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#31 of 35 Old 01-09-2007, 01:11 PM
 
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yay. so glad she wasn't upset about the rooms. i bet your dad was pretty happy.

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I'm glad to hear she wasn't upset. Makes me wonder though if you had thrown out a bit more, would she have missed it after all?

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I'm so glad she was ok with it!!
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just wanted to let everyone know, that she was not mad. she does not believe i threw anything away! I have no idea how though! She asked me about a few things and i didn't remember seeing them, so she just thanked me and hugged me and then blamed my dad for the mess...but i know it will only stay clean a few days....I told her i would come over and help her organize her things, but she doesn't want to get rid of anything.

I told my father with all we got rid of you would think it would of made a huge dent, but really hasn't.


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If you have the time, would your mother accept your help to clean weekly? My mother doesn't have a hoarding problem, but she is disabled because of a bad back. It's very hard for her to do things like vacuuming and mopping. I offered to help her with her cleaning once a week if she would use my van to take my kids and do something fun. I get a break from the kids, she gets to have fun with her grandsons, and she comes home to a very clean house. The arrangement is perfect for all of us.

Maybe if you had a couple of hours to help her each week it would keep things more in control. She might learn something from you, or at least be motivated to keep the house a little cleaner. It doesn't sound to me (not that I'm anywhere near being an expert) like your mom is a hoarder, but that she simply doesn't like to clean.

When I was in college I did the "throw things under the bed/in the closet regardless of whether they were truly garbage or just stuff, dirty dishes in the oven" style of cleaning when company was coming. I really hated cleaning and would do nearly anything to get out of doing it. Now, I really love organizing and getting rid of things, and I don't mind the cleaning parts so much, either. I don't remember what caused the change, but maybe your mom will do a 180 like I did and come to her senses. It can't hurt to try.

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just wanted to let everyone know, that she was not mad. she does not believe i threw anything away! I have no idea how though!
So, does your mom think that you just cleaned and organized it....but didn't eliminate anything? Wow! I am glad she was happy and that it all seemed to work out for you! Hope they're coping with losing the dog OK too.

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