My partner & I are curretly ttc & I am thinking long and hard about not wanting to get bogged down by "stuff" like we did with our son... I just gave away !!!!19!!!!! bags of clothes/ baby soft goods that only covered from birth to 12 monts... plus a bunch of other stuff like toys and gadgets.... needless to say WE did not buy most of this, but since it was here I TRIED to use as much as possible, but for this baby I want to start from scratch...
I have all of DS's cloth diapers, although my BG one sizes are a little leaky... DC2 will be breastfed & cosleep, so that gets rid of needing a crib or bottles n stuff... although I did keep my pump in style from my son just in case...
What would you say you absolutely HAVE to have for a baby? I dont want to get over run with clothes or "stuff" to the point where I cant enjoy my baby... I feel like I had a hard time with that with DS.
So how many outfits do you feel are the bare minimum? Any items you feel you couldn't function without? Anyone try to do it bare bones& then have to run out & get something you completely forgot about in planning?
I found that the cloth diapers, a potty (we did EC), those newborn gowns, a couple of sleepsacks, and a few little outfits were really all we relied on. I did buy stuff with DC#2, but it was stuff I WANTED, not stuff I NEEDED. Like I enjoy babylegs and think they are adorable and versatile, so I bought them to use with DC#2.
I can't think of one thing I am upset that I donated after DC#1, or that I had to run out and replace.
I'm going to have:
- A Pack and Play set up even though we're going to co-sleep, but I like to have that for nosy people, like "of course we have a place for baby to sleep, duh" etc.
- One tote of gender neutral clothes, one tote of boy clothes, one tote of girl clothes - they're big totes but they go up from baby to toddler size, so it's not that much - this is my last child so if it's a boy I will donate the girl clothes at birth or vice versa - so in all, two totes of clothes, one for the first year and one for the second, supplemented by thrift store finds
- My Mobies and the Mai Tai's
- A few of those snuggly burrito wraps with velcro, both my other babies loved those
- A tote of books/toys/lovies etc.
We don't CD so we're not going to have any of those, I know, I know. I might get some flats but probably not.
That's it. When he/she gets older I will probably find a high chair and eventually he/she will get one of the kids' toddler beds when they graduate to a twin. I'm not really concerned one way or the other.
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But for me this is my plan and all I have:
- Moses basket so she can hang out when we are out and about
-Clothing is about a dozen items per size with a few extra onesies in NB-3m
-Nursery is Crib, Rocker, Changing Table/Dresser nothing more or less
- One wrap and One Mai Tai
- 8 Blankets for swaddling
-I have just in case 6 bottles (just for an emergency if I'm sick or something comes up and I can't nurse).
But like I said the ladies I go to church with have blessed me, and I have gotten a PINK baby tub and towels so far...and a shower to come. But I am praying that many remember how simplistic I am and things don't go crazy!
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I have a bunch of carriers and have used them all, even the bjorn in the very beginning was my favorite carrier until she got big enough for her legs to dangle. I'm glad I hung on to it for just a little longer and can now get rid of it. I also expected to cosleep more, but it didn't work out. I had her crib in the nursery, expecting to use the cosleeper until she was 1 or so, and we ended up moving the crib into our room.
I had a bag of baby toys that I was ready to donate. Most of them were stuffed rattles and dolls and things that can be thrown in with the wash. I ended up forgetting about the bag and never took it to the donation site. Well, I have taken out more than half of those toys. My older dd didn't really need many toys, but my younger dd loves them and I love having enough to throw 3 or 4 in the wash regularly.
I guess my point is that I'm glad I hung on to things because things with my 2nd are nothing at all like things with my first. It's a short amount of time, and I am already preparing stuff to get rid of since we are done having babies at this point.
1. We went ahead and bought a crib, which we sidecarred for co-sleeping. It's actually one of the ones that converts to a toddler bed and then to full-size as your child grows. It was more expensive than a basic crib, but worth it since you only have to buy a bed for your child once.
2. Ditto the car seat - we spent a little more and bought a convertible one that will do for as long as DD will be in a car seat.
3. We didn't buy a stroller - we've been babywearing. We got a couple different styles of used carriers for cheap; I like the Moby the best.
4. We did buy a second-hand bouncer for those times when you need to sit the baby down for a few where the floor or a bed isn't an option, and I'm glad we did. Very handy.
5. We did fine diaper-wise with 3 dozen prefolds, 4 Thirsties, and a couple Imse Vimses. We used an old backpack for a diaper bag. I got a few of those flannel-like changing pads and they were indispensable for putting under the kiddo when changing.
6. A breast pump and a few bottles. DD nurses 98% of the time, but I usually try and keep a bottle or two in the fridge so that DH can take over for a while occasionally and let me sleep.
7. We stocked up enough clothes so that we didn't have to do laundry more than a couple times a week. DD was born in October, so we had mainly sleepers, the kind with feet, some in cotton and several fleecy ones. There were about a dozen that we actually used. We had 6 long sleeve baby undershirts and 6 short sleeve tees that we used to put under her sleepers for extra warmth. We had a couple sleep sacks and blanket sleepers, but didn't wind up using them that much, though they're nice to have on hand. Same with socks - we didn't use them much since we could not keep them on DD's feet, but we did use a couple pairs. She had a coat and a couple cold weather hats.
8. About 6 blankets of varying heaviness.
9. A couple towels, a few baby washcloths and a bottle of California Baby Super Sensitive body wash.
10. 2 or 3 crib sheets and a couple mattress pads.
Now, at 6 months, we've added a small basket's worth of toys/books and a couple dozen bibs, which have been indispensable since DD is a major drooler. We bought a Jumperoo, also second hand, which DD loves. She's super energetic, so it's been nice to be able to put her in there and let her burn off some of her "go juice." The one thing I was really surprised at how much I've liked and used was a Boppy. I never would have thought it was necessary, but we got one as a gift and it worked so much better for nursing than a bed pillow, and as DD has been learning to sit alone, it's been great for that, too.
We did just fine without so much of the stuff people swear you need. We didn't have a changing table - we don't even have a nursery yet since we've been co-sleeping. We just change her on the bed or couch or floor. Also, we didn't get a baby bath tub - honestly, all they need for a good while is a sponge bath, and after that we've just used the sink.
hmm. i'm trying to think about what i used most. yeah, t-shirts and baby legs and diapers for back up and a few blankets when he needed to be swaddled for that short period of time. he had those night gown-y things with the elastic around the bottom--those were quite good for night time ECing.
yeah. ididn't use much. LOL baby wrap, uhm, i did use his sheepskin quite a bit, can't think of much else.
Loved my Mei Tai - I used that for a year until I switched to the Ergo.
Really loved the Boppy. Nursed with it forever. I have fond memories of DS as a toddler bringing me the Boppy when he wanted to nurse.
I had a stroller/travel system but it was helpful for two reasons: 1) because I was a recovering C-section and because I lived only a few blocks from shopping and it was a convenient way to carry both groceries *and* baby without a lot of strain. 2) I really like to exercise and lived next to a great park with miles of walking paths. Although I did a ton of baby wearing I liked the option of being able to walk with the stroller too.
I used a crib but not for a long time. If I had to do over I would have just had a Pack-N-Play. I used the built in changing table all of the time since I had hard floors and didn't like the potential mess of changing on the bed. I think the Pack-N-Play is great - it can be a sleeping place, a play pen, changing area, you can travel with it, etc.
Things I didn't need: bouncy chair or swing. Bumbo (yuck, I think I used it twice). Also didn't need anything related to baby feeding: high chair, make-you-own baby food books, etc. We went straight from breast milk to table food with a few commercial jars here and there for travelling. I was given a high chair and gave it away quickly. Later I used a cheap $10 booster seat that secured to our regular dining chair.
I also think baby toys are just about worthless.
I used the bouncy chair quite a bit but we have hard floors which I didn't want to lay her on, otherwise a blanket on the floor would have been fine.
Some kind of sling/carrier.
I love our tripp trapp, we got it when she was 6 months old (with the baby set) and have used it daily since. Now at 5 1/2 she still eats better when using that rather than a normal dinning chair.
I also used the pram a lot, we got one which DD could comfortably sleep in and a walk outside did often send her off.
I'm not going to cloth diaper this time, so my stash will help pay for new things for baby. I'd like some nice muslin swaddles, but only because I bought some for a friend and fell in love with them. I don't really need them.
I'm going to go through DS's newborn toys and save or give away. I don't think we need a lot of it. I'm going to pack up his clothes to save if we have a boy or donate if it's a girl. I'm WAY more relaxed about it this time around, now that I know how much stuff babies don't need.
baby carrier (pouch, mei tai, ring sling)
blanket for bed or floor. If I were to do it over, I'd have about 10 organic flannel light blankets and 1 or 2 really nice thick quilted organic cotton blankets.
cloth diapers, of course
a nice, functional, baby bag that is cute, versatile, and quality made
a nice stroller (I really liked my Combi)
a pack n play. A safe place to put baby when I'm in the shower.
Dr. Sears baby book
Earth Mama Angel Baby Nipple Butter
organic bamboo velour and hemp nursing pads
Some really good quality multivitamins w/DHA
That probably about covers the essentials.
Also one cute baby book to store mementos.
With babies 1 and 3 I used the 'gear' a lot more. Baby #1 hated being held and was always more content on her own. She prefered the swing, bouncy seat, etc to being carried. She spent a lot of time in a pack-n-play as an older baby while I was on bedrest with #2. With baby #3 I was suddenly a single mom. I needed the bouncy seat to take a shower, I used the stroller more because I used it to carry stuff in the basket, I used the pack-n-play when we traveled. Baby #3 only co-slept a few months - I met DP and felt weird co-sleeping with baby and BF. Babies #1 and 3 also used bottles. #1 was a preemie I pumped for and added HMF for 6 months. With #3 I went back to work when he was a few months old, I pumped for a while.
Baby #2 used no baby gear - except baby carriers. She was an easy baby to wear. She nursed until she was about 18 months - for 14 months exclusively. She never took a bottle. I was a SAHM the whole time. She was such an easy 'minimalist' baby that I gave away all my baby gear. She co-slept until she was 2 or 3, then moved into the bottom bunk bed.
Now with #4....he is only a few weeks, but shows a clear carrier preference. So far he likes the bjorn and will tolerate a becco, but freaks in a ring sling. I use the bouncy seat still to shower, and the swing is a good place to put him down - with a toddler running around the floor isn't a great place for him to chill out when I'm cooking dinner. The pack-n-play will be necessary for travel (we travel a lot). I haven't gotten a double stroller yet - since I barely used/needed one with the other 3 kids, but we get out of the house A LOT more than I did as a SAHM when #1 and #2 were babies.
I have a crazy huge diaper stash from #3, so I could be all set - still use disposables with #3 and #4. I did move from pockets and aios (babies #1 and #2) to covers, wool, prefolds and fitteds - simpler.
Clothing...hard to say. I've always had way too much, but I didn't buy much for #4 - we didn't know the gender until he was born, and I had tons of boy stuff from #3. I do recommend buying the best quality clothing you can. Babies #1 and #2 wore out, stained, ruined most of the clothes. Baby #3, we had more $$ bought nicer quality and the clothes lasted.
It's hard to say what you will really need when it comes to gear, etc. As long as you have some clothes, diapers/wipes, food and a carseat, the rest can all come later. Those are the essentials to bring the baby home. A baby carrier would be great too, but you could manage to live without one.
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Washcloths - we have a ton of these also, and half a dozen towels. We've used 1 towel (the plushest), and 2-3 of the washcloths. He rarely gets a bath - our house was too cold during the winter, and it wasn't really necessary.
Bibs - we have way more of these than we need also, but most of them were hand-me-downs.
For equipment - the moses basket bassinet was barely used, he hated it. The changing table was used the first week or two, and then not since. We got a convertible car seat, and bought a second hand stroller (infant-toddler), and a used bouncy chair. We picked up a booster seat that attaches to the dining room chair, and just last week I went out and got a pack & play since he's decided falling off the bed is great fun. Other than that, a Moby, a RS and a Mei Tai.
I knit him a wool sleep sack that he's still using at night, and Aden & Anais swaddling blankets are the other essentials on my list. So, far less than most people would have you think.
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And, he was such a puker. My other two occasionally spit-up, but ds2 was constantly leaking spit-up. Like every couple of minutes. So I did use a lot of bibs on him, hadn't had any for the other two until they started on solids.
Mommy to kids
- Flat cloth diapers (30) and Kushies covers (5)
- Cloth washcloths (30)
- Sleepers and clothes (1 drawer full)
- Car seat
- Baby front/back carrier
- Swing for a few months (he hated it and never wanted to be in it)
- Bouncy seat (so I could have a shower but he hated it and we barely used it)
* DD had a crib which we only ever used as a change table so for DS we gave it away.
Cloth diapers, wipes, some blankets large enough for swaddling.
For clothing it depends on how often you wash. I liked having 10-14 sets of clothes.
1. Donated clothes from a neighbor who unexpectedly became the caregiver of her grandson (we ended up having to buy some things though like kimono shirts and snowsuits)
2. Diapers (some I made, some prefolds) and homemade diaper wipes (along with some disposables given to us)
3. 1 Wrap
5. Drop in bottle
6. Donated Breast pump
7. Donated bouncy chair
We ended up only really needing numbers 1-3. The crib was useful later on when we needed a safe place to put him when hauling furniture upstairs, but other than that, we didn't use it, though we use it now as a toddler bed. We bought a Becco baby carrier when he was older, but the wrap was fine until he was like 11 months old.
With our next kid, we want to have a moby basket for the newborn but I think that's it.
Oh we also had some pacifiers and a few toys but he didn't really play with the toys until he was older anyway.
My new native sling I bought off the TP here for $25 served me well. The downside, it was navy (great color though) and when it was hot, it absorbed the heat. So I sprang the $36 and bought a cream colored one. I also got a Moby wrap that I used all winter. The navy sling was sold for $10 on the TP (mainly to cover shipping) and the cream one was passed on to another MDC mama IRL. The moby also was sold here for $12.
CDs, I bought several FB diapers used and new for size small and xsmall (dd2 was a preemie) and sold them all back for the same exact I paid for them.
I bought meds new, several and it was about $300. She wore them literally for two years and I passed them onto another mama. I see them weekly and her tot is still wearing them. She wanted to give me $$ but I could not! They were so loved! So she promised to pass them again and she is since her sister is expecting again and her tot is learning her potty...
Clothing- depends on your baby's bowel habits IMHO and IME. My nephew was a baby who would have major explosions over boiling diapers. All the time.....LOL. Guess what, she had major laundry, she joked it was a second job. Also spit up. My DH always joked spit up and reflux is a laundry issue not a medical issue. But all fair, I know a few babies who it is a severe thing.
I am not a big stroller advocate and I hate those carseats that are used as carriers. Leave it in the car IMHO.. But we would carry our babies everywhere either in arms or sling/carrier etc. But yes, as the child gets older and heavier, strollers are good. Our best strollers were the ones we were given second hand by other parents who bought into the media hype of expensive gadgets == happy baby life etc.
-several different types of carriers, though you could probably get away w/ just one. I like different ones under different circumstances - not simple, i know
- a swing - my kids napped in it
- diapers (and washing machine)
- burp cloths, though if you went w/ flats or pfs you could use them for diapers AND burp cloths...
- a couple receiving blankets
- a bjorn little potty (works for EC through potty self-sufficiency, great for long trips, also works for a puke bowl, easy to clean)
- a weeks worth of clothes in each size plus a few plain t-shirts/onesies for pajamas
-exersaucer or walker or some kind of self-contained play setup to get the baby off the floor while I make dinner (or use the bathroom or take a shower, whatever) hand the older kids are running around (none of my kids have been content to stay in a seat for more than a few minutes, but they like the exersaucer...)
I *think* that's all i feel like we'd need... but I have more than that, sooooo, I dunno. Those are the things i use, I guess. I really should ditch the rest, eh?
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Wading slowly and nervously into this homeschooling thing.
carseats...gotta have one in each car (we like convertables)
carrier...fleece pouch and woven wrap at first...ergo for later
blankets...10 - 12 flannel or waffle weave cotton; 2 thicker quilted cotton
clothes...mountains of shirts, pants and gowns...cant' do wash every day
pump, glass bottles, lanolin...i gotta go back to work
bedrail and waterproof pads...we cosleep till around 2
sturdy tote to use as diaper bag/purse
swing...someplace safe from the bigs (and my other 2 have liked the swing)
thats it folks...not that much, really.
ETA: bibs...lots of bibs. we have spitters. a friend took a dozen of my infant prefolds and serged them into bibs...love them!
Wow, thats a great idea! How did she make the part that goes around the neck??
What a great idea! I need my prefolds for the other end, but I might pick up some cloth diapers at the thrift store for this. Great; as if I don't have enough to do!!!
Actually, I'll wait to see if this babe is a spitter-upper or not. Only our eldest was so we haven't had bibs since he was an infant.
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Right now, I have nearly my ideal amount of clothing- 2 days worth (one day being deposited in the washing bucket and one drying for the next day- we hand wash now ).
No toys. We live in the wilderness beside a mountain, on a farm with livestock and this baby has four siblings and two parents and neighbours on property to engage him/her. We've had very few toys since I decluttered them (all gifts) with ds1 six years ago; he didn't care for toys at all as an infant. I am generous with our 'real household stuff' for exploration.
I will likely acquire another bouncy seat. My babies are heavy and our bouncers don't last through more than one baby. We put ds3 into one and it just slowly bent to the floor after a week of use. We didn't replace it actually; he spent lots of time on the couch next to me (when not in-arms) and barricaded in with cushions).
Like pps, my dc are amazingly aware of babies on the floor, but if I have to leave the room and prefer to take a minute by myself to do that, I like having a device to keep baby safe. I was chronically ill (much worse after my 2 c/s with first two babies) with my first four babies, and bouncers saved me from more pain than I already had, and provided a little bit of rest from all-day in-arms carrying/breastfeeding.
At night, when the newbie would finally be asleep on me for a while, I would transfer him to the bouncer so I could stretch and relax and still have baby next to me and comfortably sleeping. Then when I wanted to sleep, I'd take baby with me to bed. It was handy. I have not before been physically able to baby-wear, but I am hoping this time, being healthy for the first time in my life, I will. If I'm not yet ready, the baby will be in-arms like all the others, and bounced late at night before bed (unless the bouncer just flops). The rigid ones don't work for us (too upright and hard-feeling), so we have to buy the really bouncy ones that don't seem to tolerate heavy babies for very long.
I have three dozen prefolds and I have had to purchase a set of thirty wash cloths with each new baby because by the time the next one has arrived, the old ones are threadbare and become fabric toy stuffing or really dirty job cloths.
We still have receiving blankets from ds1, nearly 7 yrs ago. I use them a lot with newbies. I fold one for under the baby on the bed, use them for pp bleeding tucked into my undies, for underneath baby when changing (which we do on the floor), for sopping up wet stuff that inevitaby seeps, flows or squirts out of baby (or me ), drying after bathing baby, wrapping in cool weather, covering in car seat, etc.... They are like giant shop towels for newborn infant and pp mama care. I love them.
That's it for us. I carry diapers and change of clothing in a cloth bag when we're out, along with my wallet and water to drink and wash baby, respectively. Baby will mostly just make do with what we have and that's not much.
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My mom will be living with us at the time, in a small 2.5 bedroom apartment. So I'm busy cleaning out and really questioning what we need.
I also found that baby toys were just not as needed the second time around because baby/small toddler could just play with safe older toys, such as blocks and larger cars. So I will be getting rid of even more toys.
I'm enjoying this conversation.
i also agree we have moved from the buy-in-advance mentality to the wait-and-see-what-we-actually-need mentality...it is making this pregnancy so much less stressful.
i just can't decide what to do about the pack n play and bassinet. dd occasionally slept in the bassinet for naps as a newborn...ds never did. the pack n play was given to use used and has only been used by my babysitter for her son when she would come over. BUT we also got rid of our crib about a year ago...and i'm wondering if its a good idea to have SOME sort of designated baby sleep space? ds coslept with us from birth till 11 months then moved to a twin...so i don't anticipate this baby ever needing a baby sleep space, so to speak...but also not sure if it would be prudent to keep it. still thinkin on that one.