But I am not going to say that to him or it might go away! LOL
I have always been a declutterer and organized person but dh is the opposite so a few weeks ago I decided to approach him in a different way than I have in the past and it seems to have worked.
He is a paper keeper and pile-er so I sorted his piles into boxes. For example one pile of receipts, one pile of manuals, one pile of notes etc. I did not toss anything just sorted. Then the next time he asked to use my car to go surfing I said sure but only if you go through one box sometime this weekend
and he did without complaining about it. I told him to just put them into piles of his own toss, shred or file and I would do the rest. So the next time he wants to use my car he can do the next box! Yes I stooped to bargaining but at this point I don't care as it was getting out of hand.
He has now noticed how nice his desk is and how he can find everything so that gave him a boost. He has since hung up his surfboards with racks that I bought him and cleaned out the wood/junk pile in the backyard and dumped it! He is making a list each week of the things he wants to get done and actually does them.
I casually mention how such and such looks nice but not to enthusiastically or it might just scare him off.