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#31 of 33 Old 06-11-2012, 04:46 PM
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wanted to say you are so brave and good for you.  i'm not in exactly the same situation, but i know how it is to live in emotional conditions that destroy your family, and to make that decision to leave the situation is terrifying and you wonder about the aftermath of that decision on your children. i do think its for the best, and you're feeling that already. i would be open to the kids seeing a therapist if they'd be willing, it has helped my son a lot, both with the issues about why we left as well as the leaving. also, if you are able to get to a point where you and your (ex?) are on good terms, and can coparent, the kids will benefit and not feel the effects of dad-is-gone on top of everything else.  huge hugs to you, and again know this was very brave and for the best, though surely it wont feel that way all the time :hug

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Originally Posted by philomom View Post

Just wanted to add... photos need to show specifically not only the fire hazards or blocked entryways but the way the hoarding is affecting the children's normal lives. Can they still eat dinner around the table? Are their rooms clear enough to play in? Can they access the closets with their clothes or the fridge with healthy snacks? Is the bathroom safe from tripping hazards.... etc, etc. I think its important here to show the negative impact of the clutter on the children's daily lives.

that is also important if you are seeking assistance from him so that you can get another place (rent/spousal support/child support etc) to show to the judge that the enviroment he created is not only dangerous but unhealthy for your kids that you had to seek another residence

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just readc the update. glad things are looking up

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