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#1 of 4 Old 03-13-2011, 12:04 PM - Thread Starter
 
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It's not that I don't know how to simplify or declutter.  I've read all the books, or most of them, anyway.  I've implemented lots of things, some with success.  I get why decluttering is good and I strive for it.

 

No, what is holding me back from the last bit is that I truly have to deal with the emotional reasons why I'm attached to things.  Sometimes getting rid of the things allows the emotions to follow, but sometimes you get blocked just short of getting rid of the things, and then...you still have the things, and wonder why it isn't easier just to toss them or rehome them or move them or whatever.  And the reason is that you have emotional work do to, or personal growth that has to happen, before you can.

 

So here I go - I'm through with reading about it, through with berating myself.  Time to do the inner work that will allow the outer work to happen!

 

 

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Good luck with it!

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I have the same problem, Worthy. I have X-mas ornaments I've had for 15 years and have never put on my tree. Mainly because I've never had a tree of my own to put them on. I keep them because they were a gift from my sisters. But, the thing is, they were a gift to my ex-husband and I as a "first X-mas together" gift and are engraved with our names and the year. Would I ever put these things on my tree if I had one? Not unless I got my ex's name and the date scratched off. So, why do I keep them? My sisters would certainly not be offended if I get rid of them, they would totally understand me not wanting to keep something that has his name on them. And frankly, they've probably forgotten that they've given me these things. And yet, every time I do a major cleaning those ornaments get put in their box and put back in the drawer I keep them in. Why?

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