I've been flying on and off for over a year and the impact has been amazing!
My favorite concepts:
- No whining! This is hard at first but pays big dividends, DH actually flys now too without realizing it
- Progress not Perfection: Flylady does not need or want us to be perfect--she encourages us to take what we like and leave the rest and start with baby steps
- DELETE DELETE DELETE -- Remember if you're getting stressed about the e-mails, delete at will, there will be more tomorrow and you won't miss anything--it always comes around again.
- You are never 'behind', just start today with where you are.
What I've learned about this program so far and some of my thoughts on it:
I've made all kinds of changes/concessions to this program but I have to say that starting small with the simple things (like shiny sink, shoes, etc) really does lead to bigger changes. This program is totally about what you make it, there are no MUSTS and no SHOULDS there are a lot of great suggestions and advice though.
If you're stuck and you find there is a particular activity or suggestion you're strongly resisting you may want to "surrender" to it for awhile, do it as suggested and see if you get results. Sometimes I see posts from women who get all up in arms about the shoes or the shiney sink or something else, and they haven't even tried it. They're already invested in creating a huge argument about why that won't work for them. I made up my mind in the beginning to try things first as recommended and modify only after giving them a fair trial. This way I'm free to follow a trail that's already been laid down--I don' have to bushwack my own--and no, I don't always have my shoes on in the house, but I'm more effective when I do. In the beginning I never showered/dressed etc. before getting on the computer but now I do---this seems to be really effective too!
I'm so glad to see this post, flying has really freed me from the tyrrany of housework...I have a completely different home environment and attitude, and boy, do I like it better than what I had before.
One more thing, this program is not about living to do housework, it's about making housework take up as little of your precious time and energy as possible while freeing you for more creative, fulfilling, satisfying things. And you'll end up with a warm, comfortable, clean, peaceful environment in which to do them--we all deserve this!
all the best,
#1 edd 12/04/02 (when we'll really see how FLYING works)!