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Organize & Declutter > Has anyone ever tossed something of dh's without asking?
Cranberry's Avatar Cranberry 11:48 AM 04-11-2005
Originally Posted by Greaseball
Ugh...National Geographic!
Same problem here. The NG magazines are in the basement somewhere so I don't have to look at them stacked all over the house.

Greaseball's Avatar Greaseball 12:31 PM 04-11-2005
We're moving in 2 weeks and our new place has a large garage (here we just have a storage closet) so I'm sure dh will have less motivaiton to go through and toss stuff.

Yesterday I threw away this yo-yo he had. It looked broken, and the string was all twisted. But then he told me it was a souveneir. So I guess you never can tell. I have all sorts of souveneirs that people might think are junk, but I do keep them more contained.
Mavournin's Avatar Mavournin 05:32 PM 04-12-2005
Oh I throw away stuff all the time. (Don't think that means my house is clean or organized... ) I stop myself from junking all of his nasty boxes in the basement (even though they are starting to grow mildew) but I feel free to toss ugly clothes, holey underpants, old newspapers (this is a big one in our house) and the like. It is one of the only ways I can keep this zoo under a facade of control.
Jyotsna's Avatar Jyotsna 09:41 PM 04-23-2005
I wonder, though, do husbands just need a certain amount of space that is theirs to store junk in and that their wives will never attempt to clean?
When my dh ( husband) and I first got married, we had to combine two households. I had been living in my apartment for YEARS, and he in his for YEARS. I really had no idea just how much stuff he had. When the moving truck arrived, I was over there to help.

OMG! It was coming out of the kitchen cabinets, the closets, the linen closet, just bags and crates of crap! I was astonished at how much junk one man could have. I tried and tried to get him to reduce some of this stuff before he moved into our house, but he wouldn't. When we got to our house with the truck, I remembered we had two storage rooms in the garage, and basically we hooked up the washer and dryer in MY storage room, and all his crap went into his storage room.

I had so few things to move into the house except the furniture, dishes and pots, small appliances and rugs. I had clothing and about 10 small boxes of knick knacks which were sentimental. I also had a piano and one bookcase of music books.

He literally had garbage, and bags and bags of those plastic grocery bags. Well, it certainly wasn't a great way to start a marriage.

At some point I tossed all the garbage and he was so mad.

We both had furniture. My furniture was in excellent condition, and he had bought his ...all of it...for about $50. It was junk. He was emotionally attached to it and I just couldn't understand it. We had agreed that we would sell his furniture, and keep mine. When it came down to it, at the moment that the people were paying way too much for it, he almost backed out! We didn't even have room for both sets. Fortunately he did sell it and I was very relieved. He told me no matter what, that he wanted to keep his bed, and so we stored it in the his storage room. We moved it with us everywhere we have moved. That and all the crap he never got rid of. It had an impact on our marriage.

You know, I think when men get married, they are happy, but there is a part that doesn't want to let go of their bachelor life. I think he wanted to keep all that junk because it reminded him of when he still had full control of his life. Getting married means comprimise, and while most men want to do that, they feel like they have to hang on to their crap. I saw a show once where the husband kept all his stuff in one of those monthly storage rooms that has the pull up door. He arranged it like an apartment, and spent HOURS there playing games, listening to his music and inviting his friends over to his secret pad. His wife didn't know about it and when she finally did know, she was livid. I think what came out of that was that he still needed to hold on to some of his past, to remember the day when he didn't need to ask his wife first before doing something.

For some reason, women move into marriage prepared for comprimise, and men have to slowly move into that position. My husband didn't want to lose control of his old life, and must have had alot of reluctance to get married even though he asked me to marry.
AmandaBL's Avatar AmandaBL 10:45 PM 04-23-2005
Kleine Hexe & I were just talking about this thread today. Her DH now has what I assume is an equally annoying plate on the front of the truck... :LOL

I recently almost threw away a bucket that had about 10 rolled up Pearl Jam Ames Bro. posters of DH's in it. I decided not to (I'm not above it believe me - I toss tons of his stuff regularly. He travels a lot & wil not get rid of T shirts. OLD ones he hasn't worn since the 80's!!!) And he recently sold 4 of them on E Bay for a total of $900 : I kid you not. I will ask before tossing anything else.
darsmama's Avatar darsmama 12:04 AM 04-24-2005
lmao at some of your stories
MaryBethMoore's Avatar MaryBethMoore 08:54 PM 04-30-2005
Originally Posted by Greaseball
My dh has three dressers full of clothes he never wears! It's been a constant source of struggle. I finally said it was fine if they stayed in the garage. So tempted to throw those out...
At least they're in dressers My dh has just as many in various places around the house.

Mary Beth of Paul(8), Harry(6), and Timmy(3)
Elphaba's Avatar Elphaba 03:25 AM 05-01-2005
gridley13's Avatar gridley13 02:15 PM 05-03-2005
My dh will wear his clothes until they are NASTY. He works in the kitchen in our restaurant all day and plus, he is just a messy person. So they get stained, etc. But he doesn't ever want to buy new ones.

One pair of shorts were just beyond gross, and he kept wearing them. I suggested he throw them away but he refused. So.... every time I would wash them and put them away, I would secretly take my seam ripper and take out just a few stitches here and there. Lo and behold, one day they ripped at the crotch while he was at work. He threw them away. :LOL
Greaseball's Avatar Greaseball 03:13 PM 05-03-2005
My dh used to be a cook at a Mexican restaurant and would come home all greasy! And he saved every t-shirt he had from that restaurant. He has a whole dresser full of them. All covered in grease stains.
gridley13's Avatar gridley13 04:12 PM 05-03-2005
Originally Posted by Greaseball
My dh used to be a cook at a Mexican restaurant and would come home all greasy! And he saved every t-shirt he had from that restaurant. He has a whole dresser full of them. All covered in grease stains.
Maybe HE should be named Greaseball instead of you. :LOL
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