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#1 of 3 Old 03-03-2014, 04:01 PM - Thread Starter
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Hi ladies! This is my first post to mothering, and excited to hear some feed back.
When I was growing up we moved as a family A LOT. So, I learned over time, that it's easier to have less, and it's easy to re-accumulate things. I don't keep items, and hardly ever form emotional attachments to things. This has been an easy and simple way of life for me. My husband on the other hand is very different. He lived in ine house, one room his whole life, and has let the stuff overflow. Since we've been together he has drastically cut his clutter, with my guiding hand. But, now he has gotten to a point where he feels like he has gotten rid of so much, that the job is done. I'm very thankful for the steps he has taken, but I would still like to get rid of at least half. I in no way expect him to be a minimalist, but don't see why we need stuff in boxes that haven't been opened in two years. His favorite thing to do (to appease me) is say "it's worth a lot of money, so I'm going to sell it." Which never ends up happening and just sits there.
Has anyone else gone through something similar? What steps did you take to cut back, when it isn't your stuff? Any tips?
Thank you!
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My suggestion would be to drop the issue and let him come to his own conclusions. If the stuff is a problem help with organizing. If there is an out of the way place to hide unopened boxes they are not really a problem.

You don't want your help to be perceived as a personal "attack" of his stuff. This could create a problem with your relationship.

Going minimalist is great. I moved and have done it so well. I love it! But you have to want it.
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I found a similar thread on Reddit that may help you: http://www.reddit.com/r/declutter/co...oarder_family/
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