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#1 of 21 Old 10-23-2007, 04:42 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Hi,

I signed up for Flylady a couple of years ago, but after a few days I got tired of all the emails and the standard in Flylady seemed to high to match my ideals. I would really appreciate links to places like Flylady but something less obsessive.

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You could try Motivated Moms. It's a printable schedule for cleaning; it just costs a few dollars.

http://www.motivatedmoms.com/
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I also recommend Motivated Moms. Or you could just stop the emails from Fly Lady and use her website as a guide...I know some do that rather than get the 50 emails a day
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I've heard good things about the Holiday Grand Plan: http://holidaygrandplan.com/

And also Organized Home: http://www.organizedhome.com/

As for FlyLady.... I'd recommend ditching the emails. 90% of the people I've talked to have said that they don't find them helpful and they just make them feel bad. I think that's especially true when you're just starting out, FlyLady teaches baby steps... the problem is, the mailing list just isn't for people who are taking their first steps, know what I mean?

What I had to do was to take what I could from the program (I bought the book so I didn't have to look at that hideous website).... Stuff like the idea of baby steps, the control journal, 27 fling boogie, working for 15 minutes a day... and then just made it my own. Who cares what FlyLady is recommending you clean today? My house isn't hers, my needs aren't the same as hers. Make it your own and don't worry about what's going on in the mailing list.
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I ditched the emails at flylady too because I don't check my email that often & they build up. I check into the website when I need motivation, and I just do my own thing meantime. Some of her attitudes help motivate me to do better, but the emails bug.
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I also recommend Motivated Moms. Or you could just stop the emails from Fly Lady and use her website as a guide...I know some do that rather than get the 50 emails a day
This is basically what I do (I do get the emails but I delete most without reading them. I really don't need 20 testimonials touting her wares every day!!). The emails have been wonky anyway lately. I just do what suits me and ignore the rest . I just write what I want to get done each day on my white board and use that as my guide.
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Another great website is organizedhome.com [/URL] It's free and has lots of lists and things you can print off.
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You can make your own customizable chore lists here. I like it.

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Thank you all!

I just need someone to do the work for me. Now is that too much to ask.

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I'm another one for the Motivated Moms calendar... and she's really made some good improvements with the 2008 calendar (see the preview on the site).

And agreed: if you read FlyLady's book "Sink Reflections", it is night and day from the website/e-mails. The book is W O N D E R F U L, realistic and very motivating. I'm now working on my own version planner that is a cross between the two that will work a little better for me. But I still have a control journal and love it.

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What I had to do was to take what I could from the program (I bought the book so I didn't have to look at that hideous website).... Stuff like the idea of baby steps, the control journal, 27 fling boogie, working for 15 minutes a day... and then just made it my own. Who cares what FlyLady is recommending you clean today? My house isn't hers, my needs aren't the same as hers. Make it your own and don't worry about what's going on in the mailing list.
I do the same... There are things about FlyLady I really like, and things that really bug me. I find her standards a bit unrealistic for families with young kids, especially if you AP. (For example, making the bed right when you get out of it doesn't work if you have a family bed and there are still kids or dh sleeping in it.) If I totally did her system I feel like I would be constantly doing little cleaning jobs, addressing hot spots, etc. and never doing stuff with my kids. I know some people love it and have great success with it... but for me I just do what I can. Some days our home is relatively clean and organized and dinner is planned... and somedays it's not. I think that is OK when you have kids!
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I always say that the flylady must not have kids OR pets b/c her plan calls for *ten minutes* of vacuuming a *week*!!!!! Hah!! It takes me that long just to do my couch once...
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Thank you! I was starting to think my house was just disgusting! I have to sweep/vacuum at least every other day and then there's still stuff on the floor.

Sorry, I don't know of an alternative, just wanted to share!
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FYI, if you're considering Motivated Moms but wish you didn't have to wait till January for it to start (2007 is no longer for sale), I bought the 2008 the other day and got an email from her saying that 2008 purchasers can have the 2007 for free.

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I always say that the flylady must not have kids OR pets b/c her plan calls for *ten minutes* of vacuuming a *week*!!!!! Hah!! It takes me that long just to do my couch once...
If I remember correctly from her book, she used to be a SHE who suffered from extreme CHAOS (for the uninitiated, those are flylady terms). I think her bio said she has one child, and she developed all this stuff after he had grown up. I remember reading that and thinking, "that explains a lot!"

BTW - I am not knocking her... she has some wonderful ideas that I've used, and she's helped many people and she's probably a great person too.. her system just feels too rigid for me and doesn't work for our family.
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Two ideas -

If you like FlyLady, but don't like the emails, do the stuff she talks about on her website (Flying Lessons, I think the beginning section is called) or get her book, Sink Reflections.

If you totally hate FlyLady, a good alternative is the book written by Cynthia Townley Ewer, the lady who runs the OrganizedHome.com website. It's called House Works. FABULOUS book!

http://www.amazon.com/Houseworks-Clu...3496326&sr=8-1

For those of you in the UK, there's even a UK edition (check out Amazon UK).

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If you totally hate FlyLady, a good alternative is the book written by Cynthia Townley Ewer, the lady who runs the OrganizedHome.com website. It's called House Works. FABULOUS book!

http://www.amazon.com/Houseworks-Clu...3496326&sr=8-1

For those of you in the UK, there's even a UK edition (check out Amazon UK).
I just posted about this book a couple days ago. I love it too! I now have my chores around the house broken down by frequency. Also on her website, I printed the periodic table of household chores. It's a guideline for how often things should be done. Very helpful!
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I just posted about this book a couple days ago. I love it too! I now have my chores around the house broken down by frequency. Also on her website, I printed the periodic table of household chores. It's a guideline for how often things should be done. Very helpful!
Maybe I should check into that book because that's along the lines of what I was going to modify from Motivated Moms... Give myself a "daily" list and then a list of things that need to be done that month--and pick one when I have some time to do somthing... kwim? I found myself able to tackle something upstairs one day and crossing it off on the list of a few days after. I keep getting all screwed up. So I figure if I just have a list for the week or month and assign myself time each day to do SOMEthing, then it will all get done... kwim?

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I get a daily reminder from this website: http://www.menus4moms.com/homeorganization/ and I really like it. ONE email a day. I'm also signed up to get one weekly email with the next week's menu plan. There's a lot of great stuff on there.
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I always say that the flylady must not have kids OR pets b/c her plan calls for *ten minutes* of vacuuming a *week*!!!!! Hah!! It takes me that long just to do my couch once...
Hmmm....maybe that's why my floors look lke crap. You're supposed to spend more than 10 minutes on them??!???!!!???
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Thanks for some great links. I'm still laughing about the 10 min of sweeping a week. yea, right.
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