Ok, I'm breathing a sigh of relief and getting off my aching dogs for the first time in a few hours. The reason I haven't been back is because I went and signed up for FlyLady. She(they?) warn you over and over again about getting burned out when you take on too much at once, so I'm keeping it simple, ShannonCC.
There are so many good points here. Actually I read Julie Morgenstern's Organizing book a few years ago, when I wasn't ready for it. I knew there was useful stuff in there. But I had to get a handle on other issues in my life first before I could take on my "organizing style". I was just thinking about that book today, wondering if I should read it again. I'd probably get more out of it this time!
My mom was a mild martyr. There are worse moms out there. She chose to do loads and loads of laundry on Sunday rather than play with her kids. She'd iron Dad's underwear.
: But the house wasn't spotless. So I can't really blame her for that.
Doing some introspection I decided I've used the "I don't care what others think about me" line as an excuse. Sort of like, "House cleaning is for uncreative, uneducated folks." But I'm not particularly creative!
I'm no artiste or bohemian. But I DO want to be able to invite people over. I do want the house to be at least...reasonable when people show up unexpectedly.
And that's my problem with routines and lists and so on. I shouldn't need to make lists, I should just remember. I shouldn't have to develope a routine- though I don't know what I think I'm supposed to do insted.
The whole FlyLady web site is kinda cutesy, too, which has been a turn off. See, Julie Morgenstern comes at it like it's a psychology thesis project . But FlyLady offers much more support.
Well, I managed a before bed routine and a morning routine yesterday and today. Just emptying the dishwasher first thing this morning helped, because then for the rest of the day the dirty dishes could disappear in there. And- Dh commented on the appearance of the house. He noticed it's neater. Now, I am doing this for my sanity's sake, but it sure is nice to know that someone as unobservant as dh actually noticed a difference.
I think if I can get rid of that feeling that the cleaning lady judge is hanging over my sholder (can't really say it's my mom, that wouldn't be true or fair), and keep at it at my pace, maybe I can create a new habit.