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Old 02-04-2007, 12:43 AM - Thread Starter
 
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First I want to say congratulations on your blog and taking the steps to get your house less messy.

Second, I hope I don't offend you, but your house would be beyond my comfort level. I simply can't handle clothes on the floor and so much clutter. (sorry)

Good luck!! I'm gonna be checking back to see your progress!!
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Wow! You've got your work cut out for you, but I think you can totally do it! I think starting a blog about it is a great start! I can't wait to see how it progresses!
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I replied to your blog and I just wanted to post here that parts of my home are worse than these pictures. And the thing is, I'm a good person. A really NICE person. But my home and maintaining order is beyond me somehow. And it is not from lack of effort.

Also, there is a site called squalor.com if anyone is interested.
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I'm in the same place you are, mama. Good luck to both of us!

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You're not the only one!
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That website is squalorsurvivors.com, not squalor.com
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i love the squalorsurvivors website. it has to be one of the most helpful sites i've ever seen.

awesome blog
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I applaud your strength in posting this... My house is a disaster and since it's too cold to go outside and school is starting in a couple of weeks {my school} my project for today is to get all laundry done and all un-needed items in boxes for Goodwill, Trash or the shredder.... It's not really bad-bad, but I wouldn't be brave enough to post pics.
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You can do this! I too am working on this. I am at the point that with an hours notice I am ok with having pretty much anyone come over. It may not be perfect but it is something I am ok with. Also to make sure I keep it up my mom comes over every weekend for our family movie night. My mom has seen our house at it's worst but just knowing she is coming over really helps me not let it get too bad.

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I subbed and replied. (benzismama on blogspot)
You can do this!!
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Just want to add some more encouragement Remodeling or fixing up an old house is a lot of work, I've been there. Start slow, clean up one spot, take one small step at a time. You can definitley do this.

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Charmcity -

I just wanted to let you know that I'm checking your blog and pulling for you. I think it's brave to post pics and ask for feedback, and I applaud your efforts. I also think it's important to do this for your kids, who will only learn how to live from you!

Take it one step at a time, one room at a time. Don't worry about decorations or projects or anything beyond obtaining regular, consistent view of the floor and surfaces, in one room at a time. I would make a zone schedule (have you read the FlyLady site?) and tackle it bit by bit. Mondays you clean one zone, Tuesdays the next, etc...it will take several weeks but in the end it will work if you stick to it.

I'll be checking your blog and wishing you well!

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I'm checking your blog too! You go girl!
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i think flylady is way overwhelming. you might consider checking out motivated moms. i know you probably have a huge desire to fix everything ASAP, but it really does happen the most effectively bit by bit.<3
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Hope the blog helps. I can't wait to see the progress!

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I may have to steal your idea! What a wonderful accountability tool!

I'm rootin' for ya.
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I have to give you so much credit! I think it's so awesome that you've set this goal for yourself and that you're holding yourself accountable with the blog. I'm rooting for you!!

~e, wife to my sweet T , mama to my turtleman (12) , sunshine (9 ), and monkey (6)
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You can do it!

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Flylady was too much for me but I really like Bonnie McCullough
http://www.amazon.com/Bonnies-Househ.../dp/0312087950

I made a schedule that worked around my dh work schedule.

I really need to give myself a kick in the pants and make a new cleaning schedule.

Keep up your fabulous work
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You are doing a great job! Doing a little bit at a time will start to make a huge difference. Hang in there!
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There's nothing in your pictures that I haven't seen in my house

My house is slooowly getting better.

This may be hard to hear but I have to say the ONLY thing that's helping me recover from clutter is getting rid of stuff. Even "good" stuff.

I can't help noticing in one of your posts that you are saving a non-working phone. I mean this very gently but I'd say toss it. If it doesn't work, don't keep it. They are not that expensive.

I've so BTDT. I know what it's like but I truly believe that the only way to get rid of clutter is to throw out good stuff. Not your prized posessions but the things that you are keeping to fix up.

FE I have thrown out toys with missing pieces because I decided that 1) I was never going to get all the pieces together (I've been working on the same toys for YEARS) and 2) they weren't that great anyway. IME stuff that really gets played with is generally kept together-it's the stuff that no one really plays with that ends up in piles/boxes of clutter and it gets moved around for years. It doesn't matter if someone could use it. I really believe that your time could be put to better use. Think of all the hours you spend dealing with clutter, heck, think of the hours I'VE spent. I could have done so much.

All those clothes that are really good or could be good? NO, NO, NO -I'm talking about myself here, not you I'm NOT fixing them up. I'm NOT. There's so many projects I could do-I don't need to fix up used clothing.

I have to go now-kids are calling.
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I'll watch your blog if you watch mine!!! Lets encourage each other!!!!
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Way to go mama!

You've made amazimg progress. Keep it up!

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cdmaze- love your blog, too

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Wow, I am halfway through your blog and I wanted to say I really admire your forthright and honest attitude! I can relate, I get into cycles where my house is like that for a few days and then I get into a 'mood' and make it all perfectly clean and act like an uptight drill sergeant in an attempt to keep it 'perfect'. Then I get exhausted by the effort and give up and it slides back into mess everywhere.

I want to echo what marybeth said, the only thing that has helped here is getting rid of tons of stuff.

Thanks for sharing that, I am really finding it motivating!

(I forgot to add that your house is lovely! It has such great woodwork, wood floors, tons of character.)

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charmcitymama...I LOVE your blog. You can come to my house anytime. We have a spare room that is just like yours...and really needs to be gutted, because my almost 2 year old needs his own room (it's our project for the spring).
Keep one decluttering. You are an inspiration.
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I tried FlyLady a couple years ago and started out all excited but ended up all annoyed with her and her glut of emails cluttering up my inbox.

Checking out squalorsurvivors now, too. Subbing to this thread and bookmarking your blog.

I just decluttered my bedroom because there was so much junk lying around that my allergies got crazy and the dust was making me sick. So now we have one clean room, but no bed. Just a camping mattress right now. I tossed the other one out because I think it had mold on it.

But I'm afraid to put anything on the dresser or not in perfect lines in the closet because one item out of place seems to breed a clutter pile within just a few days and I end up starting all over again.

But at this point, the clutter and disorder is literally making me sick and causing problems in our every day lives. Not good.

Thanks for being so brave and blogging and posting at MDC. Going to go read the blog now.

I am a 40 year old unschooling, belly dancing, artist-mama of one almost 8 year old. I just had brain surgery and blogging.jpg about it a bit because it's just so surreal.
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Thanks for being so brave to post pictures of your house! My house has been there, and some rooms still are. I am so envious of those moms who always have a clean house, and a little annoyed when I go to their house and they say "Oh, dont mind the mess", yet their houses are so clean! And mine... well, isnt. Housekeeping doesnt come naturally or easily to some people!
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