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Dh, Me , DD 10 , DD 7 , DD 4
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Originally Posted by bu's mama
A couple of things I've tried...
- membership to X. We belong to the local childrens' museum & my mother renewed our membership for Christmas. She & my IL's are all on the membership so they can go with dd anytime. We celebrate by going there with my mother. My IL's are getting us a membership to the Bronx Zoo for dd's birthday. We'll probably go about 6x/year, but I think it's worth it.
-be specific! My mother got dd a basketball hoop with an adjustable height for her birthday. I'm not big on plastic toys, but dd always plays with this at other's houses & it will get a lot of use. I had to tell her exactly what to get though.
-have a theme. I read about this on MDC. Tell everyone you're having an art theme & each person should buy one thing for the art box - a pack of paper, markers, etc. or you're setting up a dress up box & each person should bring something for pretend play (I think I'll do this for dd's birthday next year).
-plan a special day that involves being together & not things. We incorporated this with membership gifts, but as dd gets older, maybe a day out with grandma or grandma & poppy, doing something they both enjoy, probably without me.
Good luck - I know it's hard especially when they mean well.
Originally Posted by AmyY
Thank you so much for these fantastic ideas, mamas! I am glad I communicated clearly that these relatives love us all and are loved by us all and that this is about keeping the relationship and somehow dealing with all the *stuff.*
I think I will go with a specific list this year, and will plan to somehow recycle toys beginning sometime in the new year. I'm still not sure what toys might hold an interest for the girls as they get older, and which ones they have outgrown, so I'm going to wait a bit on that.
Also, I expect that with the relatives I've mentioned, they will follow the list to the letter and also do the impulse buying. Did I mention they are 60+ and I worry about retirement funds? :LOL I think I will ask them how they prefer that I handle toys/clothes that have been outgrown (I will put it that way instead of "we didn't want them"). They may prefer to take them back and recycle them themselves with other little children in their lives, or more likely they will say to do whatever we want. But since they put lots of time and money into the purchases I hate to just cart the items off without mentioning something.
Thanks again for these thoughts mamas. Now I'm off to grow a spine before September...
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