But here's the problem... When I usually list something I get 2-3 responses and I just pick the first person to respond to get the item.
Well this time, I listed a great working, older laptop, complete with high-speed internet adaptor, and printer. So I've got about 15 responses, some are serious sad stories. And the first one to respond says his son is looking for a laptop, his name and number. That's it. Very nonchalantly, like he doesn't care one way or the other. Then there are all these others who are desperate to get it.
Do I just go with the "first come, first serve" way of picking, or should I pick someone based on need? Or is it my place to even judge like that?
What do you all think?
I'm not sure what to do!!!
BUT a labtop is pricey and I think I would give it to someone who NEEDS it, kwim?
Ultimiately its YOURS and you can give it to whom you please !!
Vivian Claire born 3-11-10.... ...still an , extendedmomma :
As a side note, I might scan through your local chapter's rules to make sure. I know this is clearly listed in the rules on our yahoo group.
Mama to DS1 (12/07), DS2 (4/11), and DD (6/22/14)
Finally diagnosed with APS after 3 s (11/09, 3/10, 7/13)
I don't like the first-come, first-serve policy because not everyone is sitting by their computer all day long, ykwim? Most moms are chasing kids around, etc. So I like to wait until I have a few responses and pick the best one. Not necessarily looking for a sob story, but someone who says why they will be able to use it, etc. The people who simply say "I'll take it" never get an item from me
But it's totally up to you.. you can choose however you'd like. People have all sorts of different methods
~e, wife to my sweet T , mama to my turtleman (12) , sunshine (9 ), and monkey (6)
Also most of the folks just put their name and number. No ideas to go off of there.
One guy emailed me twice saying "I have a good use for this". I'm sure you do, but do you want to share? B/c I'm guessing most people do. lol. Though his offer is tempting, since he says he can come get it today... hmmm..
Anyway, just read the rules of my freecycle and it basically says to give it to whom you want, and keep charity organizations at the top of the list.
Hmmm.. Decisions. :
Thanks though for all the insights!!! It's nice to know I can pick who I give it to!
I chose to give it to a mom who said she wanted to start a home business and pack up her four kids and drive the 30 minutes right away. I felt like it was one of the most sincere responses, since she didn't give a sob story, just explained and the fact that she was willing to pack up her kids and drive to get it right away told me the rest. I was very happy with my decision and I'm glad to think I might have helped her start a home business.
Choose whichever response you feel right with, its totally up to you!
I'm also not trusting of the serious hard luck stories. Not all of them, but I try to have a BS detector about them. There was someone who posted a "WANTED" here for a flat screen computer monitor. He said he was building a computer that he was going to sell and then give the profits to charity. That just sounded ridiculous to me. That guy just wanted a flat screen monitor.
I found the home for a stray on freecycle and I made it clear I was NOT letting her go to the first person who asked and I screened this family for weeks w/ visits at my home and at theirs and the match could not have been more perfect.
Which reminds me that I must reply to someone about a girls' bike I'm giving away. I'm really happy about this one as the mum is excited about doing the bike up for her dd. Dh thinks I'm awful for not doing the work myself - he can't understand why anyone would want a 'fixer upper' bike for free LOL. He wanted me to spend time and $$s fixing it up before offering it on Freecycle. : Luckily the first person to respond seemed really cool, so I feel good about this one. No sob story, just that she'd like to have it and fix it up for her dd.
I love freecycling stuff, but I do wish I were on a list that had stricter rules, or something. I am really getting sick of the "Wanteds" on our list. There was a recent one where a woman wanted a TV to replace the one her daughter used in her room to play video games. I believe the words "my daughter is looking for an upgrade" were in the freecycle post.
(Sorry for the off-topic!)
I hate the Wanteds that "desperately NEED" some luxury item or other, such as a DVD player or whatever. Nobody NEEEEEDS those things!!
I also choose who gets the books I list. I am very concerned that the books would be picked up and never read. I've gotten several great reviews of my freecycled book collection from recipients
I also posted before my dd's bday that I would love to give her a gift and a very great mama responded that she had a toddler stand up piano that I could pick up. It was perfect and dd loved it. I emailed the mama back and told her all about it!
Our rules state that the offerer has sole discretion about who recieves the gift as well as the option to cancel the transaction altogether. We also have to list items before requesting something.
What I usually do is wait 24 hours -- I specify in my post that I am doing this -- and then just pick the one that sounds the best, or randomly pick one, depending on my mood. I delete anything that is overly rude, i.e. "yeah i want that tell me where u r so i can pick up" or people who are collecting for charities (nothing wrong with charities but if I wanted to donate to charity I'd do it directly, I prefer my Freecycle stuff to go to individuals, just my preference). For clothing I often will go with someone who mentions that their kid is actually in the size that I'm giving out. But it varies. At any rate, I think it's definitely okay NOT to just go with first come, first served.
Here's my best Freecycle story:
I offered several household items and one lady responded saying she would LOVE to come pick it up. She was mom to 4 kids, including infant twins. She and her fiancee had been homeless for a while, but then a friend helped them get a house and they were really trying to get their lives together. I told her the stuff was hers and even went through the house and packed up a bunch of other stuff I thought she could use - sheet sets, curtains, etc, etc. She started chatting with me over ICQ and was giving me updates: her friend had to take a shower, now her friend was out of the shower and they were packing the kids up. Now they were leaving...and then she told me that she had passed my ICQ info over to her fiancee who was at home...wait, huh??
He started ICQing me and tried to tell me that we had talked in the past. THen he wanted my picture. I told him I don't give my picture to strangers. And I stopped talking to him.
So I waited all day and they never showed up. Emailed her, ICQed her...nothing. I waited all day the following day, too because it seemed like they really needed everything. Nothing. Finally reluctantly offered everything back up on Freecycle and someone picked it up on day 3. On day 4 the fiancee shows up out of the blue and said he was there to pick up the stuff and then seemed hurt that it was gone. Luckily my husband was home and answered the door and dealt with the guy. The gal emailed me sort of huffily and asked why I gave it away. : Then told me how her friend had decided not to drive her out after all and then took the computer away. Whatever.
The guy kept emailing my yahoo account for a while. I never answered and now I think he's got the hint.
Whew. Sorry for the novel!
I originally signed up for freecycle back when I was pregnant, bored, and had heard that some posts can be pretty funny in a pathetic sort of way.
I've been offering things on freecycle all weekend. The only amusing thing I could see was that the cheap knife block I offered up has recieved 30+ responses. I posted it about 12 hours ago.
My sister too tried freecycle for a number of items...she too had a problem (similar to the person a couple messages up). She wound up with an irate person pounding on her door late at night. She was freaked out as it was, then she had to deal with the knowledge that the person had her email address AND worse, knew where she lived. After that, she decided it was no longer a good idea to invite complete strangers off the internet to her home. So, she now just drops off at the Salvation army drop spot whenever she goes to Chick-fil-a (they've got a drop spot there).
Perpetually breastfeeding or pregnant ENFP mom to a lot of kids...wife to a midwestern nice guy...living in tropical paradise...pink cats and homebirths rock!
I'm sure that some of the sob stories are lies. I don't like being manipulated so I'd go with one that seems more feasible.
On our local freecycle, I noticed that the same person was responding to ALL of my offereds, with a boilerplate email ("I am interested in the item" without specifying what the item was).
I wait at least a day, and offer to the person who both seems like they'll really use it AND, more important, will come and get it when they say they will.
Mom to DD1 (11/1999), DD2 (07/2003), and DS (11/2012), all born at home and cloth diapered.
Yeah, I don't like the sob stories. Tell me why you need the item, or what you want to do with it, sure, but the fact that you have fibromyalgia has zero zip nada to do with why you want a bucket of old licorice I'm giving away!
I would love to read that article about freecyle... I didn't know it was for things charities wouldn't accept... I had assumed it was more of a "so this stuff doesn't end up in landfills" motivation.
|I had assumed it was more of a "so this stuff doesn't end up in landfills" motivation.|
I always decide by who actually has manners (please and thank you go a long way) and who has a nice, normal (read: no sob stories) reason for wanting it. If it is someone I have had good dealings with or I know to be reliable, then all the better.
So it is up to you. Give it to whoever you want to
I also will also probably not respond to "Wanted" posts anymore - that act like they really want it, act all greatful, but in the end .
So, sadly the sob stories just don't work for me anymore.