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#1 of 8 Old 04-22-2014, 10:28 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Has anyone ever just done a major overhaul on their living space? I know most of us are in the same boat, as moms who are mostly is not totally responsible for keeping the house in order & clean. I'm just done struggling with all of the "stuff" and the major tasks that never get done like cleaning out the laundry room, garage, etc. I figure, we have lived here 3 years and RARELY use anything we have piled in the garage. I just want to get rid of 95% of it, and go through every room and closet and cupboard and get rid of a huge portion of everything too- I hate that our closet is packed with stuff (after going through it ten times already) and that we still don't wear the majority of what we have. We are not well-to-do, I wouldn't say we have an outrageous amount of belongings, but we do have so, so, so much clutter lurking in every corner. I've tried "organizing" and sorting and getting rid of some things, but it is still ridiculous. I'm ready to just donate and remove the vast majority of things we have. I just don't know how to start, and where the best drop offs for large amounts of donated goods are. So ready. I'm about to start working out of the home part time again and I want to do this NOW to streamline my life. 

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I am right there with you! I started out with making a huge pile of stuff to be donated, but I think from now on I will keep one box accessible and bring it someplace whenever it gets full (which will probably be daily for a while). Right now we are taking things to oir local Savers store, since they give a receipt for tax purposes.
I just up and one day decided that I had enough and I furiously started throwing things away. But a lot of it is in great condition so I decided to donate it. DH wanted to consign, but I dont have the time or desire to go through that for all of the crap we have. Now I am going through each room and completely emptying it and only putting what we need back in. I am keeping a box or two for sentimental things that we can display once the kids get older but everything else goes. Even toys. I can see that my kids are overwhelmed by too much stuff too, so out it goes. I will keep their favorite toys that they use regularly and rotate them. But nothing new comes in until something old goes out. I am so done with taking care of stuff!!!
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I haven't done this, but it is really tempting. I keep tripping over clutter in every room. None of us use all the little odds and ends, so why are they here? Ack!

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Babysmurf & Mamapigeon just posting here got me motivated, lol! I read about going through and getting rid of stuff first, THEN organizing. I think my mistake in the past may have been trying to clean/discard/organize at the same time! Because I would get one space done and be burned out, or be mor elikely to just organize the clutter and put it away vs getting rid of it. I just took out about 7 bags fromt he garage this afternoon of things to donate! Just a dent but it feels good :) I told DH that I'm just going to do it, if it hasn't been used or isn't important it is gone. He said ok!

 

I just began to realize things like how in one of our kid's rooms stuff (little odds and ends) have been piling on their dresser (it use dto also be a changing table so it has a ledge around it) FOREVER and I swear that pile never gets smaller, and nothing gets played with that goes up there. Sure, we could go through and put away and organize every little thing, but what is more concerning is- if it's been up there so long (or in the garage so long, or unworn so long) WHY do we have it, taking up space? it will just inevitably end up in a heap someplace again. There are examples of this all over the house- closet, cupboards, laundry room, bathroom drawers, the garage. I have made so many attempts to "get on top of it" but I began to realize a lot of "stuff" needs to go first. Also I never gave myself full "permission" to get rid of other people's things (the kids are young, and if given the choice would say "keep" to most of their junk. DH just never actually gets around to going through things and I swear he has more things piled up than I do. I would rather take the risk to make a clean slate, then in the future let them make the choices as we go along).

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Also about too much toys- That is one of my issues with the kid stuff. They have some really great toys, puzzles, games and art materials- what I tend to invest in- but they also have A LOT of little crummy things they never play with, or something they thought was "cool" for a day then were over it. We have kind of changed what we buy for them with this wisdom in mind, however they still have a lot of old stuff we haven't gone through.

 

This time around I have really been reflecting on myself and what I keep around- I always go through clothes and think "oh maybe I will wear that again" and fold it up and put it away, or just never throw out or donate the excess pots, pans, and plates we've come to have after combining households years ago. Stacks of papers and documents I don't go through. Beauty products I haven't used in a long time collecting in the bathroom. What is crazy is I am a really simple (at heart) person! I always have a few favorite things and like two pairs of shoes that I wear all the time and never touch my other stuff. I prefer certain cooking utensils over others, and use minimal bath and beauty products. DH is the same- has his favored shirts and pants and jackets, yet he owns more hoodies and shoes than any guy I know personally. he favors the same coffee cup every morning but we own like 15. The kids are even the same! They prefer legos, books, puzzles, art supplies, and a few favorite special toys. Everything else just pile sup or gathers dust!

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I haven't personally done that before, but I recently read a blog post from a mom who did just what you are describing:

http://www.livingwellspendingless.com/2012/09/14/why-i-took-all-my-kids-toys-away-why-they-wont-get-them-back/
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When I go through a heap of stuff the first time, I try to focus on trash first, replacing the thought "Can I use this?" with "Can I get along without this?" Before I sort or put away or make any other decision--just "trash or not trash?"

 

Sometimes I'm not ruthless enough to decide to trash rather than give away, so the decision will instead be "Keep or go?" The "go" goes in a box, and later I decide on trash or giveaway.

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I'm in the middle of a major cleanout right now! Dh (a bit of a packrat) just helped clean out two households when family moved to assisted living and dragged home waayyy too much stuff. We've also lived in this house for 19 years and it has a full attic and basement for storage so over the years too much stuff built up, most of which we never use. I've reached my limit....we're drowning in clutter and it's got to go even if some of it goes to waste in my hurry to clear out!

Usually I put some stuff (esp DH's) in "purgatory" to see if we miss it before it goes but in the last few years DH's Mom has gone from "packrat" to "TV Worthy Hoarder with a side of Batshit Crazy" and watching that train wreck has given me an extra urge to toss everything we don't need as fast as I can !
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