Doing housework of any kind is a MASSIVE struggle for me. I'm just not one of those people who can turn on some music and get busy while singing along. I have to be 100% in my head focused on the task or I cannot do it. Its very likely an ADD type thing (pretty much 100% of my family of origin is, some medicated, some not) but I don't know how to move past it!
I can do "black and white" tasks without difficulty. Unloading the dishwasher. Remove dishes. Put in cupboard. I'm done when the dishwasher is empty. Black and white. Laundry. Take clothes from hamper, put in washer, add soap, push buttons. Easy. Putting away is difficult because I can't put away in the kids rooms when they're sleeping and its difficult for me to do anything when they're underfoot. too distracting since housework takes so much mental energy out of me, I just don't have any to spare for even the simplest of kid chatter. I get so frazzled trying to listen/respond and do what I need to do that I'll finally just snap and scream.
so tasks that are not black and white, very difficult. if I'm loading the dishwasher, I'm thinking about whether a given dish needs to be rinsed, which i'd rather wash by hand if they're too big, whether they're packed so tightly they won't get clean, not to mention "tetris"ing everything in there. Thats a relatively tame example, because ultimately, I *can* do it.
What I cannot do, at all, is clutter. And thats the bulk of it. My kitchen counter right now, has a LOT of stuff on it. small appliances that I use often, like blender and toaster. plenty of dirty dishes, boxes of cereal, bottles of vitamins, a donut box that only has 1 bite left in it, plastic wrap, candle, fan, cooler, paper towels, newspaper ads, some things that need to go out to recycling.. and plenty more, thats just what I'm managing to pick out. Its kind of a two fold problem. "Seeing".. I mean, obviously my vision is fine
but i see the mass as one whole entity. The Mess. I don't see individual things.. I guess thats hard to explain when I DID point out individual things, but trust me.. it takes considerable effort. Because not all of it IS "The Mess" Some of it is "legitimate kitchen counter items" The second part of the problem is deciding what the heck to do with it. Whats what? Its a good place for the fan on hot days. The paper towels belong. The plastic wrap is a huge costco box and would be very awkward to put into a cupboard. The dishes, and recycling are obvious mess. The toaster and blender.. well, the counter could be a good home, or they might need a home in the cupboard to declutter. vitamins are nice to have out and available, but its also more clutter. cereal boxes are nice to have out and available.... and do you see where I'm going? There is NO LINE between "saves time to just leave it out" and "put that crap in a cupboard so you have room to prepare a meal"
My SIL is like a tornado in the kitchen. She was over when I was having dd's birthday party, and she was just whipping through clearing things away as they weren't needed, wrapping up leftovers and cleaning up spills.. stuff that would have gone WAY over my head. Its just her personality and strength. My brain does not work that way. I probably can't force it to, but gosh, it'd be nice to have some amount of skills in that department. I don't expect to have a perfect house, but to have a clue what to do so that cleaning in 15 min spurts, or making mondays be cleaning day, or whatever I decide is even a possibility.. it would be nice.
Does anyone else have this problem?