I've complained about this before (and gotten flamed for it, so hopefully none of that here
). MIL and Mom are buying fanatics. They have gotten to the point where they cannot enter our home without a bag of stuff for the kids, usually toys, clothes and other junk. The thing is they are both here 5 days out of the week! I can't handle it anymore. I've complained to no avail and while I'm grateful they are thoughtful enough to buy them things (since my grandparents never did that for me) it is just too much! It's gotten to the point I feel sick when they come and when MIL mentiones the Salvation Army, I sigh and roll my eyes. It's just too much stuff!!
DH and I have pack rat issues
. We're the kind of people who hate to throw anything out, although we do. We seem to be giving away things hand over fist and we're learning to cut ties with sentimentality. As we speak, my living room is torn apart as I'm seperating things to give away. I try to do this regularly otherwise there wouldn't be room for us
I want to address our mothers in a way that is clear and concise. I am thinking of emailing them the same letter together with links
to why it's not good for kids to have so much stuff/to be given stuff as they are. (sorry, had to bold that so it would stand out
). I dont' know any sites or studies that talk of this so if you do, please share!!
Neither child has ever learned to enjoy just one toy and to be honest, they are more content playing with our video collection than any toy we have (except for trains, puzzles, computer and books). I am really dreading Christmas as it's been a fiasco in the past, grandparents subliminally fighting over who got them the most toys. I think I have mom buying them bedroom furnishings, which isn't too bad. I dont' know what to tell MIL if she asks what to get them.
I don't want them to become greedy or selfish and expect things all the time. I'd like to be able to buy the toys I think would benefit them most. I'd like to be able to buy them clothes without feeling guilty about all the clothes they have, even though I don't care a lot for them. I want most of all to walk into our apartment and not be so depressed about all the clutter.
OK, a lot of that is a vent but any suggestions are more than welcome
. I need to get this under control!