I'm here. Still working on it. I've been doing better, but still not where I want to be. I figure it's a process though and I'm making lots of positive changes.
AidenElyMama, what you posted was so inspiring to me. I missed it when you posted, so I'm glad this thread was bumped up today.
Originally Posted by AidynElyMama
For me, it's my window. I get lost in blogs, ideas, research, and forums. I recently decided, however, that I'm tired of living life through a computer screen instead of actually experiencing it IRL. What's the use of gathering craft ideas if the kids never get a chance to do them with me? Why research home ideas that I never get around to using? I'm sick and tired of being a bum, and let's face it, a mediocre mom who sits in front of her laptop all day. The internet is a great tool, but it is pretty sad when it begins to consume and interfere with RL.
For those that have found a successful "happy medium", how are you doing it? Are you allowing yourself a time limit/number of times per day/when certain things are done/etc? I think I'm going to shoot for about 30 minutes a day and I'll try to make it after I nurse the baby when I get home from work, which is shortly after noon. Then I can have the rest of the day to focus on my family and home, in that order (another of the changes I'm working on making is valuing people over things and letting some of my desires for the house go in the interest of the happiness and living in the moment with my children).
I was sick all weekend and did nothing but lay in the bed and sleep. Yesterday I was not 100% but getting better and needed to get back to the routine because dh had to go back to work. My eyes hurt though so I only went on here long enough to get an address. I got quite a lot done and felt good when I went to bed that I actually *did* the stuff instead of planning it, thinking about doing it, feeling I should be doing it. I want to feel that way more often.
Someone posted above about remembering a time in their life where the computer wasn't an actual part of the day. Me too! I started getting sucked in to internet addiction (message boards specifically) when I found out I was pregnant with twins. I found a message board and just tried to learn as much as possible. Then I developed a friendship and moved on to another board with many people from there. I was given MDC as a place to check out info about cloth diapering because I was trying to decide if we could do it and I found so much here that fit with our lifestyle and I continued to learn. My twins are almost 5 years old, so that means I've spent over 5 years spending too much time online. That's sad. I never really considered myself to have an addictive personality. I tend to be "all or nothing" and don't do well with a happy medium, but not addictive. But that's exactly what this is. And I need to learn to find a happy medium because MDC is really valuable to me and my family, so I don't want to give it up. I just need to learn to do better with it.
You know when kids decide what they want to be when they grow up? I always said I wanted to be a mom. I'm blessed because I married my best friend. We have four amazing boys. I am declaring right now that I am finding that happy medium. I'm giving myself back to my family and I'm going to live life and cherish it all with them.