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|I feel bad about getting rid of it because I know I won't get close to what I paid for it.
my daughter needs EVERYTHING I see for her age when all she really wants is my attention and love
I've never been a pack rat like DH. the only thing I hold onto are photos.
I have the problem of not being able to just "throw" things away
Some days I don't feel like it's worth the fight kwim? BUT lately I'm thinking I got to do something
I think I will use everything again and so I must keep it for that
I really need to the time to go through everything and decide if it's important enough to keep or not. Easier said than done...
getting overwhelmed - having all the stuff with no homes, things pile up, the place starts looking like a tornado hit it, then you don't know where to start.
It takes time, energy and space to deal with your stuff.
for me it's because I attach memories and sentiment to physical objects.
I know that even if I tackle it all no one else in the house will care or help maintain the new spaces so what's the point.
Now I'm regretting all this stuff
I call them my feel good binders because it reminds me that I do have some good qualities (I have a really severe problem with low self esteem- it gets so bad that I become severely depressed).
Wow what a great question.
Without sounding like a jerk, I wish I knew why I can't seem to declutter??
This is something to think about.........
My dh, is certainly my worst enemy. He keeps everything, I mean everything. And he gets very upset if I move/throw out anything. It is a hugh battle. Some days I don't feel like it's worth the fight kwim? BUT lately I'm thinking I got to do something.......
And I've been trying to clean/unclutter one thing a day.....slow going
Those are actually the things I'm talking about. There are truely underlying reasons people do/don't do everything. It makes no difference how many times people without those reasons tell someone "just get rid of it" "read this book it will help" blah, blah until the person actually overcomes the hurdle nothing will happen. It is simply not in their ability. How does a person who truely wants to let things go overcome the hurdle? With me it was a gradual realization with a final AHA moment. But mine was so much less deep seeded than others. It broke my heart to read Porcelain's reasoning. Those reasons are huge. Maybe its perfectly fine for her NOT to get rid of her things. Maybe keeping those things are what keeps her "together" and happy. Maybe not...
I'm going to clip bits out of several posts:
WOW...now how do we tackle this???
If decomposition persists please see your necromancer.
In a word? DH. He's a clutter freak. He has old license plates from when he lived in Kansas. Gear from when he umpired. He used to recruit for his alma mater and still has freakin' forms and maps from then. Old W-2s, old pictures of a golf course. Old t-shirts that SAY "2004" on them. And not just one... 6 duplicates of the same stupid, faded, ugly shirt.