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#1 of 10 Old 10-07-2005, 12:25 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I'm not sure where I read this but it was a Buddhist type thing.

The reason we cling to things so dearly is because we are denying death. We think -- or some part of us does -- that if we hang onto these things we will not die, or that life will not change. Therefore, releasing "stuff" frees us to be in the moment of life, not clinging to what is old and past and often useless (to us anyway).

It comforts me to think of this as I resist letting go of my "beloveds" sometimes. And it HAS gotten much easier to let go, overall. I much rather would have the peace that an empty corner brings.
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Thank you for sharing that! It's an awesome ideal! I wish I could realize it, though. :LOL

This weekend, we tried to clean out our garage. We moved here in August and it's been piled high with boxes ever since. I found a box full of letters that dh and I wrote to each other in high school! That was 12 years ago. I couldn't bring myself to throw them away. Maybe if I just keep reading your post I will be able to let them go.
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I KNOW! Easier said than done right?! ESPECIALLY about papers: kid papers, drawings, letters, ticket stubs...aww man!!!!!!
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Thank you for sharing that! It's an awesome ideal! I wish I could realize it, though. :LOL

This weekend, we tried to clean out our garage. We moved here in August and it's been piled high with boxes ever since. I found a box full of letters that dh and I wrote to each other in high school! That was 12 years ago. I couldn't bring myself to throw them away. Maybe if I just keep reading your post I will be able to let them go.
I refuse to throw things of emotional value away. I have a special place for them . Right now they're in an old suitcase and when I can affotrd it I'm getting a cedar chest just for my momentos. To me, that's not clutter, it's on the same level as the family photo album.
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I love what you shared about decluttering and it makes alot of sense. My husband and I try so hard to keep our space free of excess stuff - we think better, enjoy life more and keep it simple for our 2 year old. I spend most of my decluttering time in ds's room to organize and store all the clothes, books and toys he outgrows. And we have kept it minimal from the beginning - but even with very little baby stuff or even toys, it is a constant struggle.

In order to keep the stuff flowing and the energy clear around our house, we came up with guidelines for sorting, organizing and/or tossing. Our guidelines are these:

If it isn't useful, beautiful or meaningful, it goes. Period. And those qualities -useful, beautiful or meaningful - pretty much sum up the way we aspire to live our lives. After 4 years of maintaining this standard (almost 3 of them as new parents) our house is starting to take shape as a very special, tranquil, relaxing home!
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I thought I was replying to another thread about a Buddhist "decluttering" philosophy but I messed up and started a new thread. Well, that was my decluttering thought on it's own, for whatever it is worth!
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It is so hard for me

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i like your thought.. but i'm not sure if it would work for me. :LOL

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I refuse to throw things of emotional value away. I have a special place for them . Right now they're in an old suitcase and when I can affotrd it I'm getting a cedar chest just for my momentos. To me, that's not clutter, it's on the same level as the family photo album.
same here. there are just some things that i will not throw away. like the dress my grandma made for me before she passed away. does not fit my dd, and i don't think we will be having anymore children.. so it's near useless. but i love it. i love that it makes me smile everytime i look at it, and that it was made with love *just for me*. so it's a keeper. same with the letters dh used to write to me.. and a diary me and my best friend kept for eachother when she went overseas in HS.. etc etc you get the idea. they are all going in a one memory chest. i figured it's just one chest. what's one chest in the grand scheme of things if it fills your heart with love and your mind with sweet memories everytime you open it?
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If it isn't useful, beautiful or meaningful, it goes.
I like that. I think I might make a nice sign with that and bring it to each room as I am trying to declutter.

I'm the sentimental type--everything has sentimental value...letting go is so rewarding though.
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