|You've got to do laundry, clean, and cook. You either have a system to keep up with it and live more peacefully, or you let everything pile up around you and get overwhelmed.
When I first started hearing FlyLady mentioned on these boards, the thought of the e-mails scared me. She sounded like an authoritarian perfectionist type, which also turned me off. But then I thought should at least check it out. I'd been using Motivated Moms and enjoying it, but I thought I should see if there was anything else I could learn.
So I did. I went to the website and read her testimonial and the Beginner baby steps. I started doing the baby steps, one per day, as she suggested. I liked the fact that she just wanted me to do ONE thing per day at first. So I did it. And I liked what was happening in my house. The shiny sink thing sounds silly but it really does work.
After about a week, I decided to sign up for the e-mails, because I liked the way my house looked. And they totally were not that bad! I get them sent to my personal e-mail account, so that I don't get them at work. Half of them are just reminders that can be deleted right away, like "drink your water" or "have you thought about dinner yet today?". As for the others, she does urge you when you are just starting out NOT to do them all, just read them for 2 minutes per day, to help you start learning the flow of things. I actually found that I liked all the e-mails, and the testimonials, too. They encouraged me. They helped me get through the difficult time of setting up a new routine, when it is so easy to drop it. We all know we need routines, but when your life is busy, it really helps to have someone cheering you on to set one up. Who else is going to pat me on the back for cleaning my toilet?
I think that is the main thing about FlyLady. She is all about "mothering the new mother" although she doesn't phrase it that way. It feels like someone is looking out for me, giving me encouragement for even the littlest things, like getting to bed on time so that I get enough rest, that kind of thing. Anyway, I've only been doing this for a while, but my house looks better than it has in years, I'm not feeling stressed because everything is in crisis mode, and my DH and I are even getting along better. I'm doing more housework than I was before, but I somehow have more time for myself, too, and I am even having fun some of the time when I'm cleaning, which I never thought would be possible.
I think at some point, my routines will be established enough that I won't need the e-mails, but for now, I'm sticking with them. I'm also still using Motivated Moms and enjoying that, too. After being the "answer person" all day at work, it is so nice not to have to think and plan what to do next. I just check my list and do it.
Anyway, if you are at all curious about FlyLady, I suggest going to the website and trying the BabySteps first, before signing up for the e-mails. It's free, so there's really nothing to lose.