Update: Dh and I sat down and made a weekly routine of sorts, including both his recurring work projects (he works from home) and housework. Stuff is still tending to spill over considerably from its allotted day, but at least we are now actually getting everything done at some point at least once during the week (ok, except mopping, but maybe we'll work up to that).
I in particular could now qualify for Housekeeping Goddess status IF there were only two rooms in our apartment. The bedroom and bathroom look great. I made the beds this morning, picked/wiped up twice today (in those rooms only), and it was no big deal. The problem is, these are the easy rooms. Now to attack the living room and the kitchen (which are still atrocious, and where all the messy stuff takes place)...
At least half of you are probably going to laugh or shake your head sadly at me, but last night was so great: Even after doing nothing up until 1:00 mass and then having a relaxed lunch afterwards and continuing to be fairly harmonious all day (meaning plenty of interruptions :-)), we had our work (including some paid work dh has to do over the weekends) put aside in time to prepare a one-pot dinner and eat it and relax afterwards and still get to bed by midnight. (Yes, this is supposed to be a big accomplishment. :LOL) We're so cool.
I'm off to clean the living room!