotta be attached to you.) The other is the very practical need for good support and a little protection while doing housekeeping chores.

So my answer to Flylady's "dressed to lace-up shoes" is twofold. For the subliminal message part, I find I get the same feeling from being "dressed to the bra".

For the practical part, I bought a pair of knock-off Keds canvas shoes (on sale at Target for $6!) to wear indoors only, usually just when doing active cleaning and straightening.

Works for me!
alison_in_oh is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off