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Old 02-25-2008, 11:58 PM
 
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This thread is exactly what I needed!

I am so sorry that you all share my internet/MDC addiction, but it feels so good to know that I'm not the only one who can't stay away from my computer.

For me, it's my window. I get lost in blogs, ideas, research, and forums. I recently decided, however, that I'm tired of living life through a computer screen instead of actually experiencing it IRL. What's the use of gathering craft ideas if the kids never get a chance to do them with me? Why research home ideas that I never get around to using? I'm sick and tired of being a bum, and let's face it, a mediocre mom who sits in front of her laptop all day. The internet is a great tool, but it is pretty sad when it begins to consume and interfere with RL.

I've seriously limited my time on here in the last two weeks and spent more time playing with my kids, implementing the great ideas I've found on here, and yes, cleaning my house.

Thank you to all of you. Every post I read I identified with, and made me feel so much better about my own online habits. I will be back for more therapy...but only at an appropriate time .
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Old 02-26-2008, 02:32 AM
 
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move the screen to your desktop so that it is at an uncomforatable angle, get a chair that's uncomfortable, make being at the computer 'painful' and you will find yourself not spending as much time as if you can truely relax. has helped me limit my computer time
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move the screen to your desktop so that it is at an uncomforatable angle, get a chair that's uncomfortable, make being at the computer 'painful' and you will find yourself not spending as much time as if you can truely relax. has helped me limit my computer time
this might work


Before I had such fast internet I lived through books instead. For example: I might look at house decorating magazines but never actually try changing my house. Magazines are probably 3rd in line after the computer and tv for causing people to not really live life! You know, you might read about how to get that flat tummy, but then you never exercise etc. Aren't we all crazy?

I've been on here more lately looking at pictures of people's nice neat houses. I figure if I look at a lot of VERY plain minimalist photo's I might come out in between terribly cluttered and too empty. There's no way I could do the minimalist thing right off, but it might get me half way there
I got rid of 20lbs of paper yesterday. I am so overwhelmed right now, but I know it will get better.........Better get off here and do more work!

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I share your addiction too. I'm turning the computer off now to go live life for real. I doubt I'll be able to stay off for a whole day, but I'm going to aim for being off until tomorrow morning.

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On for the moment, now off I go.
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Ugh, not doing too well at this lately- If it were fun that'd be on thing but as of late I feel so compulsive. I can remember times when being online was not a real activity during my day, and I was a lot happier. I did make cookies today, and do laundry, so that's something, but I need to get off of this site, I think, for my sanity.
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seems like eveyone is off here , doing something else...not many posts lately....
anyone still here...?
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I'm here. Still working on it. I've been doing better, but still not where I want to be. I figure it's a process though and I'm making lots of positive changes.

AidenElyMama, what you posted was so inspiring to me. I missed it when you posted, so I'm glad this thread was bumped up today.
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For me, it's my window. I get lost in blogs, ideas, research, and forums. I recently decided, however, that I'm tired of living life through a computer screen instead of actually experiencing it IRL. What's the use of gathering craft ideas if the kids never get a chance to do them with me? Why research home ideas that I never get around to using? I'm sick and tired of being a bum, and let's face it, a mediocre mom who sits in front of her laptop all day. The internet is a great tool, but it is pretty sad when it begins to consume and interfere with RL.
For those that have found a successful "happy medium", how are you doing it? Are you allowing yourself a time limit/number of times per day/when certain things are done/etc? I think I'm going to shoot for about 30 minutes a day and I'll try to make it after I nurse the baby when I get home from work, which is shortly after noon. Then I can have the rest of the day to focus on my family and home, in that order (another of the changes I'm working on making is valuing people over things and letting some of my desires for the house go in the interest of the happiness and living in the moment with my children).

I was sick all weekend and did nothing but lay in the bed and sleep. Yesterday I was not 100% but getting better and needed to get back to the routine because dh had to go back to work. My eyes hurt though so I only went on here long enough to get an address. I got quite a lot done and felt good when I went to bed that I actually *did* the stuff instead of planning it, thinking about doing it, feeling I should be doing it. I want to feel that way more often.

Someone posted above about remembering a time in their life where the computer wasn't an actual part of the day. Me too! I started getting sucked in to internet addiction (message boards specifically) when I found out I was pregnant with twins. I found a message board and just tried to learn as much as possible. Then I developed a friendship and moved on to another board with many people from there. I was given MDC as a place to check out info about cloth diapering because I was trying to decide if we could do it and I found so much here that fit with our lifestyle and I continued to learn. My twins are almost 5 years old, so that means I've spent over 5 years spending too much time online. That's sad. I never really considered myself to have an addictive personality. I tend to be "all or nothing" and don't do well with a happy medium, but not addictive. But that's exactly what this is. And I need to learn to find a happy medium because MDC is really valuable to me and my family, so I don't want to give it up. I just need to learn to do better with it.

You know when kids decide what they want to be when they grow up? I always said I wanted to be a mom. I'm blessed because I married my best friend. We have four amazing boys. I am declaring right now that I am finding that happy medium. I'm giving myself back to my family and I'm going to live life and cherish it all with them.
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Funny how we come on here with such good intentions, but it goes horribly horribly wrong. I am Cutting back. I have too much to do to be on here. Once a day for 20 minutes is my goal.
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Has everyone totally succeeded and left me behind? Sigh. I was doing good, but have slipped lately. Anyone else?
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Taking two steps forward and one step back over and over again here.

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Try turning on "web history" in Google and downloading the Google toolbar. It will keep track of how long you are actually on the web. I was surprised by mine, it wasn't as long as I thought it was. I do work on the computer, though, while my son is napping, so I can't cut out that amount of time.
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I have a suggestion for everyone! I didn't read all of the post so if someone posted this just ignore it. A while back I put the computer in a room that I don't go to as often AND I turned it off. I used to be big time addicted until I realized that my kids were watching WAY too much TV so I cut down on my internet and their TV time in a huge way. Having it downstairs when I am usually upstairs really helped the urge to jump on all day. I can't clean my house at night because my youngest is a VERY light sleeper so I would wake her up every time so that is when I get online. Good luck everyone it is a hard one to break!
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I was doing pretty good...but I'd say we've had a rough go the past month or so. Still much better than it had been, but I've disappointed that I've slipped.

Welcome to the Real World she said to me, condescendingly, take a seat. Take your life; plot it out in black and white.
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In February I purchased an internet card and now have a connection at home..I'm an addict and I end up looking at mindless things, this site not included..the internet has turned into bad tv for me ( which i don't have). better turn it off and connect to the real world.
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Go cold turkey. Send the keyboard with you husband, laptop users can send the laptop out of the house. After two weeks, you wont miss it, and can start using a 15-30 min rule. Or, if you absolutely need to check email during the week, laptop users can charge their computers on Monday, and sed the charger out of the house. No more charging until next Monday. That way, you force yourself to use your limited battery time purposefully.
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how bad is it that I stayed up 45 minutes more than I wanted to (baby asleep on chest) just to read this thread?

lotsa good ideas/thoughts here though, thank you!

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Should I bring this thread back to life or not??? I'm still around, but spending much less time on line. I've been going to work w/ hubby and spending a lot of time outdoors!!!! Time to grow stuff.
DS is much happier when I stay off here.
Oh, and our aunt came today and yesterday and we have been SPRING CLEANING!!!! I'm finding dirt that has been around since my ds was born I'm embarrased to say..................The house is brighter from all the cleaning

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Um... yeah. And then someone (from MDC, actually) pointed me toward StumbleUpon and within a couple minutes I realized it was The Devil. And yet... so compelling.

And what also happens is that I'll "check in" before bed, and then get caught up... and get to bed late... and then really regret it the next day. :yawning: Which ALSO doesn't help get things done.

Kinda like right now...it's after 1 AM.

I think taking a week of limited internet, at least until I finish with this massive purge I'm in the middle of, would be a good idea.

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The internet prevents ME from going crazy with a baby that nurses every hour and will only sleep when I hold him, after I am too tired or sore to wear him all day long. I love the internet! And blame my baby for the messy house. (Oh dear, am I in denial!?)
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I spend too much time on my laptop at night and my DH is right next to me with his. I get frustrated before he does that we are not interacting until we are so tired we have to go to bed. It feels like such a waster. And DS is constantly asking to get on my laptop for his games. We have talked about screen time limits but have not effectively implemented them. This has inspired to me try to change things for the summer. We will have a family meeting about this this weekend.

Good luck to everyone with this.

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The internet prevents ME from going crazy with a baby that nurses every hour and will only sleep when I hold him, after I am too tired or sore to wear him all day long. I love the internet! And blame my baby for the messy house. (Oh dear, am I in denial!?)
The internet was a blessing for me too when my little one could NOT figure out how to nurse! I found so much helpful info and it kept me from going crazy too!!! It can be good and bad, just hard to figure out where to draw the line

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Hello my name is Blueeyes, I am an internet addict. It has taken control of my life since I bought my first computer, &..... wait no, I am not an addict..... I don't want to give it up..... no, no.... I do not have a problem ..... so what if the kids are hungry & the house is dirty & my husband hasn't seen me (well maybe the back of my head!) LOL

Yep, on a serious note, I can see where it can be a problem. I know that sometimes I'll be on here & really I could be doing something else that NEEDs to be done. Then again, it also is a really good resource........ for example this board My husband is greatfull for all the inspiration I find here & so am I
I'd say it's a toss up & like everything else, it's good in moderation.
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