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|That includes "really cool" catalogs.|
|How many towels do you need? 2 bathtowels per person, maybe 3. 4-6 handtowels. 2-3 washclothes per person if you use them.|
Seriously. I must have some kind of mental disorder. I don't know if this belongs in Personal Growth, Health and Healing, Homekeeping, Parenting Issues, or what, because it involves all of it. It's not just about organizing, because I really think there's a bigger problem here.
I cannot organize this house. I really can't. I've tried. I've hired personal organizers. Honestly, I've even gone to therapy over it. I can't do it. And living in this mess is making me crazy. It's not like those people you see on Dateline where you can't fit in the front door, and no one's going to call CPS on me or anything. But every surface is covered with crap. Every single surface. If it's flat, it has something on it. It has toys or books or mail or whatever. My kitchen has bags full of stuff just sitting there because I don't know what to do with it. My bedroom has stacks of dirty towels because I can't fit them into one of the four hampers in our bedroom.
The kids just tear this place apart. I mean, we work on picking stuff up, and I know kids who are worse, but I just can't get ahead. Right now ds1 is playing with his piggy bank/coin collection. He dumped all the books of his nightstand to get to it, and there are coins all over the floor. Yeah, he'll pick most of it up, but not all of it. There are puzzle pieces everywhere. We baked cookies so the kitchen is a nightmare. It's the single biggest stressor in my life that makes me yell at my kids. I don't know what the line is between allowing them freedom for creative play versus not messing up the house. Even our nutrition is being affected, because sometimes I am so down about things I can't muster up the energy to get dinner made. It's just one more mess that I'm going to have to deal with.
I don't know what to do. I am so depressed living like this. It makes me crazy and I cannot change it. No matter what I do, how much I throw out, it just doesn't change. It's been years I've been trying and nothing changes.
Yeah, I'm limited on time, but even when I do have time, I don't know what to do. People say to start small but I don't know how. How do I sort through all the art projects? I don't know where to store anything. How do I sort through my desk? I don't know what to keep, and I don't know how to organize what it is that I do keep. How do I organize the games? What do I do with Halloween costumes? What about toilet paper rolls ds uses for art projects?
I'm not just venting. I need help and I don't know where to find it. We are not rich, and the times that I have paid professionals to help have been money that was hard to part with. And nothing helps. Do I have some disorder? I mean, it's not severe enough that anyone would think twice about it, but it weighs on my 24/7. I don't want people to come over, which is really unfair to ds. He sometimes asks to invite a friend over and I don't because I don't want them to see our house. I don't even want to be here.
It's a small house, but not that small. Our Christmas gifts are being kept in the trunk of dh's car because we have no closet space or even room in our 2 car garage to keep them.
The area rug in the living room is totally stained because I let the kids eat in there (and it's white because we bought it before we had kids). We need a new rug but I don't know how to buy one. Can I tell you that my mom even traded with an interior designer (she does accounting) to help me, and after four hours worth we still don't have an area rug?
I am overwhelmed by the kids' clothes. What to keep, what to sell, what to give away. What to do with stained clothes? Trying to organize what ds1 has outgrown and remember when to get it out for ds2.
I've bought books. I've read websites. I've tried Flylady. Nothing works. I have been in tears over this more times than I can count.
I don't know what to do.
Sabrina , mom to 4 fab kids!
And remember, when it starts to get overwhelming, lay down on your bed. Look up. What do you see there? That's right, the ceiling. The ceiling is organized. The only things on the ceiling that should be there are maybe some dust and spiderwebs and those could be cleaned up in 2 seconds so they don't matter.
|I just wanted to add that you should give yourself permission to throw away things that are "perfectly good". I'm a committed reduce-reuse-recycler, but when I'm really feeling overwhelmed, the prospect of gathering up things to give away -- sorting them, taking them wherever, etc. -- makes me put off the purging. Either that, or I wind up with a "give away" pile that just becomes one more pile of junk driving me crazy!|
|Like I still have all 4 kids infant bedding...I realized that I will need to part w/them so, since I'm learning to quilt I'm going to make a few swatches from them and pass the rest on...you know the bumpers and curtains...now I think I can let them go.|
|Inertia overcomes me when I try to be really orderly about purging stuff- I start putting way too much thought into each item ("I should sell this," "I should donate this," "Oh, maybe the kids would like this someday," "I should find the pieces to this," "Let me just sort through this file") ...|
I also think homeschooling just raises the guilt bar on this one. I should have a nice, clean inviting place for my kids to work; I should have organized art supplies so we can find materials when the moment of inspiration hits; I should be working with my kids and not cleaning.... And, of course my kids are always here so there is chunk of time when the house can get cleaned up. I know so many people who really got their house and act together once most of their kids were in school. That's not an option when you are homeschooling, which probably makes it more important to do the big purge and get it together and organized so the daily and weekly tasks are not overwhelming.
|I think you need to give yourself permission to just toss stuff, regardless of whether it is wasteful. Toss those craft projects you mean to do but haven't gotten around to, those books you've been meaning to read, etc.|