actually he reacted quite well.
he said he wanted to keep the collection as it was something him and his father did together I pointed out his kids can't collect crap if he has 3 copies of the entire sets!
also I did press on him I don't want to give our children stuff they might feel obligated to keep just because their father 'valued' it they should keep what they like that has sentimental value to them.
So I asked him to have it appraised and then either trade it in for a few coins that are sentimental (year they were born etc) and put it in our safety deposit box and if he wants to collect coins with his kids do it with them (Not ban them from his collection) and that we could start getting the kids a proof set for each birthday as those would retain more value and would be specific to them.
as far as my collections have gone I have managed and it was very hard to let them go. I found many great homes for people who were more thrilled about them than I was at that point. When I realised my kids didn't care for my collections it became easier.
Its not that I want to toss his stuff.....per se
I just want to keep the stuff that has 'meaning' not just keeping stuff for stuff's sake or because we place a value on the stuff.... we live uptown in a major city space is at a premium any time.....
and really what purpose do 'collections' serve? aren't most of them clutter inducing, emmotionally based attachments to things above their useful value?
|Well, since they're his, for as hard as it must be, why don't you just leave him alone about it. I bet if he wanted to sell or trade them he would do it.
this is a guy who has kept EVERYTHING his boyscout uniforms (the badges are pretty cool I want to frame them mind you) he hoards... he can't let go of things even if they are broken, useless he has 40 of them....
|How would you react if he decided that you were going to get rid of something that was yours? He's an adult. It's his stuff. He gets to decide what he wants to do with it.
True but keep in mind his stuff takes up the entire largest bedroom we have, we don't have much squarefootage and I'd like more space to 'live'. And he has been successful in getting me to part with my collections (sometimes by 'force' like when he dropped my dollhouse... and never fixed it... ) so I am returning the favour in a way.... I wouldn't ask him to part with stuff that had sentimental value but I want to pass on to my children not hoarding, not holding on to stuff we don't need... I want to model that for them.