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I'm a first timer. I want to set a goal, say............700 items. Ambitious to have as many as possible good enough to be sold.



I'm having a garage sale, and really need to get creative. Keep in mind that I have a quite stubborn SO who is a MAJOR packrat.

How do you pry those "precious treasures" (i.e. JUNK that he's forgotten about) from your DH's grasp? I really need him to downsize the clothing and knicknacks.

ETA: He has at least twice as many clothes asn DS and I put together. Seriously.

What do I do?
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I often get rid of things of his and he has yet to notice. We have been married 13 years. I tend to toss when he is not around. I also know which items he is aware of and would miss. We also have a storage closet in the basement and I give him a time frame. If you have not removed the item(s) in question to use in the past 2 years it is getting tossed. Then you actually have to toss it.

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I'd like to know, too! Dh has TONS of shirts and most of them he never wears. We'd have so much more closet space if he would downsize.
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I just toss his things when he isn't here. If he hasn't needed it, used it or forgotten that it existed it goes out. So far, he has not asked for anything I got rid of.

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I'd like to know, too! Dh has TONS of shirts and most of them he never wears. We'd have so much more closet space if he would downsize.
Are you married to my husband by any chance? DH's thing is old clothes, especially old Tshirs. His side is much bigger than mine. He will never wear these clothes again but he refuses to throw them away. Everytime I put his clean laundry in the closet I'm afraid the pile of shirts will fall on my head . And yes, if I throw away something he notices
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Are you married to my husband by any chance? DH's thing is old clothes, especially old Tshirs. His side is much bigger than mine. He will never wear these clothes again but he refuses to throw them away. Everytime I put his clean laundry in the closet I'm afraid the pile of shirts will fall on my head . And yes, if I throw away something he notices
I was going to ask the same Q?

My soon to be DH has so many tee shirts. I swear, we wouldn't be behind on laundry if we didn't have as much to wash. He has more shoes than I do. That's just wrong.

We're going to have a yard sale next month, and I'm going to talk to him. Seriously. When was the last time you wore this?

Shira, would he be okay with maybe putting some in storage? Maybe just the ones he hasn't worn in 12 months? Then, they might mysteriously vanish from there....
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How do you pry those "precious treasures" (i.e. JUNK that he's forgotten about) from your DH's grasp? I really need him to downsize the clothing and knicknacks.
you get him to agree on a number of tshirts, socks he needs.
THen you tell him pick his favourite 10, if he has sentimental ones take picture of them.

I find dh works well under room constraints.. You can have all the crap you want as long as it fits in your room... then he will get rid of some things.
I still try to get him on the tools - who needs 3 drills when one is dangerous and smokes when you use it? donate that? sacriledge

8 might be enough
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Shira, would he be okay with maybe putting some in storage? Maybe just the ones he hasn't worn in 12 months? Then, they might mysteriously vanish from there....

I'll be more than OK to put some (OK not some, just a few) in storage, but every time I suggest it he gets upset, says that they're his clothes and that I should leave him and his shirts alone . So I just gave up, learned to choose my battles...
And about mysteriously vanishing from storage, as I said, he has a very VERY good memory
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What finally got my dh to get rid of most of his old t-shirts was the following conversation after "I forgot to pack" a couple of his old t-shirts after our vacation and got caught.

Dh: Why are you leaving this behind?
Me: Because it has stains on it and you have a gazillion other t-shirts.
Dh: But it is good for fishing.
Me: You are the only person I know with 50 t-shirts to go fishing in and you wear the same 3.
Dh left the t-shirts behind.

Also, a lot of his clothes that I hate never seem to return from the laundry room. I have never been able to figure out where they go. Hmmmmm.

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For sentimental clothes that he never wears just tell him you are going to put them in a box in the bottom of his closet so there is more room for the clothes he wears. Then tell him your are putting the box in the garage for more room for something else, then toss the box

I like the concept of turning the hangars backwards on everything and then when it gets washed and worn put it forwards - then in 6 months you and he can see exactly what he's worn and what he hasn't.

I also like one of the reality show organize dealies ideas of taking all the clothes out of hte closet and put into piles 'toss' or 'donate' and then having a freestanding rack with just the right amount of space on it you have to fit everything you are keeping on it. Of course it doesn't make sense to buy a rack for this - but one could be fashioned. I think its a lot easier to see how you have way too many cltohes when they are out of the closet rather than stuffed inside.

Another idea - for me personal I have a rubbermaid container that is my 'memory box' - DH has one too. That is where we put sentimental things we want to keep - if it doesn't fit, then it has to go. Sometimes its easier to do it in waves - pair down 10% then come back a few months later and get rid of a few more, its so hard to get rid of a lot all at once I think.

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OMG. DH has *so* many shirts from the mid-90s that are heinous. He never, ever wears them - yet he keeps them. He also has a whole bunch of dress shirts that he never wears because he works in landscape design and wears a company t-shirt and khaki shorts or pants everyday. When comes home he wears a pair of shorts (we don't usually go anywhere in the evenings) - the same shorts for most of the week. On the weekends he wears two different shirts and two different shorts or jeans. So, really he needs only his work clothes, 3 pairs of shorts, 2 pairs of jeans, and 2 or 3 shirts. Right??

I should count how many shirts he has. Though, I'm not sure I really want to know!
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Once upon a time, I made a patchwork quilt from the printed area of a million XDH's tee shirts. Just an idea - it went back to concerts from the 70's and was way cool.

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Once upon a time, I made a patchwork quilt from the printed area of a million XDH's tee shirts. Just an idea - it went back to concerts from the 70's and was way cool.
That is EXACTLY what DP's aunt is doing for us with DS's newborn 'most worn' clothes. He was so skinny when he was born that there were only spcific things that didn't just hang off him. Now he's 4 months old and growing out of his 3-6 month stuff.. Wearing a few 6-9 month things..

Can we say GARAGE SALE? Going through them and I'm going to count up what we're getting rid of.

But, here's my first few items:

1) Eddie Bauer Bassinet that we NEVER EVEN USED
2) Baby Bathtub
3-8) Card Table with 4 Folding Chairs
9) Extra Diaper Bag
10) Baby Monitors that we never even opened
11-17) Crib Sheets and a Crib Pad
18-27) 4 Maternity Shirts and 5 Pair Maternity Pants

That's all for now.. But I'll count up/post more later.
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Also, a lot of his clothes that I hate never seem to return from the laundry room. I have never been able to figure out where they go. Hmmmmm.
I foolishly told my husband about this thread. I think he'll start counting his Tshirts every night when he comes back from work
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In that case, maybe you should invest in those space bags and vacuum seal up his t-shirts so they take up less room.

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My DH has clothes issues, but even he is starting to see the point of having fewer of them, and he's less resistant to getting rid of them.

My big problem with him is sentimental/collector type junk as well as leaving stuff laying around the house. He found this big batch of GI Joe stuff on ebay a couple years ago "just like I used to have that my mom threw away without my permission" and now that's stuck here and there in the house. Then he started liking those, what are they, 1/16 scale cars and now has probably 15-20 of them taking up shelf space in the living room and den. Argh. If I ever dusted I'd be even more peeved.

I'm doing a lot of talking right now, and trying to match it by letting him see me get rid of my stuff. If I succeed in my own efforts, then I'll have a leg to stand on when I pack his stuff up and banish it to his workshop or the basement.
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