Since we've moved back to my family land, my vision for our family has changed ... a LOT. Pre-move, I fully expected to retire from my job after another 20 or so years, have a little garden and a couple chickens, blah blah blah, typical story. But I'm really feeling called to work our land in a more intense way than I expected ... more than just a weekend gardener thing. I picked New Years Eve (I'm not known for my timing
) to tell him I wanted to talk about our plans for the future .... it seemed like a good idea at the time. He got really upset, said I wanted to just up and quit my job tomorrow (he's very much underemployed and planning to go back to school this year) and asked me if I wanted to "live off the grid and make our clothes out of tree bark." That really pissed me off, but we were able to go forward and have a really good discussion about where each one of us is at mentally RE our move.
Well today, dh was at the computer and I was sitting on the sofa with dd asleep on my chest, when he says to me, "You know what I said before about being off the grid? Well I'm looking at some stuff on www.lehmans.com
and homesteading looks pretty interesting. I think we'll really be able to do that."
You'd think I'd realize by now that if I just quietly leave a trail for dh and let him think he discovered *whatever* himself, that I'd get my point across a lot faster and with less stress.