Since relatives have bought some over the years, we do have them in the house, but they are very rarely played with.
The only times they come out are road trips & if someone is sick and really cant do anything else but is bored.
I think they are really useful for times like those.
We try to not totally ban anything, moderation is totally the key here.
Video games in moderation have been shown multiple times to be good for development.
|“Imagine an alternate world identical to ours save one techno-historical change: videogames were invented and popularized before books. In this parallel universe, kids have been playing games for centuries—and then these page-bound texts come along and suddenly they’re all the rage. What would the teachers, and the parents, and the cultural authorities have to say about this frenzy of reading? I suspect it would sound something like this:
Reading books chronically under-stimulates the senses. Unlike the longstanding tradition of gameplaying—which engages the child in a vivid, three-dimensional world filled with moving images and musical soundscapes, navigated and controlled with complex muscular movements—books are simply a barren string of words on the page. Only a small portion of the brain devoted to processing written language is activated during reading, while games engage the full range of the sensory and motor cortices.
Books are also tragically isolating. While games have for many years engaged the young in complex social relationships with their peers, building and exploring worlds together, books force the child to sequester him or herself in a quiet space, shut off from interaction with other children. These new ‘libraries’ that have arisen in recent years to facilitate reading activities are a frightening sight: dozens of young children, normally so vivacious and socially interactive, sitting alone in cubicles, reading silently, oblivious to their peers.
Many children enjoy reading books, of course, and no doubt some of the flights of fancy conveyed by reading have their escapist merits. But for a sizable percentage of the population, books are downright discriminatory. The reading craze of recent years cruelly taunts the 10 million Americans who suffer from dyslexia—a condition didn’t even exist as a condition until printed text came along to stigmatize its sufferers.
But perhaps the most dangerous property of these books is the fact that they follow a fixed linear path. You can’t control their narratives in any fashion—you simply sit back and have the story dictated to you. For those of us raised on interactive narratives, this property may seem astonishing. Why would anyone want to embark on an adventure utterly choreographed by another person? But today’s generation embarks on such adventures millions of times a day. This risks instilling a general passivity in our children, making them feel as though they’re powerless to change their circumstances. Reading is not an active, participatory process; it’s a submissive one. The book readers of the younger generation are learning to ‘follow the plot’ instead of learning to lead.”
i like the idea of limited time. i'm wondering how i can have it in the house and it not be a total struggle to keep it limited if he likes it a lot. if he likes it and it's there then he'll want to play it. and i don't want to be constantly fighting over game time. but i don't like the idea of a total ban, either. i dunno. i guess i'll cross that bridge when it comes.
DD is pretty much free to play a video game when she would like. We do make sure that household activities are taken care of first. She plays maybe 2 or 3 hours a week, broken up into 2-4 sittings. I don't find that to be too much at all. Just my opinion.
I really don't thing we will have any type of video game systems in our house, DH borrows my brother's from time to time....
BUT...if you do have them, I think you should monitor your child's time on them. My brother got addicted one summer, literally and spent the entire summer laying on his belly on his bed playing video games, and then depression set in... because he was so addicted to the video games...Though my brother was old enough to realize his problem and went cold turkey...but boy they can be addicting.
I think you should do whatever you think is right for your family.
I figure at some point when they are older, they may ask, and we may look into it...but it would be very limited. I can't stand the way some kids veg out in front of them. It just makes me sad
Mom to a bright & energetic 6 y.o. boy With my sweetie for 10 years now Registered nurse
Both DH and DS love their video games. But - we do monitor DS's usage. We dont allow him to play any video games during the week, only on weekends. And that works for us.
I myself don't play video games at all, but I can sit in front of my computer for HOURS on on end...
That said, I did have an Atari when I was about 11-12 and enjoyed it. If one of our kids really wanted a video system at that age, I'd consider it with some strict limits. I think there's a huge difference between a 12 year old playing games and a 4 year old doing it.
*We had an Atari when I was young and I remember it was fun! My brother played with it more than I did.
Debra, homeschooling mom of 4 ages 10, almost 9, almost 7, and 3 1/2
I guess I just think it's all about balance. And what's right for my family may not be right for all. Also, as a past poster mentioned, video games are crazy expensive in many cases. You won't catch me paying a thousand bucks for a PS3 on ebay.... better things to do with that kind of cash!
And I think that stating "my kids will never have that!" before even having a child is a bit, um, optimistic.
but it's not because I think they are time wasters or anything it's just they are too expensive! I saw an ad for a game that was $79.99!?!
That is an easy decision for us, of course, because neither of us play them--and we couldn't afford to begin!
Dd does have a bunch of hand-me-down computer games (freddy fish, and the like). She might play them once or twice a month. She just isn't that interested.
I've also done some reading on brain development and technology; I have concerns...mostly I'm concerned about children interacting with technology and not so much with people around them or their environment. It's a bit sad that there are children who have never walked in the woods or played in a stream...they learn about these things through the intermediary medium of the computer.
Now, having said all this, I don't think all techno stuff is evil. I think balance is important in everything and that each child AND each family has its own set of circumstances. I've just stated some of ours!
Just stick to you gut, and you'll find what works best for you! Good luck.
I won`t say a total ban for DD, but then again I don`t know where the money would come from... the systems are expensive and even though you can rent the software for the games here it still seems expensive.
As for isolating-I used to do the same thing with books and I still would if I could get away with it. I see that as a parenting issue. Why can't the parent or other authority figure step in?
All kids are different and all video games/computer games are different and things might look differently to you when you have a school-aged child. Just a thought...
Jen, former attorney and now SAHM to 11 yo ds and 8 yo ds
We're not gaming sort of people though, more reading sort . I think that in moderation it's fine.
Perpetually breastfeeding or pregnant ENFP mom to a lot of kids...wife to a midwestern nice guy...living in tropical paradise...pink cats and homebirths rock!
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My son is 6 and I recently started begrudgingly letting him play The Legend of Zelda: The Windwaker for an hour and a half on Saturday nights. I would never have bought him a set, it's just that DH already had the set and the game, and has played them in front of ds before, so I felt it would be unfair and cruel to completely forbid my son from playing. So, my hour and a half concession is in response to the fact that my dh was not on the same page from the beginning. However, I don't think it's good at all for kids this young. My son tries to negotiate the limits, keeps thinking about the game long after it's been turned off, etc. And for a while after playing, his imaginative play revolves around whacking monsters.
If you never have one in the house, she really won't know what she's missing. And for some reason girls don't seem to be as suceptible as boys.
And, when she gets to be 13 or so , you may revisit the subject and maybe you'll reconsider. Or maybe not. Either way is fine.