Ok, you regulars have probably heard this 1,000 times already (you=
), but I have really got to turn over a new leaf here.
I am a stay-at-home-wife, so taking care of the home is my "job." I love it. But lately... urgh. In the 2 years since we've been married, I've been on this rollercoaster. The high points are the time when all of the used rooms (we have 2 extra bedrooms) are tidy and clean. The low times (like now) are when everything has fallen apart, and I am in that messiness-->depression-->not having the energy to clean-->more messiness-->deeper depression, etc.
The low points have outnumbered the high ones.
I am stopping that NOW. I cannot stand it anymore, the "can't-have-anyone-over-syndrome," the disappointment in myself, on and on. DH is very understanding but I know how much happier he is when things are under control.
My biggest need is just to keep up the momentum for a couple of weeks. Even during "good times," I have felt like holding back a flood with my finger in the dam, with all of the disorganized drawers, closets, ROOMS (yes, the entire back bedroom has become full of stuff, and now the 2nd bedroom has to) waiting to swallow up the house again. It's partly a clutter problem, but it's equally an organizational (we really have room and desire for most of what we have, just no real system) and concerning general cleanliness (at this point, I am not sure even steam cleaning is going to get the carpets nice again).
I know if I can get this done everything else will fall into place. I will actually cook decent meals again instead of wanting to go out (just to get away from the mess!); I won't sleep to embarrassing hours trying to hide from the dirt and the dishes and the stuff everywhere! Aahhh!
As most of your probably understand, this really is a serious problem. I am determined to fix it, but I would love to have your help.
I know FlyLady is popular, and I am adopting some of her ideas, but at her rate, I would still be battling dirt and junk in the next decade. Her plans work for me as far as upkeep, but not as far as progress. Any suggestions you have -- anything that has worked for you! -- would be greatly, deeply appreciated. By everyone in this house.