I feel like my parents are one extreme (keeping EVERYTHING!) and I've gone to the other extreme (keeping nothing--LOL!) Wondering if other people have had the same experience?
Single mama to DD 10/18/03 and DS 9/15/05
Gillian - Wife to an amazing DH, Mother to 5 wonderful kiddos.
I, on the other hand, am definitely a minimalist. I tend to be hardcore about de-cluttering, and will routinely go through the house and put things in the Goodwill box. I also have a rule about buying non-necessities - if I buy a non-necessity, then I have to give something away that I already own.
My parents are not big packrats, although if I had my way I would certainly clear out a bunch of stuff- especially clothes- my mom has closets and closets full. I will never understand this womenly desire to have so many clothes. Dh and I share a closet both of our clothes for all seasons fit in there. If I cannot fit something in = organized than I have too much. For my and dh's parents that just means you need more storage. Dh's parents are definitely packrats. His mom is a hoarder, but his dad packrats other things- you have to keep every building equipment/ car piece etc because you might need it later. We refuse to put the time and energy into keeping up with it- not to mention now he is spending thousands of dollars building new sheds becasue he cannot hold it all- it seems to me the small amount saved here and there would take a long time to add up to that. We save basic things, but not every small scraps. So, I am sure they think we are wasteful. Having nice uncluttered spaces is everything for my piece of mind. I like knowing where everything is and that is nicely organized for every part of our house!
Single mama to DD 10/18/03 and DS 9/15/05
Mama to F(06/11/09) and baby boy C (06/09/11)
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Now as an adult I hate clutter, hate the thought of gobs of boxes packed away with crap, etc. My DH, on the other hand..... sigh. I am trying to convert him to the tidy side.
DH's parents keep a nice home and always have, but the attic and closets and underbeds are far more crowded with sentimental "stuff" than I would ever want to have. DH has some minor packrat tendencies, but it isn't anything major.
We don't have an attic or basement or garage. I would love a garage for our cars and tools, but we live fine without any of those. I love having tidy closets where anyone can open any of them and find what they want. I strive to keep the space under our bed clear, but it is invariably the largest flat space we have for random, short-term items. Our DD's bed has a trundle underneath, which suits me just fine.
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Kaya (29) + Laume (31) = ds Kanoa (8) and dd Zia (2)
It's a Delight-Filled Life.
I watched this TLC or some kind of show on hoarders. They have found a genetic anomaly on some chromosome. I think DH has it, too. We are not to the point of having paths through the house, but we are definitely cluttered.
So, I try to be more minimalist but to hold on to somethings for my lo's to have or discard when they are older.
the reason it has taken so long is because i wanted to do this in a specific way....sell some stuff, donate, organize, scan or photograph before i get rid of....and i've kept certain things and then realize i don't need them...so i get rid of more.
Yes! Very severe packrat parents. My husband's parents keep nothing much at all. I am trying to slim down now as I see the packrat in myself. I am also trying to teach the kids to learn to manage their stuff as well and realize it is not the things that are so important.
Sometimes clutter can be just a messy house and often it's so much more and can be so damaging to kids.
DH's parents used to be more tidy, but as they've gotten older have gotten piles of stuff all over. He doesn't have lots of "stuff," but what he has, he tends to scatter around. He also doesn't like to throw away worn-out things.
I drifted along accumulating stuff (& having stuff dumped on my doorstep!) until I was pregnant with my 1st child, then I started decluttering like crazy! I now only want to have stuff that is useful, & that has a place; enough copies to make life run smoothly, without so much as to clog the gears (pairs of socks, dishes, etc.) While I'm by no means a minimalist (I like (& use!) all my books & my art/hobby stuff very much, thank you), I'm horrified at the thought of living like my folks, so my decluttering & organizing is definitely based on avoiding familial "packrat-itis".
It's not just her house either. She has storage spaces all over the city filled with crap from 50 years ago, in addition to newspapers and Lane Bryant catalogues from 1992.
I'm not super minimal, but I do try.
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