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I put up a few listings about 15 mins ago, went away, came back to check emails and within that short period this woman has emailed me like 25 times, going on about getting these stupid scrubs I listed, then thanking me for them, then telling me when she'll be here... Ummm no! She wasn't even close to the first to respond, and yet she won't stop emailing.

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ugh. Some people!
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Our local freecycle also had some eager people on it. They would reply with "I'll take it" or "I'll pick it up in the morning."
It rubbed me the wrong way, too, so I never gave to those people. I'd always tell them "Sorry, it's already been promised."

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That's wild. I've gotten a few presumptive posts, but never anything that over the top. Guess she really, really wants them!

Unless they're the only one responding, I usually don't go with the presumptive ones, either. In my experience, they're the most likely to no show. Figures, right?
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We have some people that are dealers on my local freecycle. Some people respond to every single item I put on there... then get annoyed when I don't respond back in a timely fashion! I have been on our local one for years but lately it has been more trouble than it is worth.We don't recieve or ask for much anymore ( this year though recieved two space heaters that we desperately needed!) but are active in sharing what we have. More and more though we have no shows and a couple of times we have had other items go missing.

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The cool thing about freecycle is that I get to pick who gets the free stuff... and I never give things away to people that are obnoxious about it.

The later but gracious request trumps the rude but rapid reply every time in my world.
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I quit my freecycle because it was FILLED with this type of person and they would just respond to nearly everything posted hoping to be the first and then decide later if they wanted it or not.

Rude rude rude. I got no show, after no show, after no show so I just stopped. It really rubbed my karma the wrong way.
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There's one guy on our freecycle who has responded with an "I"ll take that item" (and just like that, he doesn't even bother to personalize the message for the specific item) for EVERY SINGLE ITEM I've ever posted.

I've never chosen him as the recipient, because of that. To his credit, he does offer things fairly frequently, so he's not just a greedy one.

Ignore her.

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Is there a moderator for your local freecycle? Maybe you can let them know about this person if they start to harass you about items.

I try and be a little more personal when I ask for a free item on freecycle or craigslist and polite.
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It just made me laugh, geesh crazy woman. I told her they were taken and now she's *sad* and wants me to let her know if they don't get picked up. Who knew giving away stuff was such a hassle.

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That's so frustrating when that happens. It seems like nowadays on my local freecycle, everyone is asking for "big ticket" seemingly unnecessary items. (I might be wrong about the "unnecessary" part though.) I just can't seem to see why you would "need" a king sized water bed. Oh well. I've pretty much given up posting stuff on there to give away, because no matter how many responses of "I'm interested in x thing," no one wants to come get them.

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We don't have freecycle but we do have a local classifieds that you can list stuff for free... Whenever I list something I seem to get at least one person who is pushy and at least one that seems like they are doing me a favor by allowing me to give them something (one person actually wanted me to drive 45 minutes at 9pm to drop off bottles at her house). I tell them the items taken and leave it at that.. Occasionally I get someone who doesn't take no as an answer and I block their e-mail address.

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when i respond wanting something, i always say:

i would really love this!, or i really need one of these!

i could pick it up tonight or anytime this week as it works for you

hope to hear back from you!

do you think that's too pushy? as a sahm i DO have the freedom to pick things up immediately most of the time, so i've figured that might make me more likely to be the one picked......

although as far as i can tell, our freecycle has an unspoken rule of first come, first served
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I honestly think some people get freecycle posts sent right to an email address just for freecycle posts and have an auto reply set up so they are one of the first to reply just in case the item is something they could use or want.
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Yeah freecycle can be annoying. We have a woman who posts regularly (and gets banned just as often). She posts some sob story (lies) requesting items and then she turns around and sells them. She gave away a cat once saying her daughter was allergic and that it had shots and was spayed. The cat gave birth at the new owner's house the same week. The giver then posted a month later requesting a kitten for her daughter. Ugh she drives everyone crazy but it's hard to tell it's her until she gives her address.
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This is all a surprise to me. I have posted a few times on Freecycle, and had lots of replies, but just gave to the first one...pushy or not. I thought that was the fair thing to do.

My thought on the woman and the scrubs...? Maybe she is a single mother, has a situation where she REALLY needs some scrubs, and just can't afford to buy any. Desperation can make one sound pushy, also. (Just my initial gut reaction to all this)
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We don't have freecycle but we do have a local classifieds that you can list stuff for free... Whenever I list something I seem to get at least one person who is pushy and at least one that seems like they are doing me a favor by allowing me to give them something (one person actually wanted me to drive 45 minutes at 9pm to drop off bottles at her house)..
Yeah, I SO don't get that "will you deliver?" kind of thing. I had things posted on Craigslist and someone wanted me to bring over a free outdoor plastic playhouse about the same distance (45 minutes) and the tone was also like he/she was doing me a favor.

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I got really turned off of FC recently; I had posted a very nice backpack and got about 20 emails for it. The woman I chose told me that she was a nursing student, and she sounded really sincere about needing it without being obnoxious, kwim? 2 months later, I found another like-new backpack (I was a backpack hoarder for years ) and put it up on FC. The same lady emailed me immediately, with a slightly different story (same email addy, same first name). I wrote back and told her that I hoped the like-new Columbia backpack that I had given her 2 months ago was still useful and that I had already promised the 2nd one to someone else. She didn't respond. I don't like it that people lie to sound needy to get stuff from FC. It makes me wary of giving stuff vs. just donating to Goodwill.

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when i respond wanting something, i always say:

i would really love this!, or i really need one of these!

i could pick it up tonight or anytime this week as it works for you

hope to hear back from you!

do you think that's too pushy? as a sahm i DO have the freedom to pick things up immediately most of the time, so i've figured that might make me more likely to be the one picked......

although as far as i can tell, our freecycle has an unspoken rule of first come, first served
That's what I usually say...I could really use this, I'd love to receive this, etc. along with when I can pick up. I don't think those are rude.

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This is one more reason why I quit our local group. Now we just have swaps at our church.
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I've had great luck getting stuff, terrible luck giving stuff away. Makes me crazy when people don't show, or show and then decide it's not good enough for them.
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I always waited for at least a day before deciding to whom the item will go. First come, first serve is ok, but there are vultures that have nothing to do but sit around and pounce on any offer. This has happened so many times that I don't offer anything anymore.
I am one of those people that posts frequent wanteds. I'm a big believer in getting something second-hand, so if I need something (or even want something), like a jacket for the winter or a pair of boots, or a kid's wagon, I ask for that. I've seen people ask for furnishing for an entire house, plasma tv's, cars, boats, and ipods, though. I understand asking for computers if they're college students, but a lot of people do seem to be unrealistic about what's out there. I try to keep the request reasonable and very specific, and I used to offer as much as I asked for.
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I'm about to do a big purge and list things on FC, I both dread it and love it. I love giving things away to a new home, but I dread the poorly spelled, obnoxious emails that just say "I want this can you send me 5000 pictures and measurements and blah blah blah".

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No shows aren't really that big of a deal for me. I usually leave the item at the end of the driveway in a bag or plastic tote, so I don't have to actually come to the door or anything.

I honestly don't care if someone sells something they got from me on FC. If that's what they have to do to support themselves/their family, then good for them. If I wanted money for it, I could have sold it myself.
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I filled a wanted post for a karaoke machine. After a week of no showing she picked it up and then proceeded to email me "where did u get this it caught on fire I want to return it to the store." She totally scammed me out of a $50 karaoke machine. I get really fed up with freecycle sometimes...
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when i respond wanting something, i always say:

i would really love this!, or i really need one of these!

i could pick it up tonight or anytime this week as it works for you

hope to hear back from you!

do you think that's too pushy? as a sahm i DO have the freedom to pick things up immediately most of the time, so i've figured that might make me more likely to be the one picked......

although as far as i can tell, our freecycle has an unspoken rule of first come, first served
I appreciate responses like this when I list something. I have a hard time believing sob stories and I hate the curt responses like, "I want this item."

I specifically state in my offer that the item is for pick-up only and that anyone who is interested should respond with the time/date that they would like to come and get it. I don't give it to anyone who doesn't take the time to do this.

I'm also getting very impatient with no-shows. If you don't show up once, fine, if you don't show up a second time, leave me alone. I also don't like it when someone jumps to respond to an offer, then says they live out of town and can't pick up for two weeks. I'm not offering a layaway service, KWIM?

Geez, I sound like a real Freecycle hardass!

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There's a huge difference between "I could really use this bag of size 2X clothes. I can pick up as early as tomorrow morning, or at another time if it's more convenient for you." and a generic "I want this item."

In my years of using Freecycle, I only dropped off an item once. Somebody had posted a "wanted" for size 3X clothes, stating that she'd just had triplets and plus sized stuff fit her better than maternity clothes. I did a quick search and verified that she was, indeed, also asking for clothes for new newborn preemie triplets. I forget the exact details, but I remember getting the vibe that she truly needed these clothes and truly had a hard time coming out to get them, and she was less than a 5 minute drive from my house (plus it was more convenient for me to drop them off than to have them sit in my house longer.)

For everything else, I've had to pick up the items I wanted, and people have picked up the items they wanted from me.

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I prefer to donate my items & get the tax receipt instead of freecycle.

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