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Old 04-21-2009, 02:16 AM
 
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I might have missed this, but why not keep everyone where they are and the baby with you? The baby isn't going to notice, or care, about the room situation. Then once the baby gets older you can deal with 2 kids sharing a room.
This is what I would do, especially before making such huge changes.

I think if I had 4 kids and 3 non-master bedrooms, if it turned out to be 2 and 2 (gender wise), I would have everyone share and make the 3rd bedroom a playroom.

I am a big fan of not keeping much stuff (e.g. toys) in the bedrooms anyway, they are for sleeping, storing clothes, etc.

I agree though, do whatever works for you, I just wouldn't worry about it now.

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Old 04-21-2009, 02:31 AM
 
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Depending on the baby's temperament, he or she might care a LOT, and demand to be close to mom all night every night. I know if I'd tried to keep DS in another room as an infant I'd be awake all night putting him back to sleep.

I agree, I wasn't trying to say to put the baby in his own room. What I was saying is that it's (imo) not as important to the baby to have his own room as it would be for the older kids.
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My THREE kids share a room right now. In fact, DH and I know if we put DD in her own room - she'd just go sleep on the floor near her brothers in their room. :/ No point in separating, all three kids are very attached to one another.

So yes, all three have the master in our house. Being it's where they sleep, play, keep their toys, etc.? Makes more sense for them to have it vs. us having it, since all DH and I do is sleep in ours and store our clothes. We don't read in our room, use our laptop in our room, etc. even.

Now, if we have a baby - layout will stay the same until baby moves out of our room, then we'll move baby in with DD into their own room. We are guessing by that time, DD will want her own space.
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rere, that's a great idea! My mom is super creative where I cannot think outside of the box AT ALL, and I bet she could rig something up like that

I'm going to talk with younger DD and kind of see what would make her feel comfortable. Big DD thinks it would be a fantastic thing to have the big bedroom for her and her sister- it's like moving to a whole new house for her- she's always up for an adventure


Ikea has all sorts room set up ideas that might inspire you and your mom with ways to make it happen.

Oh and my sister and I shared the master.I like my own space too and I'm so glad that my mom moved us in there.I was able to make my own little nook.And I don't think my mom was giving up too much to us.When she had the master it was plain and pretty empty.After we switched rooms her room was decorated and personalized.She liked the switch just as much as we did.

And I can totally understand why you're planning it all out now.I have to have things figured out in order to be comfortable with a new situation.I want it figured out so I can move on.

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I keep thinking that the smartest thing would be to put the 2 older kids (both girls, 9 and almost 6.5) in the master bedroom and move our stuff to the biggest kid bedroom and put the baby in the other girl's room....
If the baby is going to eventually share a room with your daughter, then you don't need to move anyone. I too would have concerns about the bathroom, not to mention the thought of moving all that furniture gives me a headache!

Besides, you could probably use a space of your own to rest and be with your DH when you get 'us time'.
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I live in a 2 bd house, and my kids have the master. Lots of reasons. The master is on the 3rd level, the other bedroom is on the 1st level. The living room and kitchen are on the 2nd level.

The other bedroom is right next to the "den" (DH's man-cave) and also has a door leading to a swimming pool (big safely issue). It's also pretty small. But since I mainly hang out in the living room and have most of my stuff there, it seems rational to give the big bedroom to the kids so they can spread all their toys around where I don't have to step on them .

BTW, we co-sleep, either in their room or in my room--we do musical beds here a lot.
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When we lived in a two bedroom, my older two had the master. It just made the most sense for us. It wasn't any sort of sacrifice for us. If it works for you, do it. I don't imagine it will turn your kids into narcissistic animals.
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no, we would never give up our master bedroom. All my kids do in their rooms is sleep and get dressed anyway so long as there is room for beds then it is just fine for us.

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You should just do what works best for you. We have 5 kids in a 2 bedroom...dh and I and the youngest 2 (1 and 4)sleep in one bed in our room, and the 3 older boys ( 11, 12, 16) share the other room in bunk beds. We're fine. Whatever route you choose, you'll be fine too. It sounds like you don't really care about the room, so in your shoes, I'd give it up too. The kids have the bigger of our rooms too....because, as has been said..they play in there, their "stuff" is in there..they need more room. Dh and I are lucky to fall down in our bed and and obtain a minimal amount of sleep. It isn't a sanctuary or whatever...for those to whom it is, that'sgreat and all..but for some of us, it's a place to fall horizontal for not enough hours and where our clothes live. LOL.

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I think you could brainstorm up a bunch of ideas and present them to the family.
Something will work out.

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Yes! I firmly believe that the ginormous master bedrooms with oodles of space for all those things adults need to do in their bedrooms ; and the granite and stainless kitchens will be the hallmarks of the 2000s style. We're almost into the next decade here, so leave that old style behind and give the kids the master.

Bedrooms should be cozy IMO; especially for adults who don't play with toys in them. Better for heating costs, better for decorating, better for space planning.

(Big bathtub and off the bedroom are still cool and useful IMO. I think an up and coming thing will be the "dressing room" between the smaller bedroom and a nice but not huge bathroom (so the shower still warms the whole room) in lieu of a giant master bedroom with a giant wall of closets. I also predict an upswing in "sitting rooms" for each of the grownups of the house, but we'll probably call them "home offices" or "craft rooms".)

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I would and we did. We have two kids in a two bedroom apartment. One is a large bedroom the other is a shoebox. When it was just us and DS1 he had the smaller bedroom. But when DS2 showed up and hit about 1.5 we switched rooms and moved them in together. As a teen I had the "master bedroom" in our house as well, my mother prefered to have the room on the back of the house instead of facing the street and it gave me more space during a time where having a spot of my own was probably pretty important.

I don't want or need a gigantic bedroom. So long as there is room for our bed, clothes and some books I'm ok with it. I have the rest of the place to spread my stuff into. I'm not even sure what I would do with some of the space I've seen in people's master bedroom suites. Many of the huge bedrooms I've seen are just wasted space or used for storage. Outside of on TV or in magazines I'm not sure I've ever really seen anyone use it for anything. A private bathroom I think I could get used to though.

The bathroom is the only real issue I can think of.

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Well, I probably wouldn't do it now. I don't think it is a bad idea in future.
It seems like it would be easier to just keep things as they are and keep the baby with you. I would decide when the baby is a year old who shares and where.

I shared a bedroom with my sister most of the time growing up. No big deal.

I have changed rooms with my dd but the rooms were the same size and no bathroom involved. No furniture giving up.

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My kids share a room (we have 2 and a 3 bedroom house). They each need their private space (well my 6 yr old more than the 3 yo). So we kept 6yo's clothes in the now-guest room when we moved them in together. 6 yo plays in her closet when she wants alone time (by her design, not by my suggestion).

When we first moved them in together we made a hands off area for dd1 on the top of her dresser. That was a safe spot where dd1 could keep her creations and dd2 wasn't allowed to touch. Somewhere along the way dd2 adopted this idea and her dresser top is her special spot. I've been reprimanded by both kids for thinking about touching stuff on top of the dressers.... and in turn I ask them to keep hands off my own jewelry box (also on top of my dresser).

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6 yo plays in her closet when she wants alone time (by her design, not by my suggestion).
My dd plays in her closet too. She has turned it into a doll nursery.

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THanks so much for all the input/ideas! Our plan as it stands now: keep the baby in our room in a pack n play for awhile (how long depends on the baby), then move him/her into my oldest dd's bedroom (her room is the largest of the 3 kids' rooms). She isn't bothered by sharing, and is excited about the idea of having the baby in with her. We're going to rearrange furniture, take her computer out of her room and put it on the upstairs landing, as well as her bookcases- so we'll sort of have a kid office on the landing- to make more room in her bedroom for a crib and dresser for the baby. Younger DD will keep her own room, and so will DS. If the baby is a boy, we'll probably eventually move him to DS's room, when oldest DD is ready for some privacy. Younger DD liked the idea of sharing the big bedroom with her sister, but was really upset at the idea of giving up her room. She's my happy go-lucky kiddo, and to have her just sob at the idea of losing her room was really disturbing. So hopefully this will be a good compromise for everyone, for now. I'm not opposed to moving kids into our room at some point, and taking a smaller bedroom, but it looks like we won't have to do it now. Our furniture really won't fit and I'll have to convince DH to sell our furniture and downsize a bit first.

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kicked myself into gear today. i had been thinking of doing this for a while but had no motivation. we'll see how it goes! The bedroom looks SOOO much better as the kids room. It looks full and lively with all of their things in there and my new room looks cozy and adult now. i didn't even repaint or buy anything new! it was simply the rearrangement of stuff. amazingly now i also have a TOTALLY empty bedroom that really shows how much space was wasted in the master bedroom!
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I would have the two older girls share the bigger of the other 3 rooms. I'd keep the master bedroom for you and dh.

I agree.

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I only read the first page of replies so I hope I'm not repeating something that's been said here. Anyway, I think if it works for you for the two girls to share the master, that makes sense. What I would wonder about is whether you're going to have enough space with that much furniture in a smaller room--whether you'll feel cramped or relaxed, know what I mean? Do you need the dresser in your room? Could it live somewhere else (in the girls' room, holding things like linens or your out-of-season stuff), or do you really need that storage in your bedroom?
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I would definitely not give up the king sized bed, especially since my DH is so attached to it. When the girls are piled in it, I can actually sleep without knee in my back.

It sounds like your Dh likes his bed too and I would take that into consideration. Would it be possible to carve a small room out of the master which could be like a small bedroom or office? THe baby could stay there for years
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I think the plan makes a lot of sense. I never understood what two adults with no toys need a huge bedroom for. I wish we could do something similar. Dd's bedroom is tiny and we really have to limit her belongings to make it work. and our room is huge. It is such a waste. But dd's room is so tiny, you cannot get a double bed in it, so switching is not going to work. And ours does not have a bathroom either. It is just big.
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I babysat for a family that did this and I thought that was a smart idea! They had 2br/2ba and the smaller room was not big enough for 2 kids and toys, books, etc. They moved their girls into the master which was right next door. They had soooo much room to play in, it was great!

I think it is a good idea considering how much time kids spend in their rooms.

Good luck with the new baby!

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